What To Expect When One Is "Menopausing" ?

Been There, Done That ?

According to Wikipedia:

Menopause, also known as the climacteric, is the time in most women's lives when menstrual periods stop permanently, and they are no longer able to have children , a natural change that typically occurs between 45 and 55 years of age. It can occur earlier in those who smoke tobacco. Other causes include surgery that removes both ovaries, or some types of chemotherapy. At the physiological level, menopause happens because of a decrease in the ovaries' production of the hormones estrogen and progesterone.

Symptoms:

* Dyspareunia is painful s*xual intercourse due to medical or psychological causes. The pain can primarily be on the external surface of the genitalia, or deeper in the pelvis upon deep pressure against the cervix. It can affect a small portion of the vulva or va*ina or be felt all over the surface

* Vaginal dryness

* Atrophic vaginitis (also known as vaginal atrophy, vulvovaginal atrophy, or urogenital atrophy) is an inflammation of thevagina (and the outer urinary tract) due to the thinning and shrinking of the tissues, as well as decreased lubrication. These symptoms are due to a lack of the reproductive hormone estrogen.

Other physical symptoms of menopause include: lack of energy, joint soreness, stiffness, back pain, breast enlargement, breast pain, heart palpitations, headache, dizziness, dry, itchy skin, thinning, tingling skin, weight gain, urinary incontinence, urinary urgency, interrupted sleeping patterns, heavy night sweats, hot flashes.

Psychological symptoms include: anxiety, poor memory, inability to concentrate, depressive mood, irritability,mood swings,less interest in s*xual activity.

Yes, Yes, we all know about menopause...doh laugh

This blog is not to educate others about menopause...as I haven't experienced it yet...not looking forward to it tho! 'Was sitting with friends yesterday and this topic came up. Most of my friends here in Jordan are either going through menopause or were already there. Symptoms they are going/went through are exactly what I read about on the internet and books but in most "s*xual" topics here on blogs and forum, many women who are past the menopausal age claimed to be "hotter" after menopause...this is contradicting science and what I've heard from those who went through it ...makes me wonder if they're simply BSing and "wet dreaming" here ?doh Many here claimed to be very sexually active after menopause...more than ever and looking for a nicely packaged hot tall, dark and handsome man who has all the right qualities...won't settle for less than great sex...seriously?dunno laugh

Here is a great place to read and learn from the experiences of others but it seems many here are in denial of their decline and failures in life...who are we kidding ?dunno

Most of my friends who are going through menopause or been there said that they're no longer interested in dating...menopause makes them feel sexually unattractive and "old". This doesn't make me look forward to my menopausal days at alldoh

For the men:

Would you date a woman who's going through menopause and experiencing those symptoms above ?
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I forgot Molly, yes eating properly....but after MP the bone density decreases because metabolism also decreases that leads to more bone loss. Like the article I gave to Z, you have to increase your calcium intake at MP just to keep up with what your body is normally doing.....
I forgot Molly, yes eating properly....but after MP the bone density decreases because metabolism also decreases that leads to more bone loss. Like the article I gave to Z, you have to increase your calcium intake at MP just to keep up with what your body is normally doing.....
CH, if you don't believe bloggers are real, what is the point in posting blogs in the first place?
Dr Robertapplause

So what's your best advise for those going through difficult times in their life?conversing
@biff/@all

Of course yes... for the simple reason that you (and many others) are talking absolute rubbish. What you folk are claiming is totally against every miserable shred of medical evidence out there.

It's one thing staying positive and it's quite an other feeding youselves lies in denial.

dunno
Sands, I eat plenty of calcium rich food so I'm not worried.
Well I'm off to bed now as it's past my bedtime and I have a hot guy waiting for me in my bed.

Hopefully he's still awake and ready for me.smitten love

As for the scientific guys here..go back to your research maybe it needs some updating.grin
oh dear, Sands, I'm afraid that Pedalguy had it right when he said that our brains turn to jelly, I simply cannot find the article re magnesium. I know I saw it first on FB. I just found this, but it goes nowhere near what I wanted to convey;

To everyone else, (particularly Tenner) don't believe everything that medical science proclaims, they are in it for the big bucks, despite what you may think.

