Could it really be that nice guys finish last? (39)
Kiki95: Been seeing a guy that treats me like an absolute princess. Does everything one would expect from a boyfriend and goes out of his way to make me smile.
I know I'll sound awful, but him and I have no chemistry. I've gone out with him a few times to see if we could find a spark. But talking to him over the phone has even become tedious.
I find it awful that I have wasted his time. And I now realise why people guard themselves when it comes to dating. Guys work very hard to impress a woman without knowing the spark isn't there, when the couple separates the guy may think he was being "too nice" and proceed from then to treat future partners with less respect and kindness (and vice versa, I'm not limiting this opinion to males only)
Yikes.. Maybe I'll just stay in my sweatpants and watch The Simpsons for the rest of my life instead. Lol
I know I'll sound awful, but him and I have no chemistry. I've gone out with him a few times to see if we could find a spark. But talking to him over the phone has even become tedious.
I find it awful that I have wasted his time. And I now realise why people guard themselves when it comes to dating. Guys work very hard to impress a woman without knowing the spark isn't there, when the couple separates the guy may think he was being "too nice" and proceed from then to treat future partners with less respect and kindness (and vice versa, I'm not limiting this opinion to males only)
Yikes.. Maybe I'll just stay in my sweatpants and watch The Simpsons for the rest of my life instead. Lol
yeap..pretty much so. After "fooling" around with all the "bad & wrong" guys, women finally want to decide "find" a nice guy as all those "bad & wrong" guys don't them anymore..
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Kiki95: Been seeing a guy that treats me like an absolute princess. Does everything one would expect from a boyfriend and goes out of his way to make me smile.
I know I'll sound awful, but him and I have no chemistry. I've gone out with him a few times to see if we could find a spark. But talking to him over the phone has even become tedious.
I find it awful that I have wasted his time. And I now realise why people guard themselves when it comes to dating. Guys work very hard to impress a woman without knowing the spark isn't there, when the couple separates the guy may think he was being "too nice" and proceed from then to treat future partners with less respect and kindness (and vice versa, I'm not limiting this opinion to males only)
Yikes.. Maybe I'll just stay in my sweatpants and watch The Simpsons for the rest of my life instead. Lol
I know I'll sound awful, but him and I have no chemistry. I've gone out with him a few times to see if we could find a spark. But talking to him over the phone has even become tedious.
I find it awful that I have wasted his time. And I now realise why people guard themselves when it comes to dating. Guys work very hard to impress a woman without knowing the spark isn't there, when the couple separates the guy may think he was being "too nice" and proceed from then to treat future partners with less respect and kindness (and vice versa, I'm not limiting this opinion to males only)
Yikes.. Maybe I'll just stay in my sweatpants and watch The Simpsons for the rest of my life instead. Lol
Nope, not with me.
I wouldn't blame it on him being "nice".
I had it that I met guys and there was no chemistry - some I wasn't sad about it, others I was.
You have to give things a chance and sometimes it just doesn't work with someone.
That's life.
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I had a steady gf for about a year when I was in my 20's. The flame lasted for most of that time but eventually went out in her partly because she was still fond of her ex bf. I guess we were getting too used to each other and we broke up. Shortly after that I tried very hard to rekindle the spark cause I really missed her and still loved her. I sat her down and told her how I felt and that I would do just about anything to get her back. What she told me has stuck with me all my life, she said simply, "Tom, you can't make a person love you."
That left me speechless.
That left me speechless.
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ooby_dooby: I had a steady gf for about a year when I was in my 20's. The flame lasted for most of that time but eventually went out in her partly because she was still fond of her ex bf. I guess we were getting too used to each other and we broke up. Shortly after that I tried very hard to rekindle the spark cause I really missed her and still loved her. I sat her down and told her how I felt and that I would do just about anything to get her back. What she told me has stuck with me all my life, she said simply, "Tom, you can't make a person love you."
That left me speechless.
That left me speechless.
very powerful stuff, Tom. I think we all forget that. And unfortunately, I can't make myself love this guy either. Even though I have never been treated so tenderly in my life.
Hmm.. but, as KNenagh said: that's just life huh?
Roll with the punches but don't be the punching bag
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There is a poster on here named ObstinanceWorks.
I'm sure he'll pop in here and give you the answers to this question.
I'm sure he'll pop in here and give you the answers to this question.
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Kaybee50: There is a poster on here named ObstinanceWorks.
I'm sure he'll pop in here and give you the answers to this question.
I'm sure he'll pop in here and give you the answers to this question.
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Kaybee50: There is a poster on here named ObstinanceWorks.
I'm sure he'll pop in here and give you the answers to this question.
I'm sure he'll pop in here and give you the answers to this question.
