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When do you know that it’s time to divorce? (30)

Aug 4, 2020 3:28 AM CST When do you know that it’s time to divorce?
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden51 Threads 3 Polls 2,814 Posts
You started a relationship and eventually got convinced that your date is a keeper. You had feelings to each other, positive dynamics, chemistry, understanding and care. Being together was fun and joy. You were determined to go on to the rest of your life… And then you found yourself divorced.

When did you realise it was the time?
Aug 4, 2020 4:23 AM CST When do you know that it’s time to divorce?
When I tired of my husband's humiliating treatment toward my children and myself conversing

The end came when I had spent the day painting my then 15 year old son's new room (his older sister had moved out) and putting together his new bed.

My husband came home from the pub, went into a rage and smashed the new bed into the wall..

I'm not a violent person by any means but I shoved his stupid face into the wall and split his eye.

We packed up a few belongings the next morning and moved out.
Aug 4, 2020 4:30 AM CST When do you know that it’s time to divorce?
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden51 Threads 3 Polls 2,814 Posts
serene56: When I tired of my husband's humiliating treatment toward my children and myself

The end came when I had spent the day painting my then 15 year old son's new room (his older sister had moved out) and putting together his new bed.

My husband came home from the pub, went into a rage and smashed the new bed into the wall..

I'm not a violent person by any means but I shoved his stupid face into the wall and split his eye.

We packed up a few belongings the next morning and moved out.
How many years did it take to be tired of this? Or has this event come out of the blue?
Aug 4, 2020 4:35 AM CST When do you know that it’s time to divorce?
I reckon events out of the blue are the most gut wrenching for people.
Aug 4, 2020 4:42 AM CST When do you know that it’s time to divorce?
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden51 Threads 3 Polls 2,814 Posts
Mercedes_00: I reckon events out of the blue are the most gut wrenching for people.
Well... out of the blue? Could be, as it's something entirely unexpected. (And you don't expect it, because you don't know the counterpart as well as you think you do.) But does it have to be gut wrenching?
Aug 4, 2020 5:10 AM CST When do you know that it’s time to divorce?
Tulefell: Well... out of the blue? Could be, as it's something entirely unexpected. (And you don't expect it, because you don't know the counterpart as well as you think you do.) But does it have to be gut wrenching?
tI was very gut wrenching for my dad & us kids
Aug 4, 2020 5:17 AM CST When do you know that it’s time to divorce?
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden51 Threads 3 Polls 2,814 Posts
Mercedes_00: tI was very gut wrenching for my dad & us kids
That's sad. Though I doubt there were no signs prior the event.
Aug 4, 2020 5:18 AM CST When do you know that it’s time to divorce?
Tulefell: That's sad. Though I doubt there were no signs prior the event.
No signs at all..Everyone thought we were the Brady Bunch family including myself.
Aug 4, 2020 5:20 AM CST When do you know that it’s time to divorce?
Mercedes_00: No signs at all..Everyone thought we were the Brady Bunch family including myself.
I think my dad bored my mum..He did absolutely everything she asked..He never ever said no to my mother..He did more with us kids than she..I think my mum is the reason I have a better rapport with men.
Aug 4, 2020 5:22 AM CST When do you know that it’s time to divorce?
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden51 Threads 3 Polls 2,814 Posts
Mercedes_00: No signs at all..Everyone thought we were the Brady Bunch family including myself.
That's terrible. hug
Aug 4, 2020 6:27 AM CST When do you know that it’s time to divorce?
Tulefell: You started a relationship and eventually got convinced that your date is a keeper. You had feelings to each other, positive dynamics, chemistry, understanding and care. Being together was fun and joy. You were determined to go on to the rest of your life… And then you found yourself divorced.

When did you realise it was the time?
I guess our being together goes trough stages and at some point it gets a wrong turn
Aug 4, 2020 6:36 AM CST When do you know that it’s time to divorce?
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden51 Threads 3 Polls 2,814 Posts
Dedovix: I guess our being together goes trough stages and at some point it gets a wrong turn
Turn again in the right direction, né?
Aug 4, 2020 6:46 AM CST When do you know that it’s time to divorce?
Tulefell: How many years did it take to be tired of this? Or has this event come out of the blue?
This feeling crept up over the final few years.

I played the peacemaker, tried to be perfect at everything as many women do when they find themselves victims of domestic violence.

It's insidious, the perpetrators controlling, and clever at manipulating people into thinking this is normal.

My children and I were basically prisoners in our own home, no one outside of it knew what was going on and many were astonished when I finally departed with my son as we probably appeared to be the perfect family.

This was twenty five years ago, there was nowhere near the support for victims of DV that there is now and many suffered in silence... as many still do out of fear of retribution blues

I had a job when I left but little in terms of savings and it was very difficult for the first few years but I still recall the indescribable feeling of freedom and joy the moment I mustered the courage to walk out that door, never to return.
Aug 4, 2020 6:47 AM CST When do you know that it’s time to divorce?
Tulefell: You started a relationship and eventually got convinced that your date is a keeper. You had feelings to each other, positive dynamics, chemistry, understanding and care. Being together was fun and joy. You were determined to go on to the rest of your life… And then you found yourself divorced.

When did you realise it was the time?
I never married to get divorce. However, i knew it was time for the Big D after someone unprovoked threw boiling pea soup in my face because I closed the door to the master bath to escape into the soaker tub to forget a rough day. Other violent acts on her part cinched It.

. wine
Aug 4, 2020 6:50 AM CST When do you know that it’s time to divorce?
Tulefell: Turn again in the right direction, né?
Well you know how it goes, once you shave off your mustaches, it takes time for them to grow back uh oh
Aug 4, 2020 6:53 AM CST When do you know that it’s time to divorce?
Dedovix: Well you know how it goes, once you shave off your mustaches, it takes time for them to grow back
laugh
Aug 4, 2020 6:54 AM CST When do you know that it’s time to divorce?
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serene56: When I tired of my husband's humiliating treatment toward my children and myself

The end came when I had spent the day painting my then 15 year old son's new room (his older sister had moved out) and putting together his new bed.

My husband came home from the pub, went into a rage and smashed the new bed into the wall..

I'm not a violent person by any means but I shoved his stupid face into the wall and split his eye.

We packed up a few belongings the next morning and moved out.
Such husband brutality Serene, that explains a few things to me.professor
Aug 4, 2020 6:57 AM CST When do you know that it’s time to divorce?
tomcatty: Such husband brutality Serene, that explains a few things to me.
Everyone has a story to tell Puss conversing
Aug 4, 2020 7:01 AM CST When do you know that it’s time to divorce?
irish78eyes
irish78eyesirish78eyesMeath/Louth, Louth Ireland24 Threads 4,814 Posts
Just don't get married at all
No value on marriage anymore, good old fashioned relationship with respect and loyalty is long gone.

Make it to 10 years and you'd do well.

Wonder how it will be in another 20 years
Aug 4, 2020 7:02 AM CST When do you know that it’s time to divorce?
tomcattyonline now!
tomcattyonline now!tomcattyocean city plymouth, Devon, England UK182 Threads 2 Polls 3,672 Posts
serene56: Everyone has a story to tell Puss
True, he sounds a bit of a bastard.
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