Ladies: Would you date a "separated" man or would you wait until the divorce is finalised? (215)
Depends on the situation. I know in NY in order to get a divorce you have to be seperated a year before you can even file for divorce. and it has to be filed in the clerks office for the year besides. It may be the case that they want the divorce just have to wait it out.
I know in my seperation papers it stated I could live where ever and with whom ever I choose with out repercutions.
There are lots of reasons a person may be seperated and not divorced. If it's right to date one that is seperated has a different answer for different situations.
I know in my seperation papers it stated I could live where ever and with whom ever I choose with out repercutions.
There are lots of reasons a person may be seperated and not divorced. If it's right to date one that is seperated has a different answer for different situations.
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rusty_knight: Well, personally I think they should never date!
Sorry - couldn't resist that remark!
Sorry - couldn't resist that remark!
And why is that?
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petalbabe: Sorry, but I disagree.
I talk from an Irish point of view, as the legal separation period is for 5 years here.
Alot of people here want to divorce straight away, and their marriage is WELL AND TRULY OVER. Unfortunately, due to legal constraints, they are unable to divorce until 5 years have elapsed.
Are you honestly saying that person shouldnt date for 5 YEARS??
I talk from an Irish point of view, as the legal separation period is for 5 years here.
Alot of people here want to divorce straight away, and their marriage is WELL AND TRULY OVER. Unfortunately, due to legal constraints, they are unable to divorce until 5 years have elapsed.
Are you honestly saying that person shouldnt date for 5 YEARS??
To me I don't care if that person dates or not. It just won't be with me.
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petalbabe: Sorry, but I disagree.
I talk from an Irish point of view, as the legal separation period is for 5 years here.
Alot of people here want to divorce straight away, and their marriage is WELL AND TRULY OVER. Unfortunately, due to legal constraints, they are unable to divorce until 5 years have elapsed.
Are you honestly saying that person shouldnt date for 5 YEARS??
I talk from an Irish point of view, as the legal separation period is for 5 years here.
Alot of people here want to divorce straight away, and their marriage is WELL AND TRULY OVER. Unfortunately, due to legal constraints, they are unable to divorce until 5 years have elapsed.
Are you honestly saying that person shouldnt date for 5 YEARS??
Divorce is ILLEGAL here in Malta - so people are often legally separated for decades before they finally become free when the grim reaper calls!
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In response to: is it ok to date a separated man or are you better off waiting until the divorce is finalised?
No I wouldn't date a man who was separated from his wife.
In the back of my mind I'd be wondering if he's on the rebound.
Plus there's alaways that chnace they could work things out.
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Big_John: You better quit looking for those ugly third grade girls--virgins! Move up to the born again ones!!!!
Sounds like a plan!
Thanks!
I shall mount my trusty steed and go looking for the 'Born Again!'
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rusty_knight: Divorce is ILLEGAL here in Malta - so people are often legally separated for decades before they finally become free when the grim reaper calls!
Correction....not illegal.......we just don't have divorce legislation yet.....
.....I myself am legally divorced......since my ex was British and the divorce was decreed by a UK court of law.......all I did was register it locally here with the public registry......and that makes me legally divorced and if.......and I mean IF.....I ever decide to get married again I can do so legally and peacfully here.......
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rusty_knight: Divorce is ILLEGAL here in Malta - so people are often legally separated for decades before they finally become free when the grim reaper calls!
Really?? Wow..
Well, Im just glad mine was an English marriage and I was divorced 6 years ago after just 4 months!!!
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gozoman2: Correction....not illegal.......we just don't have divorce legislation yet.....
.....I myself am legally divorced......since my ex was British and the divorce was decreed by a UK court of law.......all I did was register it locally here with the public registry......and that makes me legally divorced and if.......and I mean IF.....I ever decide to get married again I can do so legally and peacfully
here.......
.....I myself am legally divorced......since my ex was British and the divorce was decreed by a UK court of law.......all I did was register it locally here with the public registry......and that makes me legally divorced and if.......and I mean IF.....I ever decide to get married again I can do so legally and peacfully
here.......
Sounds like a contradiction in terms to me.
