The times they r a'changing

and so am I.

To remember, here is a blog from Usha: she can love whoever she wants to and makes it work. But nobody should know!


A match made in heaven!!!

During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?" confused

The speaker then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" dunno

Here's the answer. professor

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.
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People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet."Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU. doh grin

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship. blues uncertain

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. conversing very mad hug

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.sigh moping

The key to succeeding in a relationship is NOT finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found. heart beating

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it. wow wow

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. scold comfort

Because...........

The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a "DECISION". Not just a feeling.
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OMG!!! Why am I sharing relationship advice with singles????

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Ok, when you find the wrong partner you can still love him/her perfectly and try making it last.
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Wish everyone a blessed week!!!!!!
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Ich grüße dich

Dir auch einen guten wochenstartcheers
very good blog Guandal...

Now that I am in a relationship... your tips are useful thumbs up
crying too long to read..crying
but no, it is not my blog!
it's USHA's!
Is it against the rules to write someone elses stuff?
wine
What's wrong with her? Can't post the blog....
it is copied and pasted....
Hi Amorn,

Usha posted that blog on Dec 7, 2014. Capri is correct Guadal. You cannot post someone else's blog!
“Love is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgment and decision.”
? Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving
Are you now in love, Guadal?
Guadal in love??? Wow... New thing but great news for me..banana
Wishful thinking, you can not Love whoever you wantwine
see him, love him, leave him....


Kaldal,
at least, I'm not in love with a dog at the moment...handshake
Are you a happy person, Guadal? hmmm
who is always happy? confused
I dont know.. dunno
It's just I found your response to my question strange. When you simply could say yes or no, but no. Instead, you answered it that way. And you even called me Kaldal. Hm.. hmmm
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