vindictiveness in groups (173)
ella1976: yes i kinda see now where ur comming from ,u should not leave because of some ,yes alot of bullyin can happen here very fast ,like tigers waitin 2 punce,and what u had with that man is no1s business ,hold ur head high love , where all not thick skined ,but i think u have 2 be here
ditto
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I agree...other people can't live your life for you, so their view does not matter... just forgive their stupidity and move on... hanging on to anger and resentment is not a good feeling... congrats.. and wish you the best... 
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Aries01: I agree...other people can't live your life for you, so their view does not matter... just forgive their stupidity and move on... hanging on to anger and resentment is not a good feeling... congrats.. and wish you the best...
have you read the whole thread or just her first post??/
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angelface123: Anyone who has ever wanted to say something else hurtful to me and about my relationship with a certain person SPEAK UP.
The remarks my fomer fiance' & I have gotten finally worked. I could never post anything without a smart aleck remark fron all of you. You hurt us when we announced and made both of us cry. I know it was a bad time for me my mom was in the hospital and (he)was trying to cheer me up by announcing. So GIVE IT A GO,I MAY NOT ANSWER. I KNOW YOU"LL BE HAPPY I"M LEAVING. Good luck and I hate you all too. NEXT VICTIM WAITING FOR U SOMEWHERE !!?x€¢$£s all of you this !
The remarks my fomer fiance' & I have gotten finally worked. I could never post anything without a smart aleck remark fron all of you. You hurt us when we announced and made both of us cry. I know it was a bad time for me my mom was in the hospital and (he)was trying to cheer me up by announcing. So GIVE IT A GO,I MAY NOT ANSWER. I KNOW YOU"LL BE HAPPY I"M LEAVING. Good luck and I hate you all too. NEXT VICTIM WAITING FOR U SOMEWHERE !!?x€¢$£s all of you this !
HATE is a strong.
Look,nobody had the power to hurt you,unless you give it to them.
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Psssssssssssst....she hasn't even left 
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thewall2: HATE is a strong.
Look,nobody had the power to hurt you,unless you give it to them.
Look,nobody had the power to hurt you,unless you give it to them.
has....
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This CS story is disturbing. It's about people falling for others on this site and have it blow up in their face.
I hate to see this.
One comment that did bug me was from Steve:
"I will also say this to you. Americans are insular in their lives, many have not seen the outside of the USA (some not even outside of their own state)and the people living in Europe KNOW what this particular nationality are about."
Being an American, and have seen the outside of the USA and I sure have seen the outside of my own state - come on, Steve- We do know what is going on with this nationality. I won't go on further.
But, the defense you gave to Angel was wonderful. It showed caring, etc.
It sounds like no one was deserting her, only trying to help. But love is blind. The person who is in love, has to find their way through the maze alone. They usually do not want to hear the truth. I know.
This whole matter sounded very painful for all involved. I hope people will find some peace again.
L
I hate to see this.
One comment that did bug me was from Steve:
"I will also say this to you. Americans are insular in their lives, many have not seen the outside of the USA (some not even outside of their own state)and the people living in Europe KNOW what this particular nationality are about."
Being an American, and have seen the outside of the USA and I sure have seen the outside of my own state - come on, Steve- We do know what is going on with this nationality. I won't go on further.
But, the defense you gave to Angel was wonderful. It showed caring, etc.
It sounds like no one was deserting her, only trying to help. But love is blind. The person who is in love, has to find their way through the maze alone. They usually do not want to hear the truth. I know.
This whole matter sounded very painful for all involved. I hope people will find some peace again.
L
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TurkishDelight: Hi Cj
I do not wish to offend by these questions..it is not my aim
Would you clarify something for me please, its your prerogative after all and your life. I find myself thinking of your fondly since you have been on here. You have an innocence that many have lost through life experience including myself. This prompts me to post on here tonight after reading this thread, particularly your input to this scenario.
I myself have been on CS for a considerable amount of time, many years in fact. I have watched declaration after declaration been made, feelings been toyed with, feelings being abused.
Particularly those who are the less jaded with life, those who have maintained a beautiful innocence of the world around them. Those who are vulnerable to the jaded, cynical, heart weary individuals who enjoy the innocence of others and feed from it.