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yes, I would
I have dated men whom were seperated and not yet divorced
however, I think that they must be sepearted for at LEAST a year, for example
only because they are in a new frame of mind....new beginnings, new experiences, now alone and figuring out what they really want.
If they have been married for some time OR out of the dating scene for a long time, then their window of opportunity is wide open and so, they are just "dating"...not looking to settle down....well, not for the first while...and so, they date, and date, and just find things to do to fill in the time until they are COMPLETELY ready for what is to come.
I don't regret dating the men that I did whom were seperated...I just wished I had waited until they were done with their "dating" lifestyle and ready to settle down....
I was .........they weren't
oh well, c'est la vie.....
it was an experience, for sure ...but would that stop me from dating a seperated man? hell no...
I just am more careful now...
cheers
Curvy
I have dated men whom were seperated and not yet divorced
however, I think that they must be sepearted for at LEAST a year, for example
only because they are in a new frame of mind....new beginnings, new experiences, now alone and figuring out what they really want.
If they have been married for some time OR out of the dating scene for a long time, then their window of opportunity is wide open and so, they are just "dating"...not looking to settle down....well, not for the first while...and so, they date, and date, and just find things to do to fill in the time until they are COMPLETELY ready for what is to come.
I don't regret dating the men that I did whom were seperated...I just wished I had waited until they were done with their "dating" lifestyle and ready to settle down....
I was .........they weren't
oh well, c'est la vie.....
it was an experience, for sure ...but would that stop me from dating a seperated man? hell no...
I just am more careful now...
cheers
Curvy
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gozoman2: Correction....not illegal.......we just don't have divorce legislation yet.....
.....I myself am legally divorced......since my ex was British and the divorce was decreed by a UK court of law.......all I did was register it locally here with the public registry......and that makes me legally divorced and if.......and I mean IF.....I ever decide to get married again I can do so legally and peacfully here.......
.....I myself am legally divorced......since my ex was British and the divorce was decreed by a UK court of law.......all I did was register it locally here with the public registry......and that makes me legally divorced and if.......and I mean IF.....I ever decide to get married again I can do so legally and peacfully here.......
Well, it's interpretation, isn't it?
If you can't get divorced HERE then divorce is not legal here and is therefore 'illegal'....... but I do see that the Maltese courts cannot overturn a decision made in another European Court and.........
for many it is very CONVENIENT to be separated as an ANNULMENT is a very slow and expensive proces - so, in my opinion, many Maltese take advantage of the situation and enjoy having their cake and eating it by remaining legally married (though legally sseparated) and free to do what they like without fear of any future commitment.
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petalbabe: Really?? Wow..
Well, Im just glad mine was an English marriage and I was divorced 6 years ago after just 4 months!!!
Well, Im just glad mine was an English marriage and I was divorced 6 years ago after just 4 months!!!
Ooooops!
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rusty_knight: Ooooops!
No, I dont mean 4 MONTHS OF MARRIAGE, YOU DOPE!!!
I mean after 4 months of separation..
I was married for 8 years!
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One way to deal with this issue would be to be friends first. There is nothing wrong with friends, and you get the chance to find out how they really feel about there x. And you can see if they are serious about leaving the x, if there are feelings still and what they are. who knows the divorce might even happen while your doing this.
Personally I don't understand the difference of dating a seperated person or divorced. What I mean is some places you can get a divorce right away, that does not mean they wanted it, or doesn't hold out some hope of reconcile. I guess in that case we shouldn't date a divorcee either.
Doesn't matter who you date your always taking a chance. But it would be wise to know first what they carry in the line of baggage and present issues.
Personally I don't understand the difference of dating a seperated person or divorced. What I mean is some places you can get a divorce right away, that does not mean they wanted it, or doesn't hold out some hope of reconcile. I guess in that case we shouldn't date a divorcee either.
Doesn't matter who you date your always taking a chance. But it would be wise to know first what they carry in the line of baggage and present issues.
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bodleing: Sounds like a contradiction in terms to me.
Hey Bod......