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2intrigued: Yeppers....I wait with bated breath for his contribution and perhaps another word play entry.
Rumples does make some good points sometimes, and even if we don't always agree, he makes one think. 
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Kaybee50: Rumples does make some good points sometimes, and even if we don't always agree, he makes one think.
Not bad for a young grasshopper eh?
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Kaybee50: There is a poster on here named ObstinanceWorks.
I'm sure he'll pop in here and give you the answers to this question.
I'm sure he'll pop in here and give you the answers to this question.
is he on holiday?
shall i give my twopence piece worth
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Kiki95: Been seeing a guy that treats me like an absolute princess. Does everything one would expect from a boyfriend and goes out of his way to make me smile.
I know I'll sound awful, but him and I have no chemistry. I've gone out with him a few times to see if we could find a spark. But talking to him over the phone has even become tedious.
I find it awful that I have wasted his time. And I now realise why people guard themselves when it comes to dating. Guys work very hard to impress a woman without knowing the spark isn't there, when the couple separates the guy may think he was being "too nice" and proceed from then to treat future partners with less respect and kindness (and vice versa, I'm not limiting this opinion to males only)
Yikes.. Maybe I'll just stay in my sweatpants and watch The Simpsons for the rest of my life instead. Lol
This might well seem like a pointless question to you if you feel this strongly that you two are going nowhere but how long have you been seeing him ?I know I'll sound awful, but him and I have no chemistry. I've gone out with him a few times to see if we could find a spark. But talking to him over the phone has even become tedious.
I find it awful that I have wasted his time. And I now realise why people guard themselves when it comes to dating. Guys work very hard to impress a woman without knowing the spark isn't there, when the couple separates the guy may think he was being "too nice" and proceed from then to treat future partners with less respect and kindness (and vice versa, I'm not limiting this opinion to males only)
Yikes.. Maybe I'll just stay in my sweatpants and watch The Simpsons for the rest of my life instead. Lol
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Kiki95: Been seeing a guy that treats me like an absolute princess. Does everything one would expect from a boyfriend and goes out of his way to make me smile.
I know I'll sound awful, but him and I have no chemistry. I've gone out with him a few times to see if we could find a spark. But talking to him over the phone has even become tedious.
I find it awful that I have wasted his time. And I now realise why people guard themselves when it comes to dating. Guys work very hard to impress a woman without knowing the spark isn't there, when the couple separates the guy may think he was being "too nice" and proceed from then to treat future partners with less respect and kindness (and vice versa, I'm not limiting this opinion to males only)
Yikes.. Maybe I'll just stay in my sweatpants and watch The Simpsons for the rest of my life instead. Lol
I know I'll sound awful, but him and I have no chemistry. I've gone out with him a few times to see if we could find a spark. But talking to him over the phone has even become tedious.
I find it awful that I have wasted his time. And I now realise why people guard themselves when it comes to dating. Guys work very hard to impress a woman without knowing the spark isn't there, when the couple separates the guy may think he was being "too nice" and proceed from then to treat future partners with less respect and kindness (and vice versa, I'm not limiting this opinion to males only)
Yikes.. Maybe I'll just stay in my sweatpants and watch The Simpsons for the rest of my life instead. Lol
It is not because he treats you well that you are not interested in him.
It is because you have no chemistry, and he is boring.
Get rid of him and find somebody you do enjoy being with.
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Kiki95: Been seeing a guy that treats me like an absolute princess. Does everything one would expect from a boyfriend and goes out of his way to make me smile.
I know I'll sound awful, but him and I have no chemistry. I've gone out with him a few times to see if we could find a spark. But talking to him over the phone has even become tedious.
I find it awful that I have wasted his time. And I now realise why people guard themselves when it comes to dating. Guys work very hard to impress a woman without knowing the spark isn't there, when the couple separates the guy may think he was being "too nice" and proceed from then to treat future partners with less respect and kindness (and vice versa, I'm not limiting this opinion to males only)
Yikes.. Maybe I'll just stay in my sweatpants and watch The Simpsons for the rest of my life instead. Lol
I know I'll sound awful, but him and I have no chemistry. I've gone out with him a few times to see if we could find a spark. But talking to him over the phone has even become tedious.
I find it awful that I have wasted his time. And I now realise why people guard themselves when it comes to dating. Guys work very hard to impress a woman without knowing the spark isn't there, when the couple separates the guy may think he was being "too nice" and proceed from then to treat future partners with less respect and kindness (and vice versa, I'm not limiting this opinion to males only)
Yikes.. Maybe I'll just stay in my sweatpants and watch The Simpsons for the rest of my life instead. Lol
Most of us, really don't spend a lot of energy on specific women without getting some indication of reciprocated attraction. Doing otherwise is just begging to be settled for.
