Need some help here.. (50)
serene56: Ive been working at a centre for people with mental health issues for around six months now and during that time have formed close bonds with quite a few people
Yesterday I learned that we'd lost one of those people, a young man called Nathan, and his funeral is on Friday.
My first instinct was that of course I would go and say goodbye to him, immediately followed by thinking I'd lose it there and be of no use to anyone..
Don't know what to do
Yesterday I learned that we'd lost one of those people, a young man called Nathan, and his funeral is on Friday.
My first instinct was that of course I would go and say goodbye to him, immediately followed by thinking I'd lose it there and be of no use to anyone..
Don't know what to do
Sorry to hear that Serene...
Funerals are a place for public mourning....it's natural to "lose it" and it's perfectly understandable to do so.
Depends on the nature of death. For some it can be a celebration of their life, particularly if they've passed in their later years.
I'd go....
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I understood on starting there that this was something that I would probably need to come to terms with .. they lost six people in 2014 to suicide.
Maybe I just need to be strong and go with my instincts which is to farewell this dear young man
Maybe I just need to be strong and go with my instincts which is to farewell this dear young man
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BerrySmoothie: Sorry to hear that Serene...
Funerals are a place for public mourning....it's natural to "lose it" and it's perfectly understandable to do so.
Depends on the nature of death. For some it can be a celebration of their life, particularly if they've passed in their later years.
I'd go....
Funerals are a place for public mourning....it's natural to "lose it" and it's perfectly understandable to do so.
Depends on the nature of death. For some it can be a celebration of their life, particularly if they've passed in their later years.
I'd go....
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serene56: I understood on starting there that this was something that I would probably need to come to terms with .. they lost six people in 2014 to suicide.
Maybe I just need to be strong and go with my instincts which is to farewell this dear young man
Maybe I just need to be strong and go with my instincts which is to farewell this dear young man
Yep, listen to your intuition.
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serene56: I understood on starting there that this was something that I would probably need to come to terms with .. they lost six people in 2014 to suicide.
Maybe I just need to be strong and go with my instincts which is to farewell this dear young man
Maybe I just need to be strong and go with my instincts which is to farewell this dear young man
I would go if I were you, because that is what your gut feeling is telling you you should do.
So what if you cry. Funerals are one of the few places people are allowed to show their true emotions.
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BerrySmoothie: Sorry to hear that Serene...
Funerals are a place for public mourning....it's natural to "lose it" and it's perfectly understandable to do so.
Depends on the nature of death. For some it can be a celebration of their life, particularly if they've passed in their later years.
I'd go....
Funerals are a place for public mourning....it's natural to "lose it" and it's perfectly understandable to do so.
Depends on the nature of death. For some it can be a celebration of their life, particularly if they've passed in their later years.
I'd go....
Thank you Berry
I guess I need to steel myself for these things, it's such a tragedy when you see young people that you've got to know have their life end so soon
It was only last Thursday that I chipped him, humorously, for not signing out when he leaves the building...
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I also would like to support the others that are going, they're so brave, battling with their own mental illness but showing solidarity
The staff were just brilliant, and I tip my hat to them, they not only showed empathy, support and insight toward those who participate at the centre but those who work there also
It endorsed my feelings that I'm totally in the right place
The staff were just brilliant, and I tip my hat to them, they not only showed empathy, support and insight toward those who participate at the centre but those who work there also
It endorsed my feelings that I'm totally in the right place
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serene56: Thank you Berry
I guess I need to steel myself for these things, it's such a tragedy when you see young people that you've got to know have their life end so soon
It was only last Thursday that I chipped him, humorously, for not signing out when he leaves the building...
I guess I need to steel myself for these things, it's such a tragedy when you see young people that you've got to know have their life end so soon
It was only last Thursday that I chipped him, humorously, for not signing out when he leaves the building...
Really difficult when you'd formed a close bond with him, I know.
Unfortunately with suicide, the hurting doesn't stop but goes on for family and loved ones.
It IS a tragedy when they are so young.