.....yes in effect it is.....so much so that the Divorce lobby locally has been harping on the injustice to the local couple due to this loophole in the legal structure......
.....since our legal system accepts rulings taken by most EU courts it follows that a divorce granted in any of the EU countries or the country of origin of one of the spouses is also legally binding here........
.....in effect this id proven discriminatory against the Maltese citizen in terms of rights in being also an EU citizen.....
.....but then again.....it is only the local Church that has been holding legislation back......none of our political parties parties have the balls to stand up to the power of the Catholic Church locally it seems......
....but it will change soon....the Divorce lobby is getting extremely strong and once it is an effecting voting power then it will change....figure by the next election sit will be on the agenda of both parties that hold the power here....
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gozoman2: Hey Bod......
.....yes in effect it is.....so much so that the Divorce lobby locally has been harping on the injustice to the local couple due to this loophole in the legal structure......
.....since our legal system accepts rulings taken by most EU courts it follows that a divorce granted in any of the EU countries or the country of origin of one of the spouses is also legally binding here........
.....in effect this id proven discriminatory against the Maltese citizen in terms of rights in being also an EU citizen.....
.....but then again.....it is only the local Church that has been holding legislation back......none of our political parties parties have the balls to stand up to the power of the Catholic Church locally it seems......
....but it will change soon....the Divorce lobby is getting extremely strong and once it is an effecting voting power then it will change....figure by the next election sit will be on the agenda of both parties that hold the power here....
.....yes in effect it is.....so much so that the Divorce lobby locally has been harping on the injustice to the local couple due to this loophole in the legal structure......
.....since our legal system accepts rulings taken by most EU courts it follows that a divorce granted in any of the EU countries or the country of origin of one of the spouses is also legally binding here........
.....in effect this id proven discriminatory against the Maltese citizen in terms of rights in being also an EU citizen.....
.....but then again.....it is only the local Church that has been holding legislation back......none of our political parties parties have the balls to stand up to the power of the Catholic Church locally it seems......
....but it will change soon....the Divorce lobby is getting extremely strong and once it is an effecting voting power then it will change....figure by the next election sit will be on the agenda of both parties that hold the power here....
Well you do one catholic priest for every 451 residents.
That's a whole heap of preachin
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Are you honestly saying that person shouldn't date for 5 YEARS??
Yes your allowed to and no need to be Sorry about IT.
Your Talking from And Irish point Of view
Your joking, You must read a few of my threads ESP News Flash Señorita your Spaniard point of View, Were the heck you think you get that Fighting Spirit, and Attitude The Spaniards It`s in your DNA 70% +!
5 Years, WTFffff Not True 3 months six months is cases when both parties cooperates. CDN OR USA.
You can File for an immediate divorce. do To I don`t Like his Face. A church Divorce Is Different. 2 years but they force you to Their counseling so they make $$$$ from you. AAAaaaaaaaaaaaa.
How the heck said 5 years Check my MSG again Usteze Abla Espaniole Querida?
Holeeeeeee!
Yes your allowed to and no need to be Sorry about IT.
Your Talking from And Irish point Of view
Your joking, You must read a few of my threads ESP News Flash Señorita your Spaniard point of View, Were the heck you think you get that Fighting Spirit, and Attitude The Spaniards It`s in your DNA 70% +!5 Years, WTFffff Not True 3 months six months is cases when both parties cooperates. CDN OR USA.
You can File for an immediate divorce. do To I don`t Like his Face. A church Divorce Is Different. 2 years but they force you to Their counseling so they make $$$$ from you. AAAaaaaaaaaaaaa.
How the heck said 5 years Check my MSG again Usteze Abla Espaniole Querida?
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bodleing: Well you do one catholic priest for every 451 residents.
That's a whole heap of preachin
That's a whole heap of preachin
aaaaaahhhh...statistics a bit rusted now I believe.......things have changed dramatically these last ten years or so.....
thankfully of course and about time too....
....on the other hand...it ain't the priests that actually count.....
.....it's the money that the Church actually handles.......it is still one of the major financial players within the local economy.....so politicians thread carefully.....
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Well, personally I think they should never date!
Sorry - couldn't resist that remark!