A "SEPERATED" MAN OR WOMAN (105)
montemonte: NOPE. They are still married.
Besides, often the man goes back to his wife but I'm not sure about how often a woman goes back to her husband
Besides, often the man goes back to his wife but I'm not sure about how often a woman goes back to her husband
not sure about that either
but I have read that statistically men tend to more often remarry after a divorce than a woman
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It depends on the situation.
Although a date is for meeting and assessing if the person is worth investing time on him and taking the opportunity to know each other.
Although a date is for meeting and assessing if the person is worth investing time on him and taking the opportunity to know each other.
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_R_J_: This thing looks to me as same as some females with two, three or whatever kids looking for guy, it is obvious they wouldn't look for guy if they would be kidless, not much wants to takes them, cause practically everybody understands they looks morelikely for nanny so and here it's obvious people like that are USERS and will use you. They will throw their lives mistakes on someone's else shoulders. I personally wouldn't go for separated (not divorced or widowed) woman, cause it doesn't looks serious, plus if she's still in legal engangement with someone she makes her be errant anyway. Aren't there not enough girls that are not taken to fall in this? No
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montemonte: If I wanted to get married again, why would I date a man who is separated. There is no way I can know that he will divorce her.
As Glaitol said, it takes 5 years before you can divorce. Suppose I invest 5 years in a relationship and then he goes back to her or he decides to stay separated for various reasons. I then have wasted 5 years of my life on someone whose intent wasn't truthful.
Separated means living apart and still married. I respect the institution of marriage and would never get involved with a married man. It's not the way I float my boat.
As Glaitol said, it takes 5 years before you can divorce. Suppose I invest 5 years in a relationship and then he goes back to her or he decides to stay separated for various reasons. I then have wasted 5 years of my life on someone whose intent wasn't truthful.
Separated means living apart and still married. I respect the institution of marriage and would never get involved with a married man. It's not the way I float my boat.
I agree, well said.
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Before I did have a bad experience with a separated British guy. Just unbelievably difficult. I will not touch this kind of guy anymore. I leave the chance for someone who have very tough strings.
you have to be extremely good to win. Your time and energy is just down the drain.
you have to be extremely good to win. Your time and energy is just down the drain.
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peonyjenny: Before I did have a bad experience with a separated British guy. Just unbelievably difficult. I will not touch this kind of guy anymore. I leave the chance for someone who have very tough strings.
you have to be extremely good to win. Your time and energy is just down the drain.
this is why I say no....he/she...are on the rebound......no one wins............you have to be extremely good to win. Your time and energy is just down the drain.
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Date someone who is separated? No.
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CuddlingSoul: Date someone who is separated? No.
In Ireland you have to be seperated 4 years before a divorce is granted.Its a long time to be alone
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Catibrae: In Ireland you have to be seperated 4 years before a divorce is granted.
Its a long time to be alone
that's a long time...I waited..5/6 weeks....for the final.Its a long time to be alone
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truheart1941: that's a long time...I waited..5/6 weeks....for the final.
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Catibrae: In Ireland you have to be seperated 4 years before a divorce is granted.
Its a long time to be alone
Its a long time to be alone
It's been twelve years for me, have not seen or spoke to spouse since.
I am way past rebound, what matters most is mental or spiritual
commitment. There is no baggage or animosity about the relationship.
If that does not qualify for dating a certain percentage, so be it.
If in the future I wish to marry again, I will get divorced accordingly.
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truheart1941: by way I did the divorcing.
The ex and I have to appear in fornt of a judge yet and if he/she doesnt like our settlement arrangements, he wont grant the divorce.
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Catibrae: The ex and I have to appear in fornt of a judge yet and if he/she doesnt like our settlement arrangements, he wont grant the divorce.
That happened a friend of mine, even though she was happy with the agreement the judge said she wasnt getting enough and refused to grant the divorce until they changed it.
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Glatlol: That happened a friend of mine, even though she was happy with the agreement the judge said she wasnt getting enough and refused to grant the divorce until they changed it.
Glat....you're looking GREAT !! 
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montemonte: Glat....you're looking GREAT !!
Why thank you M. Am feeling great, the pic was taken at my daughters 18th birthday party last week.
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pedalguy59: It's been twelve years for me, have not seen or spoke to spouse since.
I am way past rebound, what matters most is mental or spiritual
commitment. There is no baggage or animosity about the relationship.
If that does not qualify for dating a certain percentage, so be it.
