I'm lonely, BUT...

I agree with you mimi even though i am a male i have decided that it is better to be alone than get involved with the wrong person again. However yes it is lonely at times and there are things and places that are awkward going to on your own and yes it is better when there is two. But it is not worth the emotional pain when it all goes wrong. Knowing yourself and understanding why we think and act like we do can be very liberating many people i know both male and female feel that they need to be with someone and their lives are no happier than mine. You can be in a relationship and still be lonely.

Hi Mimi.

You are a strong woman, because many people will not admit how they feel, and express their humanity.

Yes, it is better to live alone than with the wrong man. However, I learned after my first marriage that there is no 'right' partner for us. Every person constantly changes as they age and experience life. The person we were at 20 years old, is no longer the person we are now, and this is the same for every other person we meet.

So we can only choose someone who we think is right now, knowing that what is 'now' will change in the future, just as we continue to change.

I am now 3 years married to a Chinese woman. She is very good for me, yet at the same time, our marriage can be difficult because we are each individual personalities, with our unique desires, dreams, needs, wants, and ideas. So our happiness is dependent on our choice to accept each other as we are in this moment. And to accept each other in every moment even as we change. This is what keeps us together in soul and in heart.

Some moments are better than other moments, and we focus on all of them together, so that we remember our good times, and choose not to remember our bad times.

This is our secret to happiness. To think about good things, good times, moments that little things bring happiness to our hearts.

I know how you are feeling, having been very lonely myself. I also know that even surrounded by people and family, I was also lonely as you say.

But I decided not to look for my perfect wife, but to look for my accepting wife so that our life together could be happy not only now, but for every day after. Because I knew we would change from the people we were when we married, and she is now not the same woman as then, and I am not the same man as then.

But we are still in love, committed, and happy together - yes, even when we annoy each other with our own unique annoying habits and personality flaws.

Keep on being strong, Mimi. Keep focusing on good things, pleasant things, and this will help when you feel lonely. I really hope that you can find a man who you love and who loves you in the ways that you need to be loved, so that you do not feel lonely any more.

....oops *Mimi. :)

Same here Mimi..but always best alone than with the wrong person..