Why do People wait till Valentine's Day to show how much someone means to them? Show it the other 36 (22)
Penfriend: Show it the other 364 days a year too!!
I dunno why, but for me being expected to do something nice on that day cheapens it, as it's not from the heart, do something nice when it's not expected, and it's more geniune and from the heart.
Don't Get me wrong, I love Valentine's Day, but what I don't like is, the fact that some people do nothing to show appreciation towards their partner all year, and then on Valentine's, they go out for a "Romantic Meal" and sit there Barely speaking, or pretending to have a great time. Just seems very fake. Which is why I feel, if you truly care about someone, you'll show it 365 days a year, and not just on "Valentine's Day".
I dunno why, but for me being expected to do something nice on that day cheapens it, as it's not from the heart, do something nice when it's not expected, and it's more geniune and from the heart.
Don't Get me wrong, I love Valentine's Day, but what I don't like is, the fact that some people do nothing to show appreciation towards their partner all year, and then on Valentine's, they go out for a "Romantic Meal" and sit there Barely speaking, or pretending to have a great time. Just seems very fake. Which is why I feel, if you truly care about someone, you'll show it 365 days a year, and not just on "Valentine's Day".
It's not that people don't show their love the other 364 days of the year but I think between children, careers, upkeep/reno of the house, etc that they probably don't make the time for a romantic evening. I think for some people its just a way to say eventhough I don't show it all the time; I want to take this one day to show that I do love you. Mind you what the hell do I know. Most holidays are really about the retailers making money anyways.
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single4ever: It's not that people don't show their love the other 364 days of the year but I think between children, careers, upkeep/reno of the house, etc that they probably don't make the time for a romantic evening. I think for some people its just a way to say eventhough I don't show it all the time; I want to take this one day to show that I do love you. Mind you what the hell do I know. Most holidays are really about the retailers making money anyways.
Single, I can appreciate and understand that, There are always very genuine reasons as you stated. But It seems that more and more people (Especially the younger ones, who don't have kids, or live at home etc, seem to have the mentality "Treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen" and feed their loved ones scraps of of affection, like they're feeding bread to ducks at the park.
Just seems very said that it seems like it's almost NOT COOL to show your feelings.. It's a shame :(
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Penfriend: Single, I can appreciate and understand that, There are always very genuine reasons as you stated. But It seems that more and more people (Especially the younger ones, who don't have kids, or live at home etc, seem to have the mentality "Treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen" and feed their loved ones scraps of of affection, like they're feeding bread to ducks at the park.
Just seems very said that it seems like it's almost NOT COOL to show your feelings.. It's a shame :(
Just seems very said that it seems like it's almost NOT COOL to show your feelings.. It's a shame :(
Perhaps the young people are being cautious. After all they are young and just finding their way in life. Its hard to say without asking each person why they are acting the way the do.
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hi pen......I think they do know how you *feel* towards them......but its that one day ....that you can ...*SHOW* them......how you feel.......
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Penfriend: Show it the other 364 days a year too!!
I dunno why, but for me being expected to do something nice on that day cheapens it, as it's not from the heart, do something nice when it's not expected, and it's more geniune and from the heart.
Don't Get me wrong, I love Valentine's Day, but what I don't like is, the fact that some people do nothing to show appreciation towards their partner all year, and then on Valentine's, they go out for a "Romantic Meal" and sit there Barely speaking, or pretending to have a great time. Just seems very fake. Which is why I feel, if you truly care about someone, you'll show it 365 days a year, and not just on "Valentine's Day".
I dunno why, but for me being expected to do something nice on that day cheapens it, as it's not from the heart, do something nice when it's not expected, and it's more geniune and from the heart.
Don't Get me wrong, I love Valentine's Day, but what I don't like is, the fact that some people do nothing to show appreciation towards their partner all year, and then on Valentine's, they go out for a "Romantic Meal" and sit there Barely speaking, or pretending to have a great time. Just seems very fake. Which is why I feel, if you truly care about someone, you'll show it 365 days a year, and not just on "Valentine's Day".
And surprises are soo nice.
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Penfriend: Show it the other 364 days a year too!!
I dunno why, but for me being expected to do something nice on that day cheapens it, as it's not from the heart, do something nice when it's not expected, and it's more geniune and from the heart.