CH, you are being very cruel. I know for a fact that many of the women here are not false, or liars, as you are insinuating, we are simply giving you the benefit of our experiences. Yes, most of us are European, perhaps that counts! Elegsabiff is not still suffering from menopausal symptoms, she is merely rightfully angry at you for presuming too much. And YES, I am real, not false & because I have never commented on one of your blogs before it does NOT make me false! There are many people on CS who know that I am real!
Molly, "I personally would prefer somebody who is with me through the bad as well as the good times, as I would be for him." Ha!! sure you would, but once you've experienced it it's like a bad dream and you don't want to go back to sleep for fear of dreaming again.......grin
@Jam/@baby


science is science.. it's objective, pure and untainted. snooty
Sands, maybe I am just made of tougher stuff than yougrin
Sands - I'm not going to fight with you because you gave me a lovely review hug but you're talking through your hat, darling. Look for a gorgeous woman who has got the spring back in her step and come back and tell us all about it. When you have your breath back. grin

Michelle Pfeiffer is looking pretty good. You'd make a good couple.
get real, Paul, science is not all it is cracked up to be! We women have more than proved some of their 'theories' wrong tonight in this blog!
Molly, I'm sure you are....you do live in Ireland, where the weather makes you who you are.....tongue
Tenner - stupidity is stupidity. It is incurable unless, like alcoholism, you admit you have a problem and take the first step. No-one can force you to think, but if you really, really want to try - who knows? Maybe you can.
Yeah Sands, we really suffer here roll eyes


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@Jam Awww it is you!hug

Yes, vitamin D is huge for cancer to!

How's the 6' heels? laughwink Apparently after a certain age people think we should put them away?roll eyeslaugh

Nice to see you again. Hope you are well!bouquet
or..................look at the weather girl....she looks totally freightenedrolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing

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Sands, Evelyn is a meteorologist, not a 'weather girl'
Only joking Jamthumbs up My first comment says it all.
doh I didn't know her by name, my bad....dunno
Yeah, Evelyn the weather girl.laugh
It's not her name that matters, Sands. She is a meteorologist not a little 'weather girl'
rolling on the floor laughing So you take longerlaugh no rushconversing
M. I knew where you were coming from, but I was to lazy to type, here in America we have been known to refer to that person as 'The Weather Girl'cheers
You go girl! hug
That was the seventies Sandsrolling on the floor laughing
Peds, I would hope so roll eyes

People don't do years at university to be called weather girls
P, that's probably the last time I saw a weather forcast on TV. I don't watch the news/weather.....I use my phone for my weather, Hmmmm!!! I do have Siri, even though she's not a 'weather girl'laugh
Sands sigh did you read past that bit? Didja? Tell me you did. That you "heard" me. Then I can go to bed.
Absolutely, no disagreement there, it's an unfortunate period (no Pun)in time....good night Biff.....wave
Biff, sleep well and I hope tomorrow goes smoothly for you.

Remember, deep breathes and imagine you are already there enjoying it hug
Molly, trust me, it's a whole new world/game when this event rears it head......for some people.......it's actually overwhelming for the male to discern what's going on...tomorrow night we will discuss Andropause, which is the male form of (MP).....wave past your bedtime M.....
Good night. wave yawn sleep

Must remember to put my sunglasses pic up. I shall miss you lot liar
Molly - okay grin cool
Sands, the important thing you said there is 'for some people '.
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Molly,

Sometimes it can be disappointing to post a blog when you feel like people are not being themselves...I'm open and honest, not expecting the same from others here...but sometimes it's a little difficult to take what they write seriously...in general
Music.

Good to know you're preparing for it...I'll be doing the same. Good and correct information will certainly help us cope better. Denying it won't help...will only make us feel grumpier uh oh
Piece,

Good to see you backgrin

Hot flushes...how hot was it?confused
Ash,

So you've been there,,done that...survived the hot flushes...any increase in libido?conversing
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