If in the future I wish to marry again, I will get divorced accordingly.
I am way past rebound, what matters most is mental or spiritual
commitment. There is no baggage or animosity about the relationship.
If that does not qualify for dating a certain percentage, so be it.
If in the future I wish to marry again, I will get divorced accordingly.
I understand why people may be concerned and I love your post because I was in exactly the same position. However, my ex and and I did attempt a reconciliation almost two years ago after 10 years of no personal contact. The reconciliation occurred during and after our son's wedding. He was married in Barbados and both of us were determined not to spoil the day. It was a beautiful and romantic setting, and as we had spent a huge part of our lives together previously, it just kind of happened. Big mistake though! Another year down the line we both realised it.
So yes, I do understand why people are nervous about dating a separated person.
I am still separated though and have no intention of attempting any further reconciliation with my ex husband. Does that mean nobody would consider contacting me? No, not at all. My mailbox is plentiful of men who do not consider separation as a red flag like many of the forum posters here.
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what is mean "separated" ??? that's a big silly...
a marriage can work, or not and when is not working each must follow his own way, not stay hanged by ..."separated" ... this is helping both with what ?? for save the conveniences ? or not split the "fortune" :))) or may be both are weak...
"separated" is like wear an big umbrella in sunny days without enjoy the light...
each must be free to chose a new way in life, because "show must go on", world will not stop run just because someone divorce...
so, "separated" means to accept voluntarily wear a leash and this "kill" the freedom to chose a new way
a marriage can work, or not and when is not working each must follow his own way, not stay hanged by ..."separated" ... this is helping both with what ?? for save the conveniences ? or not split the "fortune" :))) or may be both are weak...
"separated" is like wear an big umbrella in sunny days without enjoy the light...
each must be free to chose a new way in life, because "show must go on", world will not stop run just because someone divorce...
so, "separated" means to accept voluntarily wear a leash and this "kill" the freedom to chose a new way
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Hi, You seem to make a number of presumptions for someone who never committed to marriage in the first place but I respect your views. However speaking as someone who was separated over a year before coming on this site (which was a big decision to re-enter the 'pool'), I had already deliberated on some of the issues you mentioned, such as moving on, as any 'normal separated person' would do.
Thus said; would a separated person not be safer, more stable and more confident of what they wish for the future as they would already have learned some of life's failings and pitfalls.
To quote: "It is better to have tried and failed than never tried at all". Also as human beings......do we not learn from our past failings? I also note that especially in your great and open-minded country 'failure', especially in business is worn as a badge of honour, and so it should be; it's all part of the learning process, as life is.
Yes, you have made some very valid points however I feel you arguement may be a little one-sided.
Thus said; would a separated person not be safer, more stable and more confident of what they wish for the future as they would already have learned some of life's failings and pitfalls.
To quote: "It is better to have tried and failed than never tried at all". Also as human beings......do we not learn from our past failings? I also note that especially in your great and open-minded country 'failure', especially in business is worn as a badge of honour, and so it should be; it's all part of the learning process, as life is.
Yes, you have made some very valid points however I feel you arguement may be a little one-sided.
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getitcyber: Hi, You seem to make a number of presumptions for someone who never committed to marriage in the first place but I respect your views. However speaking as someone who was separated over a year before coming on this site (which was a big decision to re-enter the 'pool'), I had already deliberated on some of the issues you mentioned, such as moving on, as any 'normal separated person' would do.
Thus said; would a separated person not be safer, more stable and more confident of what they wish for the future as they would already have learned some of life's failings and pitfalls.
To quote: "It is better to have tried and failed than never tried at all". Also as human beings......do we not learn from our past failings? I also note that especially in your great and open-minded country 'failure', especially in business is worn as a badge of honour, and so it should be; it's all part of the learning process, as life is.
Yes, you have made some very valid points however I feel you arguement may be a little one-sided.
Thus said; would a separated person not be safer, more stable and more confident of what they wish for the future as they would already have learned some of life's failings and pitfalls.
To quote: "It is better to have tried and failed than never tried at all". Also as human beings......do we not learn from our past failings? I also note that especially in your great and open-minded country 'failure', especially in business is worn as a badge of honour, and so it should be; it's all part of the learning process, as life is.
Yes, you have made some very valid points however I feel you arguement may be a little one-sided.
Who are you quoting?
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NOPE. They are still married.
Besides, often the man goes back to his wife but I'm not sure about how often a woman goes back to her husband