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Serene, this video may not be about your topic exactly, but it is a powerful video about our attitudes to mental health
Well worth a watch
Well worth a watch
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BerrySmoothie: Really difficult when you'd formed a close bond with him, I know.
Unfortunately with suicide, the hurting doesn't stop but goes on for family and loved ones.
It IS a tragedy when they are so young.
Unfortunately with suicide, the hurting doesn't stop but goes on for family and loved ones.
It IS a tragedy when they are so young.
I think I need to realise that the whole reason I chose this career was that I hoped to help, in a small way, those who struggle with life outside of the perceived norm.
And this is part of it
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Lose what exactly serene. 
Seems silly for me to ask I know. But I think the question is valid
Seems silly for me to ask I know. But I think the question is valid
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mollybaby: Serene, this video may not be about your topic exactly, but it is a powerful video about our attitudes to mental health
Well worth a watch
Well worth a watch
Thanks Molly
I'm a bit sad to watch that right now but I will when the time's right.
I've some lived experience in mental health as a carer and advocate for my loved one, which I felt gave me ground to work in the sector.
And it definitely does, this one's just given me a knock even though I know there will be more
It's about being human and taking those knocks isn't it
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serene56: Thanks Molly
I'm a bit sad to watch that right now but I will when the time's right.
I've some lived experience in mental health as a carer and advocate for my loved one, which I felt gave me ground to work in the sector.
And it definitely does, this one's just given me a knock even though I know there will be more
It's about being human and taking those knocks isn't it
I'm a bit sad to watch that right now but I will when the time's right.
I've some lived experience in mental health as a carer and advocate for my loved one, which I felt gave me ground to work in the sector.
And it definitely does, this one's just given me a knock even though I know there will be more
It's about being human and taking those knocks isn't it
Sometimes we need the knocks to remind us we are humans with real emotions
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nonsmoker: Lose what exactly serene.
Seems silly for me to ask I know. But I think the question is valid
Seems silly for me to ask I know. But I think the question is valid
You're not silly Non, I am
For some reason I thought I needed to have my professional hat on
Why don't I just go there and cry for that boy like I want to
He was an ace bass guitar player, I watched the band play a couple of weeks back and said Do you seriously know how good you guys are
He was so touched and appreciative, my heart breaks for his Dad who took him to every performance and videod every one
Thank God
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serene56: I think I need to realise that the whole reason I chose this career was that I hoped to help, in a small way, those who struggle with life outside of the perceived norm.
And this is part of it
And this is part of it
I sense an element of guilt on your part?????
You always think that if you could have done something different , maybe....
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serene56: I think I need to realise that the whole reason I chose this career was that I hoped to help, in a small way, those who struggle with life outside of the perceived norm.
And this is part of it
And this is part of it
Sometimes being around a lot of sadness and grief, it helps to have a stack of humour, and that you have oodles of.
Don't underestimate what gifts you are able to share.
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One2note: I sense an element of guilt on your part?????
You always think that if you could have done something different , maybe....
You always think that if you could have done something different , maybe....
No, it's about if you can't help the one you're with, you help others
When you've done all you can and continue to, it can be uplifting to step outside your own life, gain perspective and feel rewarded in another way
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serene56: No, it's about if you can't help the one you're with, you help others
When you've done all you can and continue to, it can be uplifting to step outside your own life, gain perspective and feel rewarded in another way
When you've done all you can and continue to, it can be uplifting to step outside your own life, gain perspective and feel rewarded in another way
If that's the case, then you have to go to the funeral , just to show the other patients that you do care & it's not just a job for you.
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One2note: I sense an element of guilt on your part?????
You always think that if you could have done something different , maybe....
You always think that if you could have done something different , maybe....
Actually I find your response a little offensive John
I'm hurting now and your being analytical is inappropriate.
I've lived my life the best I can and continue to do so.
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Yesterday I learned that we'd lost one of those people, a young man called Nathan, and his funeral is on Friday.
My first instinct was that of course I would go and say goodbye to him, immediately followed by thinking I'd lose it there and be of no use to anyone..
Don't know what to do