A "SEPERATED" MAN OR WOMAN (105)
ekselfOnehorsetown, Eastern Cape South Africa8 Threads 261 PostsDepends on the reason why he is not divorced. Some people use that as an excuse not to get too involved.
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I'm separated because divorces aren't instantaneous. I don't think that makes me undateable.
Everyone who has been married is separated for a certain amount of time. Thankfully my divorce should be final by the end of the month.
We're still good friends, we both wish each other well. There's no baggage whatsoever, never has been.
The only reason it's taken longer than normal to get divorced is because I went to the UK for a year, it was simply easier to sort it all out once I came back to Australia.
You can't judge everyone by their relationship status.
Everyone who has been married is separated for a certain amount of time. Thankfully my divorce should be final by the end of the month.
We're still good friends, we both wish each other well. There's no baggage whatsoever, never has been.
The only reason it's taken longer than normal to get divorced is because I went to the UK for a year, it was simply easier to sort it all out once I came back to Australia.
You can't judge everyone by their relationship status.
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I've been separated for years, haven't seen or spoken to my husband in over two. The law of the land means that I can't get divorced yet, but if anybody wants to use that as a reason not to date me then that's fine with me too. Weeds down the dating pool.
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Ken_19:
Always respect the word married is my advice. Separated is just another word for married. Come on back when the word is divorced.
Always respect the word married is my advice. Separated is just another word for married. Come on back when the word is divorced.
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Glatlol: Along with "does size matter" this has to be one of the most frequently asked question in here.
My opinion is the same as always. Divorce is only available here since 1996 therefore there where countless couple who were in second relationships with any divorces.
You have to be living apart 5 years to apply for a divorce so yes I would date someone who was seperapted, I was 11 years seperated before I divorced, I simply wasnt bothered, I was no longer married in my heart and the divorce was just a piece of paper to say what I already felt.
My opinion is the same as always. Divorce is only available here since 1996 therefore there where countless couple who were in second relationships with any divorces.
You have to be living apart 5 years to apply for a divorce so yes I would date someone who was seperapted, I was 11 years seperated before I divorced, I simply wasnt bothered, I was no longer married in my heart and the divorce was just a piece of paper to say what I already felt.
and i glad you keep posting it.
it was here on cs that i learned that.
initially i was always of the mind...i wouldn't date someone who was separated as it suggested unfinished business to me.
learning about laws in other countries has broadened my perspective.
thank you
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lalasierra: Would you date someone who is seperated from his wife or her husband?
Some things that are obvious to be considered: Are you willing to invest your time, energy and emotions to someone who MIGHT get back together with their husband or wife? Are you up for the competition? What if you've fallen in love with this person? What if the one you're with isn't the one who wanted the seperation and would jump at the oppportunity to go back if the spouse decided to take them back and try to salvage their marriage. You COULD be dropped like a hot potato!
Some things that are obvious to be considered: Are you willing to invest your time, energy and emotions to someone who MIGHT get back together with their husband or wife? Are you up for the competition? What if you've fallen in love with this person? What if the one you're with isn't the one who wanted the seperation and would jump at the oppportunity to go back if the spouse decided to take them back and try to salvage their marriage. You COULD be dropped like a hot potato!
Somebody MIGHT get back together with an ex whether they were married, or not, divorced, or not.
They MIGHT get together with someone new.
You Might get dropped like a hot potato, even if there's no one else involved.
Why would seperation be the salient point in all this? Wouldn't commitment to the relationship have something to do with it? Compatibility? Distance? Financial issues? Health, even? The ability to reason logically?
lalasierra: There are a few scenario's to be up against with someone who is seperated. The word "unstable" comes to mind.
Anyone might be unstable in terms of relationships, whether they have seperated status, or not. If you're looking for stability, its probably a good idea to look for stability, not some paperwork that says a word.
