The statement: "Hopes and dreams, and loves and fears will all we will ever be." Is it possible if we boil down everything in our lives into the most simplest forms, does this statement hold validity?
These four essential life characteristics do all pertain to the self. That is for sure.
The part in the series has to do with teaching a young girl to be nobody.
Is it better to be somebody or nobody?
The reason why I ask, to be somebody, carries an ego attached. From things I have seen and heard in the past, your ego is not your amigo.
Though, they blamed me i killed his son - a nice looking and a cool guy. If i was around back then, i might have been his girlfriend. We would give a birth to a whole salvation army and everyone would live their happy ever after.
I hear them loveyourneighbour preaching and see them poisoning my dogs.
They cut down the beautiful trees with an idiotic excuse, the leaves make a dirt around the church. They even poison the grass to keep it a clean gap between the holly fence and the path to their temple.
I know why they never answered my question.
King Arthur was ambushed and imprisoned by the monarch of a neighboring kingdom. The monarch could have killed him but was moved by Arthur's youth and ideals. So, the monarch offered him his freedom, as long as he could answer a very difficult question. Arthur would have a year to figure out the answer and, if after a year, he still had no answer; he would be put to death.
The question? . . . What do women really want? Such a question would perplex even the most knowledgeable man, and to young Arthur, it seemed an impossible query. But, since it was better than death, he accepted the monarch's proposition to have an answer by year's end.
He returned to his kingdom and began to poll everyone: the princess, the priests, the wise men and even the court jester. He spoke with every one, but no one could give him a satisfactory answer.
Many people advised him toconsult the old witch, for only she would have the answer.
But the price would be high; as the witch was famous throughout the kingdom for the exorbitant prices she charged.
The last day of the year arrived and Arthur had no choice but to talk to the witch. She agreed to answer the question, but he would have to agree to her price first.
The old witch wanted to marry Sir Lancelot, the most noble of the Knights of the Round Table and Arthur's closest friend!
Young Arthur was horrified. She was hunchbacked and hideous, had only one tooth, smelled like sewage, made obscene noises, etc. He had never encountered such a repugnant creature in all his life.
He refused to force his friend to marry her and endure such a terrible burden; but Lancelot, learning of the proposal, spoke with Arthur. He said nothing was too big of a sacrifice, compared to Arthur's life and the preservation of the Round Table.
Hence, a wedding was proclaimed and the witch answered Arthur's question thus:
What a woman really wants, she answered . . . is to be in charge of her own life.
Everyone in the kingdom instantly knew that the witch had uttered a great truth and that Arthur's life would be spared.
And so it was, the neighboring monarch granted Arthur his freedom and Lancelot and the witch had a wonderful wedding.
The honeymoon hour approached and Lancelot, steeling himself for a horrific experience, entered the bedroom. But, what a sight awaited him. The most beautiful woman he had ever seen lay before him on the bed. The astounded Lancelot asked what had happened
The beauty replied that since he had been so kind to her when she appeared as a witch, she would henceforth be her horrible, deformed self only half-the-time and the beautiful maiden the other half.
Which would he prefer? Beautiful during the day . . . or night?
Lancelot pondered the predicament. During the day, a beautiful woman to show off to his friends, but at night, in the privacy of his castle, an old witch? Or, would he prefer having a hideous witch during the day, but by night, a beautiful woman for him to enjoy wondrous intimate moments?
What would YOU do?
What Lancelot chose is below. BUT . . . make YOUR choice before you scroll down below. OKAY?
Noble Lancelot said that he would allow HER to make the choice herself.
Upon hearing this, she announced that she would be beautiful all the time because he had respected her enough to let her be in charge of her own life.
Now . . . what is the moral to this story?
The moral is . . .
If you don't let a woman have her own way . . .
Things are going to get ugly!
One says she's from Moscow, Idaho, and the other says she's from Venice, California. To that I say, "Yeah, right!"
Oh wait! One of them is calling me right now and the other one just emailed me. Eh, just forget what I said about them being scammers, okay? They're alright after all, I think. I gotta answer my phone and check the email now.
I answer the phone: "Molestina? No, no! I was just kidding with that blog. You know that, don't you? Huh? No, there's no other lady by the name of Laxative. Who would ever use a name like that anyways? Come on. Let's be reasonable. Trust me when I say, you're the only one for me. That's right! I'm faithful to only you, at this moment."
I answer the email message: "Hi Laxative! About that blog? I was just joking with that blog. You know me by now, maybe, sort of. Who is Molestina? Err, eh, oh she's just some lady I made up. No, of course she's not for real. You know you're the only one for me, at this moment. I'm a faithful, non-cheating kind of guy when it comes to someone special like you. Come on. Let's be reasonable."
Suddenly, I receive a text message on my phone from another lady: "Rob? It's been a few weeks now. Have you actually read the words in my profile yet, or did you just flirt with me because you liked my pictures? I don't think you've read it. Go read my profile. If not, then don't text me again."
