So Which Is More Important?
When I was sitting at the foot of a guru....who was wonderful by the way, he used to always say, "Seriousness does not equal sincerity".I have watched and observed 'serious' people. I used to be one of them, to a degree. They have no innocence, no child-like enthusiasm (enthusiasm means 'in God'), no life. They are like frozen blocks of ice.
I watch people who are sincere. They love life. They are willing to be foolish and vulnerable and not predictable. They act as if authenticity is the highest virtue. I am aiming to be like them....but in my unique way. :)
I find that people who are themselves may have any number of 'disorders' or not, but they do not worry about how they look to others. They are happy in their own skin and they are willing to show themselves, no matter how un-perfect they may appear to be to others.
I love people who show up. I love people who lack pretense. I love people who don't give a crap what I or anyone else thinks of them. These are my hero/heroines.
The people who act as if they know everything about anything, the people who can't laugh at themselves and their idiocy, the people who constantly tell others how they ought be....those people bore the living bejeezus out of me. No thank you....move along.
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The love guru
And his ball gazer jokes...
ps...I love the word fiasco
But like you, I like real, solid, sincere people who enjoy life, can laugh at life and at themselves, and don't take themselves too seriously.
Life is for living.
But then there are people like Free and yourself that can turn that fiasco into life....
ps ~love the antonym of fiasco
Wanna date?
It was awful.
I do still get flashbacks, but I think, I hope, I've got a handle on the situation.
And to pose your question in another way, do I by default trust people who I find likable? No, because the world is full of con artists. How confident or charismatic or entertaining a person is has no bearing on whether I consider them sincere. And likewise if someone is adult or boring or professional or serious I don't write them off as insincere.
I at least try to challenge the assumptions of my reptilian hindbrain and instead listen to the rational prefrontal cortex.