ALONE TIME??? ( Archived) (22)

Personally, Alone time is being able to still keep and exercise your own individual person and identity.

alone time is when i'm sitting on the toilet after a curry the night before.....

everyone needs alone time... Work is usually my alone time... LOL

But hey it's ok to every now and then go and the "guys" thing.. no big deal! I think that helps a relationship, as long as "guy" time doesn't mean everynight! You know what I mean.. hehehe

Susan

When presented the way she had it presented, I think that person needs to move away from the relationship to re-evaluate... Not sure.. maybe reading it wrong...
I'm no Dr. Ruth...

At the risk of talking out of both sides of my mouth, I'll give you two answers. First, the best and strongest relationships are comprised of two individuals. I'd think "alone time" is just those mements when we work on ourselves. Second, since I'm already a strong personality and didn't require much alone time in my last relationship (we did EVERYTHING together), I'm not sure it's a necessary thing. Hard to say.... maybe it has to do with levels of self-confidence on the part of the individuals.

Ultimately, I think "alone time" is a necessity if one so desires... but that doesn't mean there is anything wrong with the relationship.

Time to do your own thing, think your own thoughts, feel your own soul and just be with yourself

Absence makes the heart grow fonder...

mmmmm not always...sometimes absence makes the heart go wander

I think this threads warrants more replies than what has been given. In the book 'Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus' this alone time issue has been touched on. In the book the author illustrates the 'alone time' of men as retreating to their 'caves'. The 'cave' is identified as this private retreat with a warning on the cave that violaters of this inner sanctum or inner space will be severely reprimanded. Keep in mind that I am not quoting but only giving a reader's digest version of the concept. On the outside of the entrance to the cave is an invisible sign saying 'Here there be dragons enter at your own risk'. I think the alone time is important and should be adhered to. Particulary in a committed relationship when a dispute between the people in the relationship need time to think things over. Being spontaneous in communication has been connected with the ideal of being honest. However speaking before one thinks also can be detrimental to communication. Ideally as one learns their partner better which is not always the case one would know when to give space or to when to take space. It shouldn't be thought of as a way to deny the significant other of quality time but that quality time is just that time that has quality to it. One needs to budget their time so to speak under certain conditions.

Space, you do not have to leave the house just let me be...no talk , no funny faces , no trying to wait on me hand and foot.


This is an example of how simple statements gets turned into having multiple meanings...