I'm back and I'm hurt severly ( Archived) (280)

I know they are a lot of good people and advice on here. I'm just worried about the negative folks and their ramblings. I don't get out much because of a lack of transportation and motivation. I know a 'poor me' additude is not the way to go and making excuses is fruitless. I know I'm miserable, dull and unappealing and all that. I won't go Goth because that's not my style. I don't expect anyone to understand me and possibly no one will. I know I'm pathetic to most of the more 'mature' members here so I don't expect constructive words to come from them. Nothing comes of bigotry and hatefullness.

I'm thinking you might benefit hugely by talking to someone - a counselor or therapist.

The fact that you're self-aware enough to see parts of yourself honestly is far more than most people have accomplished, EP. I hope you take some solace in that, and in your obvious intelligence. If you just hang in there long enough, those good qualities of yours will come increasingly to the fore. There isn't any simple way to will oneself to be happy.

I don't find you pathetic at all, if that's any consolation. You remind me a LOT of my youngest son - another bright lad who battles with depression and lack of motivation and poor self-image. While he, like you, has many beautiful qualities that are just aching to come out.

See, you're doing that thing again. "I know I am... to most of the more..."..... Drop those bits and it will only help you. No one's called you dull or pathetic. There's no need to invent realities.

Only a month? There are people here who have been looking for years. It takes as long as it takes. Just keep puting it out there. She will come along.

I know how you feel. I too suffer from the same kinds of laments. Things that help me are forcing myself to get out of the house. Walk or exercise. Talk to at least one person (in person) a day. Try to accomplish one small goal each day, even if it is something little. Focus on you and what you need to do versus on someone else to come and save you.
Don't loose faith. Just get through the day, hour by hour if you need to.
You are not alone.

Then please explain why I'm being called 'boy', 'kid' and why someone said just the look of my pic made her almost want to kill herself. They haven't directly said that I'm dull or pathetic but that's the vibe I'm getting.

Hi Eternal

I am going to talk to you as I would my son. If he was coming out with these words.

Firstly, you are not pathetic. So remove that thought.

You are expressing some negative thoughts and we all have them, I don't care who says they do not, we all have our down days, I do.

Yes, at the moment you are coming across as dull, miserable and unappealing. But that is not so hard to change. And I don't for a moment, there is not an interesting, kind, exciting, handsome young man in there somewhere. If we don't have negative thoughts, how do we know when we are having postive ones?

You know what I think you should do? I think you should put some good old fashioned music on, Dean Martin say, find a girl, hell go out into the street, with a smile on your face and ask the first girl that you meet if she wants to dance with you.

Then, get some icecream from the store, lift the lid and put some good old comedy on the TV. Eat the icecream, and if the girl is still there, get an extra spoon.

Eat it all, the whole tub.

Failing that, call your mum, ask her for a hug, and to cook your favourite meal and go and have a sob and a sleep with her close by, if not your mum, then the closest member of your family.

Sob until you can son no more, it is not nice nor is it pretty, but it will exhaust you and it will get it out there.

Nobody will understand you until the cause is known, find the cause of what is making you feel like this and grab it by the horns and tell it, I have seen enough of you and I don;t want you to come back for a long time...

Find some tools to deal with these dark periods, yoga, swimming, always helps me, if I feel as you are, I go for a swim and the water relaxes me...

Revitalise your body, give it a cold shower and practice smiling in the mirror, and take some pictures...

Then post them on your profile and come back and 'Hello world, I'm here'

That was me who said that.

So sorry about that, but it was miserable. Get some new ones. And it was more a term than a feeling...

I know how you feel,its hard when one feels she or he is alone and they need someone they could call their own and its not working.It could really be very furstrating.I will tell you not to lose hope,you will fanilly met your woman someday,it only takes time but it will happen.The problem is will you still be there and allrigth when she comes because you are sounding very furstrated and depressed.I hope you don't hurt yorself.Try and take your mind off it,i know its hard but try and put your mind on anything that intrests you.Before you know it,she will be there beside you,all you need is time.

Dude, I haven't read everyone's responses but I can tell ya gals don't like me who don't show any form of confidence, and that has to come within. I've suffered from your symptoms too. It certainly ain't easy, but like my dad says: "Son, you just have to one day come to the point where you pick yourself up and go one step at a time and one day at a time, but ya got to do it."

In a recent new song I've been listening to... "The World (or you can sub Your World) is what you create."

And yes, you've a whole lifetime ahead of you, so you have to acheive what we call in my skill 'Masakatsu Agatsu' = "True Victory is Victory over Oneself", then your confidence will come. Hope that helps some.