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Oct 27, 2016 8:22 PM CST Just Chat
FireFly1978
FireFly1978FireFly1978Skyfall, Florida USA1 Threads 1 Posts
This category is dating experiences... So let's chat about them.
Maybe we can learn something from each other and get some insight into who We really are. Problems in relationships are two-sided not One! But we can only see our own side. How can we truely look over and see the other side openly??
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Oct 27, 2016 8:51 PM CST Just Chat
Shinegirl
ShinegirlShinegirlDamascus, Virginia USA5 Threads 383 Posts
FireFly1978: This category is dating experiences... So let's chat about them.
Maybe we can learn something from each other and get some insight into who We really are. Problems in relationships are two-sided not One! But we can only see our own side. How can we truely look over and see the other side openly??


Communicating with one another. Sometimes you may say or do something to the other and not realize that you have done it till they point it out and tell you how it made them feel. That goes both ways.

Then, you or the other has to care. cheers
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Oct 27, 2016 9:40 PM CST Just Chat
sophiasummer
sophiasummersophiasummerNorthland, New Zealand112 Threads 6,528 Posts
FireFly1978: This category is dating experiences... So let's chat about them.
Maybe we can learn something from each other and get some insight into who We really are. Problems in relationships are two-sided not One! But we can only see our own side. How can we truely look over and see the other side openly??



By being forgiving.
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Oct 28, 2016 5:11 AM CST Just Chat
One2note
One2noteOne2noteLondon, Essex, England UK286 Threads 3 Polls 7,606 Posts
FireFly1978: This category is dating experiences... So let's chat about them.
Maybe we can learn something from each other and get some insight into who We really are. Problems in relationships are two-sided not One! But we can only see our own side. How can we truely look over and see the other side openly??


It seem that every time a chat thread opens, people share their past experiences, often explicitly , to the point of getting a ban.... Freedom of speech has become a thing of the past & many fragile members take offence to certain comments posted..
Basically , it's like living in Russia .
doh help
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Oct 28, 2016 2:56 PM CST Just Chat
Kattte
KattteKattteVancouver, British Columbia Canada759 Posts
Shinegirl: FF, if there is no communication I don't see how a relationship can work or the couple be happy together.



I remember a divorce case in Wah. DC in which a woman filed for it. She had 5 children, been married 5 years ...When asked why she wanted a divorce, she stated that he husband had only spoken 5 times to her during their marriage, saying only one word.
She was granted the divorce within the hour...
Yes, there really are relationships in which communication is virtually and totally impossible no matter how one may try to communicate or the other only ever says one word. Makes one wonder just word it was...rolling on the floor laughing
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Oct 28, 2016 3:01 PM CST Just Chat
mollybaby
mollybabymollybabyCork City, Cork Ireland56 Threads 8 Polls 23,608 Posts
Shinegirl: Communicating with one another. Sometimes you may say or do something to the other and not realize that you have done it till they point it out and tell you how it made them feel. That goes both ways.

Then, you or the other has to care.



I agree.

If there is no communication, listening as well as talking, any relationship is doomed.
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Oct 28, 2016 3:11 PM CST Just Chat
uptall
uptalluptallQuiet village..., Durham, England UK57 Threads 1 Polls 12,860 Posts
mollybaby: I agree.

If there is no communication, listening as well as talking, any relationship is doomed.



That's right Molly .. And lots tell lies instead of just being honest about everything. Then they make a mistake and it comes out, so then comes the can I trust them?? That's a hard thing when it's in real life and, even harder when it's just by mail and you've not even met them. It's best to be you, floors and warts. Just be honest from the start, we all have themgrin

And good evening you little honeypothug
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Oct 28, 2016 6:58 PM CST Just Chat
Lonely1
Lonely1Lonely1Ottawa, Ontario Canada76 Threads 21 Polls 1,858 Posts
Kattte: I remember a divorce case in Wah. DC in which a woman filed for it. She had 5 children, been married 5 years ...When asked why she wanted a divorce, she stated that he husband had only spoken 5 times to her during their marriage, saying only one word.
She was granted the divorce within the hour...
Yes, there really are relationships in which communication is virtually and totally impossible no matter how one may try to communicate or the other only ever says one word. Makes one wonder just word it was...


There is even something worse than not talking: never giving a woman flowers.wow

I know two women who almost killed me when they told me, and I said that was a lie because there must have been flowers at the wedding. Sad to say, those two women are now divorced.
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Oct 28, 2016 7:04 PM CST Just Chat
mollybaby
mollybabymollybabyCork City, Cork Ireland56 Threads 8 Polls 23,608 Posts
uptall: That's right Molly .. And lots tell lies instead of just being honest about everything. Then they make a mistake and it comes out, so then comes the can I trust them?? That's a hard thing when it's in real life and, even harder when it's just by mail and you've not even met them. It's best to be you, floors and warts. Just be honest from the start, we all have them

And good evening you little honeypot


That's why I think LDRs are not a good idea.

You need to have met and to know a person to have a real relationship with them.

None of us are perfect, but we can at least try to be honest, and do the best we can hug
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Oct 28, 2016 7:30 PM CST Just Chat
sophiasummer
sophiasummersophiasummerNorthland, New Zealand112 Threads 6,528 Posts
FireFly1978: This category is dating experiences... So let's chat about them.
Maybe we can learn something from each other and get some insight into who We really are. Problems in relationships are two-sided not One! But we can only see our own side. How can we truely look over and see the other side openly??


By chucking out your own insecurities.
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Oct 30, 2016 8:45 PM CST Just Chat
well a lot that's interesting has been said and of course communication is important. At the end of the day though communicating and understanding is not always enough without agreement at some level (depending on the importance).

I have understood the other person's side, but remained unwilling to agree or to accept it as something I could live with, same with forgiveness......so I think agreement and compatibility are also importanthug cheers
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