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How do we learn to trust after bad relationships
I have been pondering this for a long time , I would like some advice from you all , my past bad relationships have left me with this problem, learning to trust again I know there are good guys out there but I haven't meet one yet, and thats the truth, I have either been ript off or just used, sorry to say, so that is one reason I stayed single for so long, any ideas 
So sick of drugs!!!!
Has anybody else been troubled by the use of drugs by a loved one? This poem always reminds me of my ex and his struggles with the devils drug:
Take Me in Your Arms
(Miss Heroin)
So now, little man, you've grown tired of grass
LSD, goofballs, cocaine and hash,
and someone, pretending to be a true friend,
said, "I'll introduce you to Miss Heroin."
Well honey, before you start fooling with me,
just let me inform you of how it will be.
For I will seduce you and make you my slave,
I've sent men much stronger than you to their graves.
You think you could never become a disgrace,
and end up addicted to Poppy seed waste.
So you'll start inhaling me one afternoon,
you'll take me into your arms very soon.
And once I've entered deep down in your veins,
The craving will nearly drive you insane.
You'll swindle your mother and just for a buck.
You'll turn into something vile and corrupt.
You'll mug and you'll steal for my narcotic charm,
and feel contentment when I'm in your arms.
The day, when you realize the monster you've grown,
you'll solemnly swear to leave me alone.
If you think you've got that mystical knack,
then sweetie, just try getting me off your back.
The vomit, the cramps, your gut tied in knots.
The jangling nerves screaming for one more shot.
The hot chills and cold sweats, withdrawal pains,
can only be saved by my little white grains.
There's no other way, and there's no need to look,
for deep down inside you know you are hooked.
You'll desperately run to the pushers and then,
you'll welcome me back to your arms once again.
And you will return just as I foretold!
I know that you'll give me your body and soul.
You'll give up your morals, your conscience, your heart.
And you will be mine until, "Death Do Us Part"
Author Anonymous
Take Me in Your Arms
(Miss Heroin)
So now, little man, you've grown tired of grass
LSD, goofballs, cocaine and hash,
and someone, pretending to be a true friend,
said, "I'll introduce you to Miss Heroin."
Well honey, before you start fooling with me,
just let me inform you of how it will be.
For I will seduce you and make you my slave,
I've sent men much stronger than you to their graves.
You think you could never become a disgrace,
and end up addicted to Poppy seed waste.
So you'll start inhaling me one afternoon,
you'll take me into your arms very soon.
And once I've entered deep down in your veins,
The craving will nearly drive you insane.
You'll swindle your mother and just for a buck.
You'll turn into something vile and corrupt.
You'll mug and you'll steal for my narcotic charm,
and feel contentment when I'm in your arms.
The day, when you realize the monster you've grown,
you'll solemnly swear to leave me alone.
If you think you've got that mystical knack,
then sweetie, just try getting me off your back.
The vomit, the cramps, your gut tied in knots.
The jangling nerves screaming for one more shot.
The hot chills and cold sweats, withdrawal pains,
can only be saved by my little white grains.
There's no other way, and there's no need to look,
for deep down inside you know you are hooked.
You'll desperately run to the pushers and then,
you'll welcome me back to your arms once again.
And you will return just as I foretold!
I know that you'll give me your body and soul.
You'll give up your morals, your conscience, your heart.
And you will be mine until, "Death Do Us Part"
Author Anonymous
What do I want?
I want the impossible. Someone who will never lie to me, no matter how uncomfortable the truth is. Who wants to be with me just because. I want someone to laugh with and walk with. I don't want to be their life, but a big part of it. I don't mind being a part of theirs, but I don't want to be a section of it.I don't need someone to make me whole...I'm already whole.I'm like a vase maybe, empty but sufficient,although a matching pair is far more valuable, and the love would fill us.I don't expect a smooth journey and sunshine always.I know that you need rain for the sun to spread a glorious rainbow. If it's worth having, it's worth working for.
The guide for all men (just 4 laugh)
WOMEN’S LANGUAGE TRANSLATED
Yes = No
No = Yes
Maybe = No
I’m sorry. = You’ll be sorry.
