what if he says he loves you but his profile is st
another dilemma for me with online dating. he tells you he loves you and yet his profile is still up?what are the rules? in a normal dating scenario, if one says he loves you then we assume said person will not be looking for another and will just focus on you (correct me if i am wrong). - how does this translate to online dating? when someone you havent met but have been in touch with every day for months and finally says he loves you yet, his profile is still out there. is this acceptable? should we then assume that he is still looking despite the fact? what is acceptable? i took off mine but decided to reinstate when i realised his is still up there.
online dating seems like the new frontier for some. myself included. when real time dating is already a challenge - online dating seems like the heart of the amazon jungle to the uninitiated. there doesnt seem to be any rules (or none that i could find) and things get easily confused or misconstrued. you could just as easily plunge into a ravine for not knowing where to look. what signs to look for? is it really worth it?
should we ask him why his prof is still active? or is it even worth a mention?
dazed and confused.
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Then after two months, he told me he thought he was falling in love with me..We met, fireworks flew and he claimed he was in heaven to see me and talked about the future..Well guess what?
After another two more months and we had become physical, he started going on the dating site more and lied to me telling me he wasnt seeing other women or interested in anyone else. He kept his dating profile up and for 2 years he strung me along while chasing other women..I confronted him about leaving his profile up and how he was on there at all hours of the night and going on his "web cam" too..He said "what proof do you have I am seeing other women" ??
Ok well during that time he also changed his profile a couple of times still saying he was looking..But I held in there hoping he was telling me the truth..Come to find out, the guy was LYING..
This is the risk you take when you allow a guy your seeing to keep seeing you while he has a dating profile up.
I wont do it again, no matter what a guy says to me..
A guy can still make another profile on another dating site you know..One of my friends met a guy on another dating site, he told her he loved her and to delete her profile..she did and he also deleted his profile on "that site"..He had more than one profile up on different dating sites though that he did not tell her about..The fool contacted me on another dating site, not knowing I knew his girlfriend..lol..He sent me a flirt and said he wanted to take me on a date..I recognized his photo and contacted my friend..My friend got angry at him and the guy tried to lie to her saying I contacted him first..I had proof of who contacted who first and showed it to her..Funny thing is as a female we are told to trust, nuture, love, ect..Now that the internet is full of dating sites, my trust level is very low.
Including my own experience with falling in love with a guy who played me for fool.
I personally wont exclusively date "one" man at a time untill I get to know the true guy and find out he can be trusted..Falling in love too soon and trusting too soon can make serious mistakes, including heartache.
If he wants to be dishonest with you he can do it a thousand different ways.....just make sure that he knows that YOU are NOT waiting around for him either. Make sure that he is wondering about you also....and make him sweat a little. In other words do not care as much and do not come across as so dependable
I am now curious though, did you ever meet the guy who said he loves you? Or was it just chatting online here?
So many troughs over a guy you haven't met yet. He's could be a total turn off irl. If not, then take it from there.
But I would be more worried about that fact he's saying that he loves you..nice to hear, but lets be realistic her.