Don't Get me wrong, I love Valentine's Day, but what I don't like is, the fact that some people do nothing to show appreciation towards their partner all year, and then on Valentine's, they go out for a "Romantic Meal" and sit there Barely speaking, or pretending to have a great time. Just seems very fake. Which is why I feel, if you truly care about someone, you'll show it 365 days a year, and not just on "Valentine's Day".
I dunno why, but for me being expected to do something nice on that day cheapens it, as it's not from the heart, do something nice when it's not expected, and it's more geniune and from the heart.
Don't Get me wrong, I love Valentine's Day, but what I don't like is, the fact that some people do nothing to show appreciation towards their partner all year, and then on Valentine's, they go out for a "Romantic Meal" and sit there Barely speaking, or pretending to have a great time. Just seems very fake. Which is why I feel, if you truly care about someone, you'll show it 365 days a year, and not just on "Valentine's Day".
Would you care to eat the same meal over and over again 365 days a year???
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trueheart1941: hi pen......I think they do know how you *feel* towards them......but its that one day ....that you can ...*SHOW* them......how you feel.......
But True, That's my point... you should show how you feel EVERYDAY, it's like the song "If Tomorrow Never Comes" I could get hit by a bus before Valentines, so I want her to know how much she means to me..
I spent 4 yrs with someone, and only 1 day out of those 4yrs, did I not tell her that I loved her (As she hurt me in such a way, that I forced myself not to say them, so she knew how hurt I was, and It killed me inside not to say it)
With my ex gf, if we'd be talking, and she'd mention a magazine or a book / cd she liked and must remember to buy, if I was out somewhere, I'd buy it for her, and then surprise her with it.
I'd Put an effort into cooking a simple meal, and present it as nicest I could.
Maybe it's just my way of thinking, but I thing It's the little things like that show that you pay attention and appreciate her when she speaks, by picking up her favorite magazine, or renting a movie you know she wants to watch, or by telling her to put her feet up, whilst you cook, do the dishes, clean or whatever etc..
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Penfriend: Show it the other 364 days a year too!!
I dunno why, but for me being expected to do something nice on that day cheapens it, as it's not from the heart, do something nice when it's not expected, and it's more geniune and from the heart.
Don't Get me wrong, I love Valentine's Day, but what I don't like is, the fact that some people do nothing to show appreciation towards their partner all year, and then on Valentine's, they go out for a "Romantic Meal" and sit there Barely speaking, or pretending to have a great time. Just seems very fake. Which is why I feel, if you truly care about someone, you'll show it 365 days a year, and not just on "Valentine's Day".
I dunno why, but for me being expected to do something nice on that day cheapens it, as it's not from the heart, do something nice when it's not expected, and it's more geniune and from the heart.
Don't Get me wrong, I love Valentine's Day, but what I don't like is, the fact that some people do nothing to show appreciation towards their partner all year, and then on Valentine's, they go out for a "Romantic Meal" and sit there Barely speaking, or pretending to have a great time. Just seems very fake. Which is why I feel, if you truly care about someone, you'll show it 365 days a year, and not just on "Valentine's Day".
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Penfriend: Show it the other 364 days a year too!!
I dunno why, but for me being expected to do something nice on that day cheapens it, as it's not from the heart, do something nice when it's not expected, and it's more geniune and from the heart.
Don't Get me wrong, I love Valentine's Day, but what I don't like is, the fact that some people do nothing to show appreciation towards their partner all year, and then on Valentine's, they go out for a "Romantic Meal" and sit there Barely speaking, or pretending to have a great time. Just seems very fake. Which is why I feel, if you truly care about someone, you'll show it 365 days a year, and not just on "Valentine's Day".
true.I dunno why, but for me being expected to do something nice on that day cheapens it, as it's not from the heart, do something nice when it's not expected, and it's more geniune and from the heart.
Don't Get me wrong, I love Valentine's Day, but what I don't like is, the fact that some people do nothing to show appreciation towards their partner all year, and then on Valentine's, they go out for a "Romantic Meal" and sit there Barely speaking, or pretending to have a great time. Just seems very fake. Which is why I feel, if you truly care about someone, you'll show it 365 days a year, and not just on "Valentine's Day".
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Penfriend: But True, That's my point... you should show how you feel EVERYDAY, it's like the song "If Tomorrow Never Comes" I could get hit by a bus before Valentines, so I want her to know how much she means to me..
