MAN 'OH' PAUSE....

Last night my best woman friend tells me she asked her husband for a divorce after 17 years. She is a very athletic woman who runs 50 mile races, so being in her early 50's she has starting the process of menopause. We use to discuss it a lot because usually women get it by the time they're 51. And many now are getting it younger and younger. I know a woman 38 is going through it now. But my friend never got it and didn't show any signs, we chalked it up to her extreme physical fitness.

I've experienced many women getting divorced in the 45-49 age group, even celebrities who have been together for years, but always around that age number. It appears to me that woman (who never forget anything)bring all the negative items from the beginning of the relationship to the forefront. The man is overwhelmed he doesn't know what's wrong, turn right, turn left, he is very My brother in law who has the patience of a saint said to me that he couldn't live with my sister anymore as she was going through menopause. I told him to hang in there it will get better and explained in a little more detail the hormonal imbalance that was occurring. He survived, because he is a saint. ALL others have succumbed to this natural event.

The part that disturbs me (and I'm a victim of this as well) is lack of knowledge about what is occurring in the body of the woman. Most of us realize that we may get moody or annoyed when we're tired or hungry, but changing the chemical balance inside our bodies is a whole new dilemma. One hundred years ago (in America) the average age of a woman was 48. Ah just in time before the crisis unfolds..now with the lifespan much longer man gets to see it all.. This is the time that man needs to use but two phrases, YES DEAR, AND I UNDERSTAND.....chances increase substantially.

I had another friend who use to carry her portable fan everywhere and used it all the time..(hot flashes)
another woman had to change her PJ's three times a night they were totally soaked......this is a major major change and many not as much a change of life as for many relationships a change to death....almost every pharmaceutical company is working on a drug to relieve and reduce the symptoms but like alzheimers the pathologies are almost unique to every body.....so once again another place where education would be most helpful.....oh by the way men also experience this hormonal change and it's called andropause....