Could it really be that nice guys finish last? (39)
Kiki95: Been seeing a guy that treats me like an absolute princess. Does everything one would expect from a boyfriend and goes out of his way to make me smile.
I know I'll sound awful, but him and I have no chemistry. I've gone out with him a few times to see if we could find a spark. But talking to him over the phone has even become tedious.
I find it awful that I have wasted his time. And I now realise why people guard themselves when it comes to dating. Guys work very hard to impress a woman without knowing the spark isn't there, when the couple separates the guy may think he was being "too nice" and proceed from then to treat future partners with less respect and kindness (and vice versa, I'm not limiting this opinion to males only)
Yikes.. Maybe I'll just stay in my sweatpants and watch The Simpsons for the rest of my life instead. Lol
I know I'll sound awful, but him and I have no chemistry. I've gone out with him a few times to see if we could find a spark. But talking to him over the phone has even become tedious.
I find it awful that I have wasted his time. And I now realise why people guard themselves when it comes to dating. Guys work very hard to impress a woman without knowing the spark isn't there, when the couple separates the guy may think he was being "too nice" and proceed from then to treat future partners with less respect and kindness (and vice versa, I'm not limiting this opinion to males only)
Yikes.. Maybe I'll just stay in my sweatpants and watch The Simpsons for the rest of my life instead. Lol
I've been bigged up for my reply but I have no magic words that will change anything.
You sound like a girl I know. She had a boyfriend who was nice, nice to a fault, and when she told him off for being too nice he apologised. Shortly after he won first prize in a 'how to miss the point' contest.
You have to dump him and you have to tell him the reason why. How he handles the truth will decide which way he goes. Many a misogynist begins his life as a nice guy and he may go this way, or he may not, he may learn to accept how different women are and come to love them for it. It is up to him whether he chooses to live with or against reality. You can do no more for him. What he really needs is a man who knows what he's doing to take him under his wing. A woman cannot be this mentor.
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mnowsa: yeap..pretty much so. After "fooling" around with all the "bad & wrong" guys, women finally want to decide "find" a nice guy as all those "bad & wrong" guys don't them anymore..
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It is always harder to dump a nice guy as you feel more guilty for hurting someone who has always treated you well. You can't stay with someone just because he/she is nice. I know lots of nice guys who are happily married so don't worry they don't end up last.
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felixis99: I agree. In fact the last guy I dated where the "spark" wasn't there I ditched because I felt guilty spending any more of his money and/or wasting his time...I really was worried more about his time more than wasting my own, but the spark simply was not there....
I guess everyone is looking for something different and guys like that eventually find someone
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I don't mind finishing last if she finishes first 
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Track16: I don't mind finishing last if she finishes first
Very thoughtful
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Track16: I don't mind finishing last if she finishes first
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I insist she finish first :)
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Track16: I insist she finish first :)
Can take a while
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serene56: Can take a while
It usually does but I don't mind lol
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Track16: I insist she finish first :)
What a gentleman!
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...I would,nt mind spending a week in bed......(it takes time).........
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Your young and got your whole life ahead of you. The right one will come along and you'll know it. I'm one of those guys and I know I'll find another one. My ex thought she wanted a bad boy and now she's regretting it!
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Geez!!!!!
are we still talking about this subject?!?!?!
from my experience, nice guys don't even get into the race, meaning that if we don't have a chance to start we NEVER finish.
I try to talk to people here and get completely ignored.
And women around here wont even give me the time of day.
If what I said sounds bitter, that's because I am.
are we still talking about this subject?!?!?!
from my experience, nice guys don't even get into the race, meaning that if we don't have a chance to start we NEVER finish.
I try to talk to people here and get completely ignored.
And women around here wont even give me the time of day.
If what I said sounds bitter, that's because I am.
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bulldog5150: Geez!!!!!
are we still talking about this subject?!?!?!
from my experience, nice guys don't even get into the race, meaning that if we don't have a chance to start we NEVER finish.
I try to talk to people here and get completely ignored.
And women around here wont even give me the time of day.
If what I said sounds bitter, that's because I am.
are we still talking about this subject?!?!?!
from my experience, nice guys don't even get into the race, meaning that if we don't have a chance to start we NEVER finish.
I try to talk to people here and get completely ignored.
And women around here wont even give me the time of day.
If what I said sounds bitter, that's because I am.
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if the nice guy lets people walk all over him if course he will finish last. People will take advantage.
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The term nice guy is a insult to most men and sweet is also insulting, but the term good guy is far better than the term bad boy, so who fits into those categories?
1. Bad boy, the jerk that miss treats a woman, maybe cheats on her, hits her, sponges off her, never calls her etc.
2. The nice guy, nerdy, always looking for approval, always apologises for everything, bends over backwards to help the lady, gives away his feelings before she does and falls at her feet.
3. The good Guy, most people like him and respect him, he knows how to treat a woman without giving away his heart, the cool cat with a swagger much like james bond and the chat like george clooney, but sadly for the ladies these guys are in short supply.
4.My category is The normal guy, honest, kind, thoughtful, easy to talk to, never apologizes for everything, not seeking approval, not allowing his girlfriend to change him into what she wants him to be and not afraid to let his girlfriend know when he disapproves of something she does or says.
1. Bad boy, the jerk that miss treats a woman, maybe cheats on her, hits her, sponges off her, never calls her etc.
2. The nice guy, nerdy, always looking for approval, always apologises for everything, bends over backwards to help the lady, gives away his feelings before she does and falls at her feet.
3. The good Guy, most people like him and respect him, he knows how to treat a woman without giving away his heart, the cool cat with a swagger much like james bond and the chat like george clooney, but sadly for the ladies these guys are in short supply.
4.My category is The normal guy, honest, kind, thoughtful, easy to talk to, never apologizes for everything, not seeking approval, not allowing his girlfriend to change him into what she wants him to be and not afraid to let his girlfriend know when he disapproves of something she does or says.
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I think you should go out with different people to see who you have chemistry with then you work on a relationship with that person. You can still watch Homer.