I spent 4 yrs with someone, and only 1 day out of those 4yrs, did I not tell her that I loved her (As she hurt me in such a way, that I forced myself not to say them, so she knew how hurt I was, and It killed me inside not to say it)
With my ex gf, if we'd be talking, and she'd mention a magazine or a book / cd she liked and must remember to buy, if I was out somewhere, I'd buy it for her, and then surprise her with it.
I'd Put an effort into cooking a simple meal, and present it as nicest I could.
Maybe it's just my way of thinking, but I thing It's the little things like that show that you pay attention and appreciate her when she speaks, by picking up her favorite magazine, or renting a movie you know she wants to watch, or by telling her to put her feet up, whilst you cook, do the dishes, clean or whatever etc..
hi pen ...been there ...done it....i know the pain......I spent 4 yrs with someone, and only 1 day out of those 4yrs, did I not tell her that I loved her (As she hurt me in such a way, that I forced myself not to say them, so she knew how hurt I was, and It killed me inside not to say it)
With my ex gf, if we'd be talking, and she'd mention a magazine or a book / cd she liked and must remember to buy, if I was out somewhere, I'd buy it for her, and then surprise her with it.
I'd Put an effort into cooking a simple meal, and present it as nicest I could.
Maybe it's just my way of thinking, but I thing It's the little things like that show that you pay attention and appreciate her when she speaks, by picking up her favorite magazine, or renting a movie you know she wants to watch, or by telling her to put her feet up, whilst you cook, do the dishes, clean or whatever etc..
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Penfriend: Show it the other 364 days a year too!!
I dunno why, but for me being expected to do something nice on that day cheapens it, as it's not from the heart, do something nice when it's not expected, and it's more geniune and from the heart.
Don't Get me wrong, I love Valentine's Day, but what I don't like is, the fact that some people do nothing to show appreciation towards their partner all year, and then on Valentine's, they go out for a "Romantic Meal" and sit there Barely speaking, or pretending to have a great time. Just seems very fake. Which is why I feel, if you truly care about someone, you'll show it 365 days a year, and not just on "Valentine's Day".
Some people have difficulty showing their feelings. It just is. Some will show it everyday. I was lucky. A friend asked me one time about remarrying, and I asked her where did she think I could find a man who wakes up every morning and the first thought on his mind is how can he make my day a good oneI dunno why, but for me being expected to do something nice on that day cheapens it, as it's not from the heart, do something nice when it's not expected, and it's more geniune and from the heart.
Don't Get me wrong, I love Valentine's Day, but what I don't like is, the fact that some people do nothing to show appreciation towards their partner all year, and then on Valentine's, they go out for a "Romantic Meal" and sit there Barely speaking, or pretending to have a great time. Just seems very fake. Which is why I feel, if you truly care about someone, you'll show it 365 days a year, and not just on "Valentine's Day".
It is funny I have heard that women like bad boys and do not like a man that is really nice. So you would of thought I would of walked all over this man. But the truth is I loved him more than anything. I loved the very air he breathed. We showed each other daily not so much as with gifts but with actions in our daily lives toward each other. So valentines day is nice but so is every other day. And if you have someone who has a hard time showing their feelings I am sure there is something keeping you with that persons so except them for who they are. And remember actions speak louder than words 
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Valentine's Day... Another Christmas-like ripoff.
Fortunately, I don't need Valentine to tell me when and how I should display my love and affection.
But it is a nice day just in the knowing that many many girlfriends and boyfriends, husbands and wives will make the extra effort of understanding each other and strive to make the day special.
Fortunately, I don't need Valentine to tell me when and how I should display my love and affection.
But it is a nice day just in the knowing that many many girlfriends and boyfriends, husbands and wives will make the extra effort of understanding each other and strive to make the day special.
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Maybe many of us feel that we have no one else to express our affection to. Sometimes I do random acts of kindness just to feel I have worth. I spend a lot of time on CS BSing with people I don't know and will never know apart from this site, just to have someone to communicate with. It makes no difference whether I have anything in common with them, they are here and they have needs that are not being met anyplace but here. It's this or nothing at all for many of us.
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Mermaidon: Valentine's Day... Another Christmas-like ripoff.