As a former cynic, I have always enjoyed reading your input on the forums, and through time, this cynic began to evolve into a person who began to see that there are still good people in the world today. You are one of them.
This is why I write so publicly to you tonight...........
I am asking for clarification regarding this relationship...if I may?
Did you get to meet face to face?
If not, why has there been such declarations of love, marriage etc, when after all CS is not the real world in which we get to read the face of those we speak with.
We don't get the opportunity to feel that persons emotions, enabling us to determine if they are true in what they say, or even type.
We can only determine, in my opinion, maybe I am wrong, maybe I am right, who knows, through time and interaction what is truly within the heart of another.
There are little signs through your time together that create a true picture about a relationship. A whispered word here and there, a passing touch, a thoughtful gesture, the communication that you share and no others understand, your personal morse code. Love is not grand gesture of hearts and flowers. Love is the simple things in life such as asking you would you like a coffee.I am baffled, maybe you can help me with this, but I find it difficult to comprehend that love can be created via email/ forum. It can be the seeding, it was for us, yet we needed to interact in order for it to grow. How was this going to be possible for you both. I am aware that your relationship is now a mute point, yet your story has so much to teach others.My kindest and utmost respect
Maggie
I do not wish to offend by these questions..it is not my aim
Would you clarify something for me please, its your prerogative after all and your life. I find myself thinking of your fondly since you have been on here. You have an innocence that many have lost through life experience including myself. This prompts me to post on here tonight after reading this thread, particularly your input to this scenario.
I myself have been on CS for a considerable amount of time, many years in fact. I have watched declaration after declaration been made, feelings been toyed with, feelings being abused.
Particularly those who are the less jaded with life, those who have maintained a beautiful innocence of the world around them. Those who are vulnerable to the jaded, cynical, heart weary individuals who enjoy the innocence of others and feed from it.
As a former cynic, I have always enjoyed reading your input on the forums, and through time, this cynic began to evolve into a person who began to see that there are still good people in the world today. You are one of them.
This is why I write so publicly to you tonight...........
I am asking for clarification regarding this relationship...if I may?
Did you get to meet face to face?
If not, why has there been such declarations of love, marriage etc, when after all CS is not the real world in which we get to read the face of those we speak with.
We don't get the opportunity to feel that persons emotions, enabling us to determine if they are true in what they say, or even type.
We can only determine, in my opinion, maybe I am wrong, maybe I am right, who knows, through time and interaction what is truly within the heart of another.
There are little signs through your time together that create a true picture about a relationship. A whispered word here and there, a passing touch, a thoughtful gesture, the communication that you share and no others understand, your personal morse code. Love is not grand gesture of hearts and flowers. Love is the simple things in life such as asking you would you like a coffee.I am baffled, maybe you can help me with this, but I find it difficult to comprehend that love can be created via email/ forum. It can be the seeding, it was for us, yet we needed to interact in order for it to grow. How was this going to be possible for you both. I am aware that your relationship is now a mute point, yet your story has so much to teach others.My kindest and utmost respect
Maggie
Hi Maggie!
First I wish to thank-you for your kind words. They mean much to me. I do admit it always surprises me when others tell me how my views change their perceptions. I am just me and I try and treat all the way I wish to be treated...
Also, I am so sorry to take so long to answer you here. I am back in School as some know, so my studies have taken my time, please forgive me.
I am very happy to try and answer you here, I have no problems with answering anyone's questions..
Con't
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You are 100% correct in all you have said. There is much to be said for what you see in another's eyes, looks, touches, everything. Yet, There is also much to be said for learning to love another person w/o meeting them In part, perhaps much of my views are Cultural upbringing - I am Old World and Old Culture, as well as, Old Fashioned. This how I was raised - with the examples of people whom were essentially strangers, except through letters, or knowledge from their Parents telling them about their mate and they made Marriage work, and learned to Love, also.
Yes, they were Blessed. But I am also equally sure that for every successful Marriage there were others in the past that were miserable.
Arranged Marriages happen in some families. Some from early ages. Some much later. My Family has been no exception to this. Mom was hand-fasted to a guy a couple years older than her when she was 4 yrs old, like her Mom, Grand Mom and so forth back on her Mom's side.