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Kiki95: Been seeing a guy that treats me like an absolute princess. Does everything one would expect from a boyfriend and goes out of his way to make me smile.
I know I'll sound awful, but him and I have no chemistry. I've gone out with him a few times to see if we could find a spark. But talking to him over the phone has even become tedious.
I find it awful that I have wasted his time. And I now realise why people guard themselves when it comes to dating. Guys work very hard to impress a woman without knowing the spark isn't there, when the couple separates the guy may think he was being "too nice" and proceed from then to treat future partners with less respect and kindness (and vice versa, I'm not limiting this opinion to males only)
Yikes.. Maybe I'll just stay in my sweatpants and watch The Simpsons for the rest of my life instead. Lol
I know I'll sound awful, but him and I have no chemistry. I've gone out with him a few times to see if we could find a spark. But talking to him over the phone has even become tedious.
I find it awful that I have wasted his time. And I now realise why people guard themselves when it comes to dating. Guys work very hard to impress a woman without knowing the spark isn't there, when the couple separates the guy may think he was being "too nice" and proceed from then to treat future partners with less respect and kindness (and vice versa, I'm not limiting this opinion to males only)
Yikes.. Maybe I'll just stay in my sweatpants and watch The Simpsons for the rest of my life instead. Lol
I would opt for a nice guy than a 'bad boy' any day. No, I don't think nice guys finish last (with a woman worthy of them, of course) nor should they....
The fact that he is a considerate, caring and attentive man does necessarily mean that there will definitely be a 'spark'. Nor does it mean that because its not working out he shouldn't continue to be the gentleman he clearly is.
There isn't a one-size-fits-all, nor can we please All the people ALL of the time, however hard we strive.
The key is to not let failed relationships negatively affect our behaviour and, in turn, our relationships with others in the future. Be who you are....
He will meet the right woman one day if he remains as charming as he sounds, and you will meet the right person too......
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lushguy4you: is he on holiday?
shall i give my twopence piece worth
Your twopence worth is worth twice that much. Please, do share. shall i give my twopence piece worth
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Kiki95: Been seeing a guy that treats me like an absolute princess. Does everything one would expect from a boyfriend and goes out of his way to make me smile.
I know I'll sound awful, but him and I have no chemistry. I've gone out with him a few times to see if we could find a spark. But talking to him over the phone has even become tedious.
I find it awful that I have wasted his time. And I now realise why people guard themselves when it comes to dating. Guys work very hard to impress a woman without knowing the spark isn't there, when the couple separates the guy may think he was being "too nice" and proceed from then to treat future partners with less respect and kindness (and vice versa, I'm not limiting this opinion to males only)
Yikes.. Maybe I'll just stay in my sweatpants and watch The Simpsons for the rest of my life instead. Lol
I know I'll sound awful, but him and I have no chemistry. I've gone out with him a few times to see if we could find a spark. But talking to him over the phone has even become tedious.
I find it awful that I have wasted his time. And I now realise why people guard themselves when it comes to dating. Guys work very hard to impress a woman without knowing the spark isn't there, when the couple separates the guy may think he was being "too nice" and proceed from then to treat future partners with less respect and kindness (and vice versa, I'm not limiting this opinion to males only)
Yikes.. Maybe I'll just stay in my sweatpants and watch The Simpsons for the rest of my life instead. Lol
BRING ON THE SIMPSONS....Ima comin' over to your house..lol
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Ocee102: Most of us, really don't spend a lot of energy on specific women without getting some indication of reciprocated attraction. Doing otherwise is just begging to be settled for.
I agree. In fact the last guy I dated where the "spark" wasn't there I ditched because I felt guilty spending any more of his money and/or wasting his time...I really was worried more about his time more than wasting my own, but the spark simply was not there....
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Kiki , I agree with you that chemistry is very important in the relationship.
I think you should go out with different people to see who you have chemistry with then you work on a relationship with that person. You can still watch Homer.
I think you should go out with different people to see who you have chemistry with then you work on a relationship with that person. You can still watch Homer.
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I know I'll sound awful, but him and I have no chemistry. I've gone out with him a few times to see if we could find a spark. But talking to him over the phone has even become tedious.
I find it awful that I have wasted his time. And I now realise why people guard themselves when it comes to dating. Guys work very hard to impress a woman without knowing the spark isn't there, when the couple separates the guy may think he was being "too nice" and proceed from then to treat future partners with less respect and kindness (and vice versa, I'm not limiting this opinion to males only)
Yikes.. Maybe I'll just stay in my sweatpants and watch The Simpsons for the rest of my life instead. Lol