Fortunately, I don't need Valentine to tell me when and how I should display my love and affection.
But it is a nice day just in the knowing that many many girlfriends and boyfriends, husbands and wives will make the extra effort of understanding each other and strive to make the day special.
Fortunately, I don't need Valentine to tell me when and how I should display my love and affection.
But it is a nice day just in the knowing that many many girlfriends and boyfriends, husbands and wives will make the extra effort of understanding each other and strive to make the day special.
The difference is at Valentine`s day you are buying a gift for someone you love. Christmas you buy gifts for people because of obligation not love.
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single4ever: The difference is at Valentine`s day you are buying a gift for someone you love. Christmas you buy gifts for people because of obligation not love.
That's not my experience.
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Mermaidon: That's not my experience.
I learned that you know who your true friends are and how much your family loves you when you simply don't buy any gifts at Christmas. We now just have a simple dinner or coffee and have done away with the gift giving as friendship/companionship is the gift that just can't be bought.
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single4ever: I learned that you know who your true friends are and how much your family loves you when you simply don't buy any gifts at Christmas. We now just have a simple dinner or coffee and have done away with the gift giving as friendship/companionship is the gift that just can't be bought.
I totally agree!
That's why I don't like orchestrated Holidays that pretend to tell you how you should feel and what you should do to display that feeling towards a loved one.
I'm a unique individual and, by my artistic nature and personal character, I'm quite extravagant and out of the ordinary. I don't appreciate society telling me how I should relate to my loved ones and family. I will display my love, respect and friendship how I see fit and I don't give a damn if it's not popular or misunderstood.
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Mermaidon: I totally agree!
That's why I don't like orchestrated Holidays that pretend to tell you how you should feel and what you should do to display that feeling towards a loved one.
I'm a unique individual and, by my artistic nature and personal character, I'm quite extravagant and out of the ordinary. I don't appreciate society telling me how I should relate to my loved ones and family. I will display my love, respect and friendship how I see fit and I don't give a damn if it's not popular or misunderstood.
That's why I don't like orchestrated Holidays that pretend to tell you how you should feel and what you should do to display that feeling towards a loved one.
I'm a unique individual and, by my artistic nature and personal character, I'm quite extravagant and out of the ordinary. I don't appreciate society telling me how I should relate to my loved ones and family. I will display my love, respect and friendship how I see fit and I don't give a damn if it's not popular or misunderstood.
Yeah; I feel the same way. I sometimes think people truly forget the little things that are so special to another without being pressured by a holiday. My friend dropped by today with a coffee and two Roses for no other reason than he was thinking of me. A couple weeks ago; I made him cookies and chocolate truffles for no reason other than to say thanks for being my friend.
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Penfriend: Show it the other 364 days a year too!!
I dunno why, but for me being expected to do something nice on that day cheapens it, as it's not from the heart, do something nice when it's not expected, and it's more geniune and from the heart.
Don't Get me wrong, I love Valentine's Day, but what I don't like is, the fact that some people do nothing to show appreciation towards their partner all year, and then on Valentine's, they go out for a "Romantic Meal" and sit there Barely speaking, or pretending to have a great time. Just seems very fake. Which is why I feel, if you truly care about someone, you'll show it 365 days a year, and not just on "Valentine's Day".
I dunno why, but for me being expected to do something nice on that day cheapens it, as it's not from the heart, do something nice when it's not expected, and it's more geniune and from the heart.
Don't Get me wrong, I love Valentine's Day, but what I don't like is, the fact that some people do nothing to show appreciation towards their partner all year, and then on Valentine's, they go out for a "Romantic Meal" and sit there Barely speaking, or pretending to have a great time. Just seems very fake. Which is why I feel, if you truly care about someone, you'll show it 365 days a year, and not just on "Valentine's Day".
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I dunno why, but for me being expected to do something nice on that day cheapens it, as it's not from the heart, do something nice when it's not expected, and it's more geniune and from the heart.
Don't Get me wrong, I love Valentine's Day, but what I don't like is, the fact that some people do nothing to show appreciation towards their partner all year, and then on Valentine's, they go out for a "Romantic Meal" and sit there Barely speaking, or pretending to have a great time. Just seems very fake. Which is why I feel, if you truly care about someone, you'll show it 365 days a year, and not just on "Valentine's Day".