If you want to know how tall someone is, do you look at their eye colour?
lalasierra: On the other hand, he/she may NOT have any intention's on going back but their spouse wants to buy time, thinking they may change their mind and return to the marriage. So the word "seperated" may be hindering this individual from dating because the word "seperated" is an automatic red flag to people. They may feel that there is too much bagagge/drama and not even give the seperated person a chance?
If being seperated is a red flag to someone, they obviously don't have the nous to work out a logical fallacy when they see one and they will reason using assumptions and stereotyping. Its difficult to communicate effectively with someone like this, so I'd say its no great loss.
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If I wanted to get married again, why would I date a man who is separated. There is no way I can know that he will divorce her.
As Glaitol said, it takes 5 years before you can divorce. Suppose I invest 5 years in a relationship and then he goes back to her or he decides to stay separated for various reasons. I then have wasted 5 years of my life on someone whose intent wasn't truthful.
Separated means living apart and still married. I respect the institution of marriage and would never get involved with a married man. It's not the way I float my boat.
As Glaitol said, it takes 5 years before you can divorce. Suppose I invest 5 years in a relationship and then he goes back to her or he decides to stay separated for various reasons. I then have wasted 5 years of my life on someone whose intent wasn't truthful.
Separated means living apart and still married. I respect the institution of marriage and would never get involved with a married man. It's not the way I float my boat.
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lalasierra: Would you date someone who is seperated from his wife or her husband?
Some things that are obvious to be considered: Are you willing to invest your time, energy and emotions to someone who MIGHT get back together with their husband or wife? Are you up for the competition? What if you've fallen in love with this person? What if the one you're with isn't the one who wanted the seperation and would jump at the oppportunity to go back if the spouse decided to take them back and try to salvage their marriage. You COULD be dropped like a hot potato!
There are a few scenario's to be up against with someone who is seperated. The word "unstable" comes to mind.
On the other hand, he/she may NOT have any intention's on going back but their spouse wants to buy time, thinking they may change their mind and return to the marriage. So the word "seperated" may be hindering this individual from dating because the word "seperated" is an automatic red flag to people. They may feel that there is too much bagagge/drama and not even give the seperated person a chance?
Hmmm???
Some things that are obvious to be considered: Are you willing to invest your time, energy and emotions to someone who MIGHT get back together with their husband or wife? Are you up for the competition? What if you've fallen in love with this person? What if the one you're with isn't the one who wanted the seperation and would jump at the oppportunity to go back if the spouse decided to take them back and try to salvage their marriage. You COULD be dropped like a hot potato!
There are a few scenario's to be up against with someone who is seperated. The word "unstable" comes to mind.
On the other hand, he/she may NOT have any intention's on going back but their spouse wants to buy time, thinking they may change their mind and return to the marriage. So the word "seperated" may be hindering this individual from dating because the word "seperated" is an automatic red flag to people. They may feel that there is too much bagagge/drama and not even give the seperated person a chance?
Hmmm???
Probably not. Takes times to resolve most relationships, if not the feelings, the dynamics of mental observations that need adjusting before entering in to something new.
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Years ago, I used to go out on one or two dates with women who were separated, but I never wanted to get any closer than that to someone still married. Nowadays, I never go out with separated women, way_ too dangerous anymore. There's at least one or two murder-suicides a week here due to this type of shenanigans. No thanks.
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lalasierra: Would you date someone who is seperated from his wife or her husband?
Hmmm???
Hmmm???
no, why wasting my time.... "We only live once, but once is enough if we do it right...."
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Glatlol: Along with "does size matter" this has to be one of the most frequently asked question in here.
My opinion is the same as always. Divorce is only available here since 1996 therefore there where countless couple who were in second relationships with any divorces.
You have to be living apart 5 years to apply for a divorce so yes I would date someone who was seperapted, I was 11 years seperated before I divorced, I simply wasnt bothered, I was no longer married in my heart and the divorce was just a piece of paper to say what I already felt.
My opinion is the same as always. Divorce is only available here since 1996 therefore there where countless couple who were in second relationships with any divorces.