They did not marry as adults b/c Her Betrothed's Parents moved to Florida where he was raised and the young man told his Parents that He wished to marry a girl he grew up with and to ask my GrandFather to let him be released. They did grow up being told about each other and the expectation that they would marry as adults and with writing to each other.
Like I said, it did not happen to her and him, as it would have in the Old World. New Cultural values cause changes in the way Families look at life. I know His parents were very embarrassed for their Son not Honouring the Arrangement. But, I think Mom was relieved, as she then had a chance to build her own life w/o causing shame. I know my GrandFather was angry for a time, but when he talked with my Mom, They decided to let her enjoy being part of the New World.
Con't
Yes, they were Blessed. But I am also equally sure that for every successful Marriage there were others in the past that were miserable.
Arranged Marriages happen in some families. Some from early ages. Some much later. My Family has been no exception to this. Mom was hand-fasted to a guy a couple years older than her when she was 4 yrs old, like her Mom, Grand Mom and so forth back on her Mom's side.
They did not marry as adults b/c Her Betrothed's Parents moved to Florida where he was raised and the young man told his Parents that He wished to marry a girl he grew up with and to ask my GrandFather to let him be released. They did grow up being told about each other and the expectation that they would marry as adults and with writing to each other.
Like I said, it did not happen to her and him, as it would have in the Old World. New Cultural values cause changes in the way Families look at life. I know His parents were very embarrassed for their Son not Honouring the Arrangement. But, I think Mom was relieved, as she then had a chance to build her own life w/o causing shame. I know my GrandFather was angry for a time, but when he talked with my Mom, They decided to let her enjoy being part of the New World.
Con't
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CJ, you are one of the most gentle and polite women here on CS, but perhaps a little naive, particularly in view of what you have just written. I don´t mean that in a critical way at all, so please
don´t be offended.
Like Turkish, I was baffled when you and Ali announced your relationship, not least because of the vast age, cultural (and dare I say intellectual) differences, but as in most cases here in CS world, I read, I am confused or baffled, and I let it go, it´s not my business after all.
Best wishes to you.
don´t be offended.
Like Turkish, I was baffled when you and Ali announced your relationship, not least because of the vast age, cultural (and dare I say intellectual) differences, but as in most cases here in CS world, I read, I am confused or baffled, and I let it go, it´s not my business after all.
Best wishes to you.
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JAN_is: CJ, you are one of the most gentle and polite women here on CS, but perhaps a little naive, particularly in view of what you have just written. I don´t mean that in a critical way at all, so please
don´t be offended.
Like Turkish, I was baffled when you and Ali announced your relationship, not least because of the vast age, cultural (and dare I say intellectual) differences, but as in most cases here in CS world, I read, I am confused or baffled, and I let it go, it´s not my business after all.
Best wishes to you.
don´t be offended.
Like Turkish, I was baffled when you and Ali announced your relationship, not least because of the vast age, cultural (and dare I say intellectual) differences, but as in most cases here in CS world, I read, I am confused or baffled, and I let it go, it´s not my business after all.
Best wishes to you.
Jan,
Thank-you.
No offense taken, we all have different views and reasons for them. We all are here to learn from each other. How can we learn unless we ask and answer?
I appreciate you kind words and I hope all is going well for you, You Maggie and many others are good people and very grounded I am honoured to know all of you.
Best wishes to you, as well.
Cyndie
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angelface123: Anyone who has ever wanted to say something else hurtful to me and about my relationship with a certain person SPEAK UP.
The remarks my fomer fiance' & I have gotten finally worked. I could never post anything without a smart aleck remark fron all of you. You hurt us when we announced and made both of us cry. I know it was a bad time for me my mom was in the hospital and (he)was trying to cheer me up by announcing. So GIVE IT A GO,I MAY NOT ANSWER. I KNOW YOU"LL BE HAPPY I"M LEAVING. Good luck and I hate you all too. NEXT VICTIM WAITING FOR U SOMEWHERE !!?x€¢$£s all of you this !
