Who Pays?

I would prefer paying for myself so I don't feel obligated to spend the whole time with him if I don't like him within the first day. Think offering to pay half would be nice and fair to both when meeting the first time.

I'd buy my own round trip ticket plus a hotel room just in case the first meeting going sour.

Doing well, Angel

A woman I know in UK was arguing that the man should offer to pay or no go, so I threw up this blog to get other opinions

It depends on what 2 people want and it's something that shows very much what people are looking for.

I would pay myself and if the guy would come to me, I would expect him to pay his own way.

Someone wanting money for visiting - they want to be financially looked after in general IMO.

He who travels, pays.

Some people believe that somebody else should always pick up the tab for their lives.

But that isn't correct.


Even if it doesn't work out, you still have a holiday in a different country to look forward to .

Sol, what you say it true...when 2 people decide to meet they are expecting or hoping to begin something together, even though sometimes, things go south once they meet. But then, things can go south at any time, like 20 years after marriage It is nice for the man to offer to pay for the accommodations, however. The woman doesn't have to accept, can stay in her own room if she chooses.

Hi prescious
i would expect him to offer to pay
(and actually mean it)
but for a finish i myself would pay my own way.. but that being said if i were in her shoes i doubt i'd travel to see him when finances are already an issue.

Im not a believer in long distance however, i know you can't knock all things on the head without at least a try... but from where i'm thinking i'm begining to wonder,is the possibilty of a relationship even visible?

But thats just me and i like what molly has said...
if nothing else comes of it, she will have a good holiday.

Hi precious, I am thinking 50/50 as it is a mutual meeting for the benefit of both of them.
But... Being old fashioned I believe the guy should offer. Though not everyone is in a position to pay.
I guess it all boils down to how much you like each other to what you would do.
I can understand everyone's opinion though and maybe none is right or wrong, just what works for you.

Thinking about it many years ago I did pay to go to Germany when a guy who I had only met once then wrote to me for a long time invited me. I then stayed at his parents home where he still lived. It didn't occur to me to ask him to pay.
Had a wonderful time there great holiday... But NO... Wasn't meant to be. But glad I went.

Hi, Pretty;

My humble thought: It's accordding to the desire of meeting who is stronger and the future expectation of them. if a woman had to visit him at first under his inviting, man pays first sounds like he is more sincere on their meeeting...but of course woman brings some money with her is also reasonable. There is no free in this world, all in all,who pays more and who pays less that is the matter.

Have a nice day!

Follow CS rules. NEVER send anyone money. Never buy someone a plane ticket because they can sell it. Such has been known to happen.

Way I see it, you want to go to them, you pay. They want to go to you, they pay. First visit is always just a tourist Visa anyway with requirements and time limits. If someone does not meet the legal requirements for a Visa, maybe the other person should take warning from that?

If money is your criteria for being with someone, then so be it. Read their profile and only email the (liars) who say they are rich. :)

Iatowoo, I have never belonged to the UK,ever. Never been there in my life...

Ken, smart guy with good answers