You have to be living apart 5 years to apply for a divorce so yes I would date someone who was seperapted, I was 11 years seperated before I divorced, I simply wasnt bothered, I was no longer married in my heart and the divorce was just a piece of paper to say what I already felt.
No. Divorce has been around for hundreds of years. Ask Anne Boleyn about that. Possibly what you meant was, in Ireland?
I saw that in NY back when I was a kid, before NY had no-fault and quickie divorces. Folks who really wanted the marriage to be over simply boarded a bus to Reno, Nevada and got their divorce there. Folks who really, really, wanted out of the relationship flew to the Dominican Republic and got their divorce there and were back home and legally divorced a few days later. Those options remain available for those who wish out of the relationship and who also wish to date. You may or may not be admissable to the US, but only a very small percentage of people are not admissible to the Dominican Republic, so take the week off, fly down, get the divorce and date who you want.
No? What you are saying to me (man or female) is want all of the plus benefits of the new partner but to also have a weasel clause so you can get out of it going any further. There is also the 3rd party. I had a friend once (dead now) who 2 decades ago dated a woman who was 'separated' for several years. LoL, but it wasn't funny. One day he was in her home and the husband who had just gotten out of the prison came home and beat the hell out of him.
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Ken_19: No. Divorce has been around for hundreds of years. Ask Anne Boleyn about that. Possibly what you meant was, in Ireland?
I saw that in NY back when I was a kid, before NY had no-fault and quickie divorces. Folks who really wanted the marriage to be over simply boarded a bus to Reno, Nevada and got their divorce there. Folks who really, really, wanted out of the relationship flew to the Dominican Republic and got their divorce there and were back home and legally divorced a few days later. Those options remain available for those who wish out of the relationship and who also wish to date. You may or may not be admissable to the US, but only a very small percentage of people are not admissible to the Dominican Republic, so take the week off, fly down, get the divorce and date who you want.
No? What you are saying to me (man or female) is want all of the plus benefits of the new partner but to also have a weasel clause so you can get out of it going any further. There is also the 3rd party. I had a friend once (dead now) who 2 decades ago dated a woman who was 'separated' for several years. LoL, but it wasn't funny. One day he was in her home and the husband who had just gotten out of the prison came home and beat the hell out of him.
I saw that in NY back when I was a kid, before NY had no-fault and quickie divorces. Folks who really wanted the marriage to be over simply boarded a bus to Reno, Nevada and got their divorce there. Folks who really, really, wanted out of the relationship flew to the Dominican Republic and got their divorce there and were back home and legally divorced a few days later. Those options remain available for those who wish out of the relationship and who also wish to date. You may or may not be admissable to the US, but only a very small percentage of people are not admissible to the Dominican Republic, so take the week off, fly down, get the divorce and date who you want.
No? What you are saying to me (man or female) is want all of the plus benefits of the new partner but to also have a weasel clause so you can get out of it going any further. There is also the 3rd party. I had a friend once (dead now) who 2 decades ago dated a woman who was 'separated' for several years. LoL, but it wasn't funny. One day he was in her home and the husband who had just gotten out of the prison came home and beat the hell out of him.
Of course, that is why I said "here".
I dont want to get married again regardless, dont know what you think I am trying to weasel out of
. We all have stories we could tell about any given situation, good and bad.
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This thing looks to me as same as some females with two, three or whatever kids looking for guy, it is obvious they wouldn't look for guy if they would be kidless, not much wants to takes them, cause practically everybody understands they looks morelikely for nanny so and here it's obvious people like that are USERS and will use you. They will throw their lives mistakes on someone's else shoulders. I personally wouldn't go for separated (not divorced or widowed) woman, cause it doesn't looks serious, plus if she's still in legal engangement with someone she makes her be errant anyway. Aren't there not enough girls that are not taken to fall in this? No
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Oh yes, yes, yes and definitely yes
I would seriously date a separated woman as long as she is not still dating her X
Dating a separated woman to me is MUCH better than dating most so-called "single" women who are as promiscuous as online text
At least I reasonably know that she is family or relationship oriented and is not one to be going around sleeping in every unoccupied (or occupied) bird nest!