We need... = I want
It’s your decision = The correct decision should be obvious by now.
Do what you want... = You’ll pay for this later.
We need to talk... = I need to complain
Sure...go ahead = I don’t want you to.
I’m not upset = Of course I’m upset, you moron!
This kitchen is so inconvenient = I want a new house.
I want new curtains = ...and carpeting, and furniture, and wallpaper.....
Hang the picture there = NO, I mean hang it there!
I heard a noise = I noticed you were almost asleep.
Do you love me? = I’m going to ask for something expensive.
How much do you love me? = I did something today you’re really not going to like.
I’ll be ready in a minute = Kick off your shoes and find a good game on TV.
Am I fat? = Tell me I’m beautiful.
You have to learn to communicate. = Just agree with me.
Are you listening to me!? = Too late, you’re dead.
Was that the baby? = Why don’t you get out of bed and walk him until he goes to sleep.
I'm not yelling! = Yes I am yelling because I think this is important.
Nothing = Everything
Nothing, really = It’s just that you’re such an idiot!
Yes = No
No = Yes
Maybe = No
I’m sorry. = You’ll be sorry.
We need... = I want
It’s your decision = The correct decision should be obvious by now.
Do what you want... = You’ll pay for this later.
We need to talk... = I need to complain
Sure...go ahead = I don’t want you to.
I’m not upset = Of course I’m upset, you moron!
This kitchen is so inconvenient = I want a new house.
I want new curtains = ...and carpeting, and furniture, and wallpaper.....
Hang the picture there = NO, I mean hang it there!
I heard a noise = I noticed you were almost asleep.
Do you love me? = I’m going to ask for something expensive.
How much do you love me? = I did something today you’re really not going to like.
I’ll be ready in a minute = Kick off your shoes and find a good game on TV.
Am I fat? = Tell me I’m beautiful.
You have to learn to communicate. = Just agree with me.
Are you listening to me!? = Too late, you’re dead.
Was that the baby? = Why don’t you get out of bed and walk him until he goes to sleep.
I'm not yelling! = Yes I am yelling because I think this is important.
Nothing = Everything
Nothing, really = It’s just that you’re such an idiot!
watch how you type
i guess you can't tell some one you like their profile alot or they think your psyco and and they go hide!!
Another virtually sleepless night
I've had it on good authority that menopause is the main culprit and apparently there's 2 or 3 more years of this to go before it mercifully ceases...
Where are you?
Just curious to where you (as in whover is reading this) is from....
I am in the uk, out in the sticks....kinda nice now the weather is picking up :) Good time to get camera out :)
Debs
I am in the uk, out in the sticks....kinda nice now the weather is picking up :) Good time to get camera out :)
Debs
Vanity Fair and City II (19)
Some really disgusting people set traps for me and I am so foolish that I jump into these traps. I am always the loser in such kind of games.
I posted some advertisements for my former landlord, so each day I got eight or nine phone calls asking about the apartments. And off work I brought them to see the apartments, in the hope that they would take a fancy to one of these apartments, so that I could get paid.
But it is not easy to be a “house seller”. They are so picky.
Room 1:
“Oh my god! This room is so small! How can I bring my refrigerator in?” One of the potential renters complained unsatisfied. “Are there any other bigger room?”
Yes of course. So I brought him to ---
Room 2:
“Well, this room is ok. The room is large. The wall is white. The balcony is big. I like it. How much it costs per month?” This time the potential renter nodded his head.
“1500RMB per month.” I said.
“1500!” He shouted exaggeratedly, staring at me unbelievably as if I was a monster. “Too expensive! That room is just 800RMB but this one is 1500…”
“Well, that one is small so…”I shrugged my shoulders.
I guess all of those potential renters are older than me, but it is rather ridiculous that their thinking is so naïve.
“That one is too small and this one is too expensive…”He still complained like a talkative parrot. “Are there any rooms which are larger but cheaper?”