PS: This blog is fictional, just for fun.
And just to note, there really is a Moscow, Idaho and Venice, California.
These two mental qualities are the underlying guardians of morality thus protect humanity.
Hiri is the shame that keeps us from doing evil that would hurt our self respect.
Ottapa is the fear of committing evil that might bring about harm to ourselves or others.
In short, moral shame and moral fear.
Looking at the world and all the mess, and the people in it,
Then looking at all the religions and their teachings, I don't think any religion has taught or emphasised on upholding these two principles.
I won't go in to details of religious teachings and how they deviate from these two main moral principles.
But may I ask,
Have religions failed humanity?
(Ps. Even though Buddhism have them in their teachings, it's mostly overlooked by practicing Buddhists.)
She began explaining as an only child she never had to share her room, then she went on to joke saying it was her reason for never wanting to get married but eventually she did and to cut through the story so's not to bore you.. she did find the joys and comforts in sharing a bedroom
Don't know why but when baby No.1 was born, she moved into a bedroom of her own with the child, for the weeks that she had she had missed dreadfully sleeping with her husband, not just because she missed you know what, but she missed not ending the day along side the person she hoped to begin the day with.
Baby No.2 came along and when she went to a separate room again, this time she didn't miss sleeping with him and to cut through her story again, she has had her own room ever since.
She did mention the downsides in them having separate rooms ...
one was she had become more conscious of her body and the changes brought about by age and time, another was falling a sleep wrapped in loving arms bla bla and bla bla and bla bla but all that aside, she insisted having separate bedrooms helps build a stronger more loving relationship.
Now her reasons why she thought that, i was really interested in because what I had gathered from the reading, she was no longer in love with the man.. but "doh" i was then called to the basin and afterwards when i returned, there was the magazine gone
But anyways here's my question to you, what do you think ....
when living with someone in a loving relationship , do sleeping arrangements matter or not
My personal view on the matter is if you can't sleep with me, then piddle off ..
simple as, end of
On the first day, she sadly packed her belongings into boxes, crates and suitcases.
On the second day, she had the movers come and collect her things.
On the third day, she sat down for the last time at their beautiful dining-room table, by candle-light; she put on some soft background music, and feasted on a pound of shrimp, a jar of caviar, and a bottle of spring-water.
When she'd finished, she went into each and every room and deposited a few half-eaten shrimps dipped in caviar into the hollow center of the curtain rods.
She then cleaned up the kitchen and left.
On the fourth day, the husband came back with his new girlfriend, and at first all was bliss.
Then, slowly, the house began to smell.
They tried everything; cleaning, mopping, and airing-out the place.
Vents were checked for dead rodents, and carpets were steam cleaned.
Air fresheners were hung everywhere. Exterminators were brought into set off gas canisters, during which time the two had to move out for a few days, and in the end they even paid to replace the expensive wool carpeting. Nothing worked!
People stopped coming over to visit..
Repairmen refused to work in the house.
The maid quit.
Finally, they couldn't take the stench any longer, and decided they had to move, but a month later - even though they'd cut their price in half - they couldn't find a buyer for such a stinky house.
Word got out, and eventually even the local realtors refused to return their calls.
Finally, unable to wait any longer for a purchaser, they had to borrow a huge sum of money from the bank to purchase a new place.
Then the ex-wife called the man and asked how things were going. He told her the saga of the rotting house.
She listened politely and said that she missed her old home terribly and would be willing to reduce her divorce settlement in exchange for having the house.
Knowing she could have no idea how bad the smell really was, he agreed on a price that was only 1/10th of what the house had been worth... but only if she would sign the papers that very day.
She agreed, and within two hours his lawyers delivered the completed paperwork.
A week later the man and his girlfriend stood smiling as they watched the moving company pack everything to take to their new home ..... and to spite the ex-wife, they even took the curtain rods!
I LOVE A HAPPY ENDING, DON'T YOU?
And Even The Talking On The Phone Is Just A Tid Bit Of That Other Person
What Im Getting Down to Is
Nobody Has The Right.... To Pass Judement On Another..Why?
Because You Dont Know A Damned Thing About That Person
A Lot Of What I Write?
I Havnt A Clue As To What Its All About..At The Beginning
(Ill Write One Line...And Go From There)
Yet.."They" Will Come On..... And Claim Im Talking About Them
"Imagine That...I..The Author..Havnt A Clue ...As To What Its About"
"But They Do"....Figure That One Out...If You Can"
Anyway..Its Only The Written Word...And The Written Word... Can Be Decipfered... In So Many Different Ways
Thats The Real Problem
"What Would Help Out Significantly... Would Be Being Able To Hear The Voice Of The Commentator...And The Author
Instead Of Reading........... The Written Word
99% Of All Differences .......Would Be Eradicated
"And...There Would Be.............. "Peace In The Valley"...Once More
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