Potarick
I would seriously date a separated woman as long as she is not still dating her X
Dating a separated woman to me is MUCH better than dating most so-called "single" women who are as promiscuous as online text
At least I reasonably know that she is family or relationship oriented and is not one to be going around sleeping in every unoccupied (or occupied) bird nest!
Potarick
lalasierra: Would you date someone who is seperated from his wife or her husband?
Some things that are obvious to be considered: Are you willing to invest your time, energy and emotions to someone who MIGHT get back together with their husband or wife? Are you up for the competition? What if you've fallen in love with this person? What if the one you're with isn't the one who wanted the seperation and would jump at the oppportunity to go back if the spouse decided to take them back and try to salvage their marriage. You COULD be dropped like a hot potato!
There are a few scenario's to be up against with someone who is seperated. The word "unstable" comes to mind.
On the other hand, he/she may NOT have any intention's on going back but their spouse wants to buy time, thinking they may change their mind and return to the marriage. So the word "seperated" may be hindering this individual from dating because the word "seperated" is an automatic red flag to people. They may feel that there is too much bagagge/drama and not even give the seperated person a chance?
Hmmm???
Some things that are obvious to be considered: Are you willing to invest your time, energy and emotions to someone who MIGHT get back together with their husband or wife? Are you up for the competition? What if you've fallen in love with this person? What if the one you're with isn't the one who wanted the seperation and would jump at the oppportunity to go back if the spouse decided to take them back and try to salvage their marriage. You COULD be dropped like a hot potato!
There are a few scenario's to be up against with someone who is seperated. The word "unstable" comes to mind.
On the other hand, he/she may NOT have any intention's on going back but their spouse wants to buy time, thinking they may change their mind and return to the marriage. So the word "seperated" may be hindering this individual from dating because the word "seperated" is an automatic red flag to people. They may feel that there is too much bagagge/drama and not even give the seperated person a chance?
Hmmm???
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seems we have ourselves another Poetic Tsunami!
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lalasierra: Would you date someone who is seperated from his wife or her husband?
Some things that are obvious to be considered: Are you willing to invest your time, energy and emotions to someone who MIGHT get back together with their husband or wife? Are you up for the competition? What if you've fallen in love with this person? What if the one you're with isn't the one who wanted the seperation and would jump at the oppportunity to go back if the spouse decided to take them back and try to salvage their marriage. You COULD be dropped like a hot potato!
There are a few scenario's to be up against with someone who is seperated. The word "unstable" comes to mind.
On the other hand, he/she may NOT have any intention's on going back but their spouse wants to buy time, thinking they may change their mind and return to the marriage. So the word "seperated" may be hindering this individual from dating because the word "seperated" is an automatic red flag to people. They may feel that there is too much bagagge/drama and not even give the seperated person a chance?
Hmmm???
Some things that are obvious to be considered: Are you willing to invest your time, energy and emotions to someone who MIGHT get back together with their husband or wife? Are you up for the competition? What if you've fallen in love with this person? What if the one you're with isn't the one who wanted the seperation and would jump at the oppportunity to go back if the spouse decided to take them back and try to salvage their marriage. You COULD be dropped like a hot potato!
There are a few scenario's to be up against with someone who is seperated. The word "unstable" comes to mind.
On the other hand, he/she may NOT have any intention's on going back but their spouse wants to buy time, thinking they may change their mind and return to the marriage. So the word "seperated" may be hindering this individual from dating because the word "seperated" is an automatic red flag to people. They may feel that there is too much bagagge/drama and not even give the seperated person a chance?
Hmmm???
lol well I am a pretty hot potato so I guess I should stay clear of separated men
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