“Well there are some larger and cheaper rooms but they are not in these business centers. They are in those far remote areas. If you don’t mind spending two hours on a bus per day you can live there!” I answered.
And the most repellent one is this cheeky man.
He called me and we fixed time and place. I ran there and waited and waited but he never appeared. I called him and he laughed out loudly.
“Hey baby! I just made a joke! Do you really believe it?” He laughed ironically.
“Made a joke? Do you have a lot of telephone bills?” Fire nearly burned out of my heart.
“Ha ha!! So funny! I am so happy to see you so angry!” he sneered.
Oh! I hated him! I hated him! I hated him!
“Go to hell!” I was so angry that I must lose my mind---I threw my mobile phone. Only when the mobile phone left my hand did I realize that what I threw was not his mobile phone. It was my own mobile phone…
Well, calm down. All right. I have jumped into a trap. But I am sure I can jump out. Nothing can really trap me.
I posted some advertisements for my former landlord, so each day I got eight or nine phone calls asking about the apartments. And off work I brought them to see the apartments, in the hope that they would take a fancy to one of these apartments, so that I could get paid.
But it is not easy to be a “house seller”. They are so picky.
Room 1:
“Oh my god! This room is so small! How can I bring my refrigerator in?” One of the potential renters complained unsatisfied. “Are there any other bigger room?”
Yes of course. So I brought him to ---
Room 2:
“Well, this room is ok. The room is large. The wall is white. The balcony is big. I like it. How much it costs per month?” This time the potential renter nodded his head.
“1500RMB per month.” I said.
“1500!” He shouted exaggeratedly, staring at me unbelievably as if I was a monster. “Too expensive! That room is just 800RMB but this one is 1500…”
“Well, that one is small so…”I shrugged my shoulders.
I guess all of those potential renters are older than me, but it is rather ridiculous that their thinking is so naïve.
“That one is too small and this one is too expensive…”He still complained like a talkative parrot. “Are there any rooms which are larger but cheaper?”
“Well there are some larger and cheaper rooms but they are not in these business centers. They are in those far remote areas. If you don’t mind spending two hours on a bus per day you can live there!” I answered.
And the most repellent one is this cheeky man.
He called me and we fixed time and place. I ran there and waited and waited but he never appeared. I called him and he laughed out loudly.
“Hey baby! I just made a joke! Do you really believe it?” He laughed ironically.
“Made a joke? Do you have a lot of telephone bills?” Fire nearly burned out of my heart.
“Ha ha!! So funny! I am so happy to see you so angry!” he sneered.
Oh! I hated him! I hated him! I hated him!
“Go to hell!” I was so angry that I must lose my mind---I threw my mobile phone. Only when the mobile phone left my hand did I realize that what I threw was not his mobile phone. It was my own mobile phone…
Well, calm down. All right. I have jumped into a trap. But I am sure I can jump out. Nothing can really trap me.
How honest are you?
I been doing some thinking... 
and I am wondering how people choose to date....
A. Get to know one person at a time till you know either way if it will/wont work
B. Date as many as you can
C. Select a few at a time and go with each one to see what works
BUT I alway wonder....
A. How do you deal with a multi dater that you are super keen on?
B. Do you use the same 'lines' on all the people you date
C. Even remember who does what etc
I am curious to the way peoples minds are working when they're dating...I am up front enough to tell a date if I am speaking or planning on seeing someone else...and to date I've had one person walk out sulking and one person trip himself up in his own lies.
So, is anyone prepared to be up front enough to share their style with me?
Debs
and I am wondering how people choose to date....A. Get to know one person at a time till you know either way if it will/wont work
B. Date as many as you can
C. Select a few at a time and go with each one to see what works
BUT I alway wonder....
A. How do you deal with a multi dater that you are super keen on?
B. Do you use the same 'lines' on all the people you date
C. Even remember who does what etc
I am curious to the way peoples minds are working when they're dating...I am up front enough to tell a date if I am speaking or planning on seeing someone else...and to date I've had one person walk out sulking and one person trip himself up in his own lies.
So, is anyone prepared to be up front enough to share their style with me?