I have no idea what you are talking about or who you are.The remarks my fomer fiance' & I have gotten finally worked. I could never post anything without a smart aleck remark fron all of you. You hurt us when we announced and made both of us cry. I know it was a bad time for me my mom was in the hospital and (he)was trying to cheer me up by announcing. So GIVE IT A GO,I MAY NOT ANSWER. I KNOW YOU"LL BE HAPPY I"M LEAVING. Good luck and I hate you all too. NEXT VICTIM WAITING FOR U SOMEWHERE !!?x€¢$£s all of you this !
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jvaski: WHERE is the LOVE People ?
My God, I have NEVER seen such childish behavior as on this site !
My God, I have NEVER seen such childish behavior as on this site !
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Nobody has the power to hurt you unless you give it to them....NOBODY.
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Hi sweetheart i read your begining post and all, but, dont really know the back ground, I think CJ is really giving you support here as with ,many others, . Really , you must suck it all in, know that this forum or any other , is like walking into a room with many many many people there too..if you give out want you want and care to have around you, you will attract those people, but i have to go back, and say this is a massive forum.
When working in the film industry many years ago, and still have a company in there. behind the camera. I found it very disturbing to myself to go to the wrap parties, all these people! oh blimey! i would work myself up and by the time i got to the venue, i was a case, really! but i learnt over the years it is what you put out, you must take charge of yourself for the decisions you make. , decisions are yours, your "friends" im surer will validate your beautifulness" you have to take that on board.. People gravitate honey, youve shared your feelings and remember where you are, its all ok. Gosh never written something so long and indepth, but wanted to share this with you., i hope u see it as a confidence scene for you.
Remember the beatles song (mmm your probabley not as old as me) but its called "people are people what ever they have for breakfast", Go enjoy!, you made that decision.. it will come..
Take care..
You have some very good feed back all here on this forum, whether it be how you fell its bad or good,"just breath"
And a new day dawns.
Sophia...
When working in the film industry many years ago, and still have a company in there. behind the camera. I found it very disturbing to myself to go to the wrap parties, all these people! oh blimey! i would work myself up and by the time i got to the venue, i was a case, really! but i learnt over the years it is what you put out, you must take charge of yourself for the decisions you make. , decisions are yours, your "friends" im surer will validate your beautifulness" you have to take that on board.. People gravitate honey, youve shared your feelings and remember where you are, its all ok. Gosh never written something so long and indepth, but wanted to share this with you., i hope u see it as a confidence scene for you.
Remember the beatles song (mmm your probabley not as old as me) but its called "people are people what ever they have for breakfast", Go enjoy!, you made that decision.. it will come..
Take care..
You have some very good feed back all here on this forum, whether it be how you fell its bad or good,"just breath"
And a new day dawns.
Sophia...
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am i the only old moldy that remembers this member having the exact same situation and us being to blame twice before????
really?
just me?
hmmmmm....
really?
just me?
hmmmmm....
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mindfful: am i the only old moldy that remembers this member having the exact same situation and us being to blame twice before????
really?
just me?
hmmmmm....
Hello stranger!! Good to see you back really?
just me?
hmmmmm....
going to work soon, but will mail you when I get back 
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morgan5: Hello stranger!! Good to see you back going to work soon, but will mail you when I get back
YAYim going to sleep now so that should work out about right.
wait what youre still workin? miracles never cease
still self employed then?
xx
you know i need sleep when i start believing im funny
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mindfful: YAY
im going to sleep now so that should work out about right.
wait what youre still workin? miracles never cease
still self employed then?
xx
you know i need sleep when i start believing im funny
Nope, working for an American Co, will mail you all about it im going to sleep now so that should work out about right.
wait what youre still workin? miracles never cease
still self employed then?
xx
you know i need sleep when i start believing im funny
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The remarks my fomer fiance' & I have gotten finally worked. I could never post anything without a smart aleck remark fron all of you. You hurt us when we announced and made both of us cry. I know it was a bad time for me my mom was in the hospital and (he)was trying to cheer me up by announcing. So GIVE IT A GO,I MAY NOT ANSWER. I KNOW YOU"LL BE HAPPY I"M LEAVING. Good luck and I hate you all too. NEXT VICTIM WAITING FOR U SOMEWHERE !!?x€¢$£s all of you this !