To be Liked or Respected? Is there a Difference?
Not an easy question to answer i feel.
What would you rather be, Liked or Respected?
I believe you can Like someone without Respecting them, and Respect someone without Liking them.
Example, whilst i respect that each and all of us have a right to an opinion, that doesnt mean i like it or even respect you for having it, i just respect your right to have one.
Do i like Gordonski?, mmm let me ponder that thought for a sec, Not sure, but i do like his blogs, Now do i respect Gordonski?, Thats easier to answer, YES, i respect that he has an ability to write well and has a talent for doing so, I also respect that he calls a spade a spade and is not backward in coming forward. I also respect that in the few comments we have shared, we have been polite and courteous to each other.
Now i have used Gordonski as an example only.
Some people i respect, (just to name a few)
Gordonski, Teddy, Nessa, Elmo, Backintolight, Shay, Serenity (Red), Goldenhinde, Coffemix, Jac, Frankenstein, Cherriebabe, (nearly forgot you) Maddog, LonelyMontse08, Musicfreak, Virgo, Cyn_Real, Saskia and Jana amongst others, for varying reasons
Now for people i like,(again, just to name a few)
Nessa, Serenity, Teddy, Shay, Nonsmoker, Musicfreak, Goldenhinde, Rob747, Backintolight, Halfavag, Waf, LonelyMontse08, Parti, Cherriebabe (jezz nearly missed you again
)amongst others,
Now a name may appear on both lists, that would only be due to the fact that i have got to know those ppl better, Then there are some on one list but not the other, that may be due to the fact i dont know them as well as some.
Now if your name does not appear on either list, that does not mean that i dislike or disrespect you, it just means that i do not think of or about you as much or at all.
I may have even forgot to include your name. To me there is a difference between like and respect, i can respect you but not like you and i can like you, but not respect you.
To me, i'd rather be respected. Of course if i could be liked and respected at the same time, that would be ok.
It is love we all seek, but to be loved, one must first be respected, not liked.
Just my opinion.
Comments (65)
well you may that look easy....
So wish would you prefer? to be liked or respected?
You know how highly i think of you.
It is I who should thank you for allowing me to have you on both lists. (in allowing me to know you better)
and people I know are sometimes disrespectful
so I don't really know my friend
As to respect - I can only receive what I give, therefore I treat others with the respect they deserve.
why doesnt anything you say surprise me.
You are just a softy at heart and just want to be loved just as we all do.
really thoughtful stuff there my friend, surely you would want the respect of others as that is something we can all earn, to be liked though is at times a passing feeling.
unfortunately you are right, until we get too know someone better it is hard to know if we should like or respect them.
sorry my dear, but it is about time it was revealed that you are not to be scared of or taken for granted either for that matter...
But you know that i do both respect and like you.
and there is nothing you can do to change that.....
i guess we would all like to be respected and that we would all like to be treated as we treat others, As for ppl liking you, maybe it is some qualities that you possess that makes ppl like you.
Although there are some that make it hard to like them, but still have our respect.
I guess we all prefer to have ppl close to us in real life, but does that mean we cannot like/respect some that are online, i am sure that some here (myself included) like and respect you. And i think you like some here as well.
take care.
But, wait, I get'No Respect'? Now, I feel like Rodney Dangerfield, the late great comedian. As he would say...
"Hey, I get no respect.. for Christmas I gave my kid a b-b gun. He gave me a t-shirt with a target on the back. lol. I tell ya, I get no respect.
My wife, she's no different. She wont drink out of the same cup as me, but she'll kiss the dog on the mouth.. I tell ya, no respect. lol.
When we were dating, I called her, she said come over, nobody's home. So, I went over, and nobody was home." lol
Again, thanks Simmo. I always appreciate your friendship and blogs.
give it your best shot, but you may have to rub them better ok...
Nah not even that.
>>> virtual kiss/hug
>>> real kiss/hug
do not despair my friend, as i have said maybe you are not on both lists as yet because i do not know you as well as others.
I do however respect your ability to bring a smile to the mugs (faces) of many here and no doubt many in real life.
You are one of the few here who remain true to yourself and cause no disrespect to others.
you shall be in the respect list sooner than you can say superkalafragalisticespielladochis.......
which would i prefer......
of course i would like a real kiss, but seeing as you are there and i am here and we both have partners, a virtual kiss from you would do.
Now put your lips to the screen and away we go,
there a virtual kiss between us.....
As for the Broccoli thats all gone.
I hear Pumpkin soup is good for the love life....not sure, but thats what i hear.
Have a fun day Simmo!
you too Rob....dont be a stranger ok.
There is still a spot on the list that is open.
which reminds me, my ex wife once said she had a soft spot for me...i said oh dear thats nice, she said yeah, it's called the swamp.....
Shhh cherriebabe, you need say nothing ok....
thank you for that,
sure beats getting beaten up and all the mushy stuff eh?
hey yours ain't half bad either.
Good self esteem is my friend and will never harm me...unlike some of those who claim to respect me.
yes i can cook, why does that surprise you?
I have raised 3 children (who are not self sufficient adults) on my pat malone. (by myself).
again you are so right.
But you have failed to answer some of my questions to you.
I have no hidden agenda on here other to have a good time and maybe, just maybe make some good friends.
awwww please say something,.... please.....pretty please......pretty please with sugar on top.....
Whilst i was not aware of the role change, i have left a comment for you on your blog.
I am sorry that you saw fit to change your view of my role, but i am nonetheless still humbled by your giving me such a part.
I say that sincerely.
you really should try Pumpkin soup. You never know, it just may improve your love life as they say.
The lovely lady,
How could i have ever forgotten you, i should be ashamed of myself, in fact i am.
You my sweet are in both lists, i shall make that amendment now.
How are you, it has been so long since i have seen or heard from you.
All going well i trust.
it easy to see why you are on both lists,
Polite, caring, courteous, and wiser than your years suggest.
look after yourself ok.
To be popular I'd have to kiss everybodys rear end. Nope not me,I'd rather be unpopular. That way at least I'll have my self respect in tact.