Hi all!! Maybe the video here will help many under
Although Kim is speaking of a one on one relationship this video works as well for our resident narc. The more you feed the beast the better the beast enjoys it. I pray for her and the narcs that I've know. It's not their fault, their soul has been compromised.https://letmereach.com/2016/10/13/things-narcissists-dont-want-you-to-know/
I realise it's very hard to understand if you've never had the 1 on 1 contact with a narc, but it's as real as..wait let me think of a comparable ...Trump and Hillary.....both with compromised souls....
It's a ten minute video (from a narc's perspective) that will be invaluable to all of you in your lives...
No empaths or enablers needed
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Thanks, little Miss Sunshine
Tough situation your in /(were in) but you handled it to perfection...
Since I am prone to attract these type of guys, I just don't date. I will know when the right guy comes along and if he's good for me. If this doesn't happen, I'll stay by myself.
I am great
no complains my friend
really nice to see you and your blogs
Since I allowed that guy into my life and everything happened, afterwards I started reading up on it. I also get all kind of good reading about it on Facebook.
The best thing anybody can do is educate themselves on the matter so they know what to look out for. For some, that won't even do....they will still let the person consume their life and that's just sad.
I left the dad of my daughter 10 years ago because he has a narcissistic personality disorder. It took a long time until I really understood that such people haven´t developed all the good social mechanisms that are the base for empathy and understanding. It took such a long time that I understood that he will never be able to understand. He thinks his world is "normal", and I think he is not "normal". There is indeed only the way to walk away. I remember when I walked away, he sold all my things, but let me come believing I can pick them up, but stood in an empty room with my friends who wanted to help me carry things.
Because I grew up with parents who loved each other, I tried always to make it possible that my daughter and he could develop a kind of good relationship, but he was not interested. It is as if a child has for him no own personality and should never have one. To tell a long story short: my daughter is twelve now. She is so dear and smart, and she has a backbone and is so social. The older she became, the less they met because she does not react to the mean mechanisms of him (making her feeling guilty and such things), and of course a child feels if someone is behaving like an adult or puts himself at the same level as the child (what he does). I am so glad that we always talk about everything.
There is not much contact any more. It is for a narcissist terrible, I think, when he is not admired any more. So he stayed away simply. He didn´t call for almost 9 months now.
My daughter´s birthday was last Saturday. For the first time he didn´t call or sent a present. Yesterday I was in the bank. My daughter had asked me to bring a statement of her bank account. There was a payment from him. He wired 1 Cent with the reference or purpose Happy birthday. It was also a few days too late. I am sure, it made him feel good and he thinks my daughter deserves that. So insane can a narcissist be. And it is useless to think long about such disgusting behaviour. I am glad that we have the possibility to simply not react (that is what we will do). And the birthday of my daughter was nice. We all in our family love her very much and she knows that.
for people, and is also entitled to an opinion, isn't she?
I know you well enough to know what your problem is and you should know me well enough to know what next to expect from me.