Debs
SHOT FOR GOD'S BEST NO LESS IN A MATE IN LIFE
John 2:24 But Jesus would not entrust himself to them, for he knew all men. 25 He did not need man's testimony about man, for He knew what was in man.
1 Corinthians 15:33 Do not be mislead: "Bad company corrupts good character.
2 Corinthians 6:14 Do not be yoked together with unbelievers, for what does righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness.
How can you tell what is or not the Lord's best for you in life. Well you can use E harmony and attempt to find someone that is on the same page psychologically as you? Might be some pros and cons in that right? You can read dating books and how to find love the easy way or other things to gain knowledge on Mr or Ms right. You can go to bars or anywhere be the player type and find out what you want that way? ((warning)) that choice could lead to STD's etc.
All that is wonderful and all....... but with me, I really like to keep it simple. Attraction, personality, character, and can I trust you<<wow how important is that? ((really important)) Also, walking with the Lord you really find the true meaning of love and how to love. He accepted me in my worst, he stuck by me when no one else would. He expresses Love daily in His Spirit, and I can trust that love without fear.
Can we find that perfect love in a human being? In ways yes you sure can. If you can love someone in their worst you truly love them.If you find someone in this life, that it's something about them you love them no matter what, that's the keeper. And wow, if someone isn't content in life etc, wow that's a warning sign in my opinion. If a person can't be content they'll cheat once someone catch's their eye. Now someone that wants contentment and old fashion one person is all I need deal again the keeper. I am not Dr Love or do I know it all, but these are common sense things to know.
So trust, contentment, are two things that should be a must in every relationship. If I trust someone and they trust me there is no insecurities and no assuming. Ok and if I am content with that person, I am not likely to cheat or want to. Why because that person is enough for me and not needing anyone else.
You can make relationship's impossible or simple, in my opinion simple with simple musts you have a win win between the two people. Making things impossible you have over stress and trying to please instead of learning to accept and love. Like I said, these things are common sense and can build great strong marriages, and amen I'M NO DR LOVE. This is simply wisdom from the Spirit of Grace and the Lord being our creator, knows how we and relationships work. EASY AS 123
God Sense 101
1 Corinthians 15:33 Do not be mislead: "Bad company corrupts good character.
2 Corinthians 6:14 Do not be yoked together with unbelievers, for what does righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness.
How can you tell what is or not the Lord's best for you in life. Well you can use E harmony and attempt to find someone that is on the same page psychologically as you? Might be some pros and cons in that right? You can read dating books and how to find love the easy way or other things to gain knowledge on Mr or Ms right. You can go to bars or anywhere be the player type and find out what you want that way? ((warning)) that choice could lead to STD's etc.
All that is wonderful and all....... but with me, I really like to keep it simple. Attraction, personality, character, and can I trust you<<wow how important is that? ((really important)) Also, walking with the Lord you really find the true meaning of love and how to love. He accepted me in my worst, he stuck by me when no one else would. He expresses Love daily in His Spirit, and I can trust that love without fear.
Can we find that perfect love in a human being? In ways yes you sure can. If you can love someone in their worst you truly love them.If you find someone in this life, that it's something about them you love them no matter what, that's the keeper. And wow, if someone isn't content in life etc, wow that's a warning sign in my opinion. If a person can't be content they'll cheat once someone catch's their eye. Now someone that wants contentment and old fashion one person is all I need deal again the keeper. I am not Dr Love or do I know it all, but these are common sense things to know.
So trust, contentment, are two things that should be a must in every relationship. If I trust someone and they trust me there is no insecurities and no assuming. Ok and if I am content with that person, I am not likely to cheat or want to. Why because that person is enough for me and not needing anyone else.
You can make relationship's impossible or simple, in my opinion simple with simple musts you have a win win between the two people. Making things impossible you have over stress and trying to please instead of learning to accept and love. Like I said, these things are common sense and can build great strong marriages, and amen I'M NO DR LOVE. This is simply wisdom from the Spirit of Grace and the Lord being our creator, knows how we and relationships work. EASY AS 123
God Sense 101
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