why online dating doesnt work (28)
mindfful: The next time you log onto a dating site, you might want to add “mysterious” to your list of desired traits, because the less you know about a potential mate the better.
A new study of romantic relationships finds that as online daters got to know another person over time, their initially sweet notions turned sour. The researchers suggest that inflated expectations can lead to major disappointments when daters meet in person. Once a flaw is spotted, the whole date is tainted.
Fantasies vanishing with knowledge is a process that hits women harder than men, said Michael Norton of Harvard Business School and one of the study's authors.
“On online dates, women are much, much more disappointed than men," Norton said. Women put more stock in the virtual dating world because they seek a soul mate, he said, whereas men are typically after a more casual relationship.
It's not that familiarity always breeds contempt, the researchers say. But on average, as you learn more about any lover, the less likely it is that you will click and get along with them, Norton explained.
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I thought it worked for you? didn't you meet and marry someone from here?A new study of romantic relationships finds that as online daters got to know another person over time, their initially sweet notions turned sour. The researchers suggest that inflated expectations can lead to major disappointments when daters meet in person. Once a flaw is spotted, the whole date is tainted.
Fantasies vanishing with knowledge is a process that hits women harder than men, said Michael Norton of Harvard Business School and one of the study's authors.
“On online dates, women are much, much more disappointed than men," Norton said. Women put more stock in the virtual dating world because they seek a soul mate, he said, whereas men are typically after a more casual relationship.
It's not that familiarity always breeds contempt, the researchers say. But on average, as you learn more about any lover, the less likely it is that you will click and get along with them, Norton explained.
ITS A LONG ARTICLE
ILL MAKE ANOTHER THREAD TO CONTINUE IT LATER
MIGHT BE GOOD FOR OME LAUGHS
OR FIGHTS
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It works for some...obviously!!
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keytone: I thought it worked for you? didn't you meet and marry someone from here?
mindfful:
ITS A LONG ARTICLE
ILL MAKE ANOTHER THREAD TO CONTINUE IT LATER
MIGHT BE GOOD FOR SOME LAUGHS
OR FIGHTS
ITS A LONG ARTICLE
ILL MAKE ANOTHER THREAD TO CONTINUE IT LATER
MIGHT BE GOOD FOR SOME LAUGHS
OR FIGHTS
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yes thats why its funny
just the headline
actually it makes some interesting points
my point is that regardless how sensible something sounds
we just never know...
good to stay open and not worship intellect
shippyyyyyyyyyyy
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hey baby
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mindfful: yes thats why its funny
just the headline
actually it makes some interesting points
my point is that regardless how sensible something sounds
we just never know...
good to stay open and not worship intellect
shippyyyyyyyyyyy
just the headline
actually it makes some interesting points
my point is that regardless how sensible something sounds
we just never know...
good to stay open and not worship intellect
shippyyyyyyyyyyy
One thing is for sure, you get to "know" someone on here.
You see how they inter-act with others.
You get to see a side of them you may never get to see
otherwise.
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mindfful: The next time you log onto a dating site, you might want to add “mysterious” to your list of desired traits, because the less you know about a potential mate the better.
A new study of romantic relationships finds that as online daters got to know another person over time, their initially sweet notions turned sour. The researchers suggest that inflated expectations can lead to major disappointments when daters meet in person. Once a flaw is spotted, the whole date is tainted.
Fantasies vanishing with knowledge is a process that hits women harder than men, said Michael Norton of Harvard Business School and one of the study's authors.
“On online dates, women are much, much more disappointed than men," Norton said. Women put more stock in the virtual dating world because they seek a soul mate, he said, whereas men are typically after a more casual relationship.
It's not that familiarity always breeds contempt, the researchers say. But on average, as you learn more about any lover, the less likely it is that you will click and get along with them, Norton explained.
ITS A LONG ARTICLE
ILL MAKE ANOTHER THREAD TO CONTINUE IT LATER
MIGHT BE GOOD FOR OME LAUGHS
OR FIGHTS
A new study of romantic relationships finds that as online daters got to know another person over time, their initially sweet notions turned sour. The researchers suggest that inflated expectations can lead to major disappointments when daters meet in person. Once a flaw is spotted, the whole date is tainted.
Fantasies vanishing with knowledge is a process that hits women harder than men, said Michael Norton of Harvard Business School and one of the study's authors.
“On online dates, women are much, much more disappointed than men," Norton said. Women put more stock in the virtual dating world because they seek a soul mate, he said, whereas men are typically after a more casual relationship.
It's not that familiarity always breeds contempt, the researchers say. But on average, as you learn more about any lover, the less likely it is that you will click and get along with them, Norton explained.
ITS A LONG ARTICLE
ILL MAKE ANOTHER THREAD TO CONTINUE IT LATER
MIGHT BE GOOD FOR OME LAUGHS
OR FIGHTS
Hi you old married woman you...
I gotta say I agree with what´s being said in this. As we get to know another person all the little "character flaws and defects" start to appear... without anything other then words to intrigue us, to smooth over the little rough patches... I think it can be difficult to continue....
All those cuddles and kisses and.... go along way to smoothing over the rough patches and keeping your interest.
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Best not to have any expectations or preconceived notions when you first meet someone. Hopefully you've talked to them online and/or on the phone enough to know if their personality is to your liking. Go into it open-minded, let them be who they are, not who you want them to be. It's easier that way, then you can decide if this is someone you want to know better.
Some people I have decided I didn't really care to know better. Some I've felt I wanted to, but they didn't. Disappointment is a part of life, get over it. But then again I'm not normal, I'm not looking for a soul mate. But one thing this article says is really dumb, the less you know about a potential mate the better? I don't think so, unless all you want is a screw. In that case sure, don't even bother with their name. The whole point of relationships of any kind is getting to know the other person. You don't have to like everything, but that's the only way can you decide if there's more about them that you like or don't like and if you want to continue to get to know them.
Some people I have decided I didn't really care to know better. Some I've felt I wanted to, but they didn't. Disappointment is a part of life, get over it. But then again I'm not normal, I'm not looking for a soul mate. But one thing this article says is really dumb, the less you know about a potential mate the better? I don't think so, unless all you want is a screw. In that case sure, don't even bother with their name. The whole point of relationships of any kind is getting to know the other person. You don't have to like everything, but that's the only way can you decide if there's more about them that you like or don't like and if you want to continue to get to know them.
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If I ever decide that I really do want a date,
online will be the last place I will look.
online will be the last place I will look.
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hollandgirl: One thing is for sure, you get to "know" someone on here.
You see how they inter-act with others.
You get to see a side of them you may never get to see
otherwise.
You see how they inter-act with others.
You get to see a side of them you may never get to see
otherwise.
I agree and writing is a good way to learn about a person. A person who is comfortable writing for a while is a person open to new things. I never understand why you meet a person thru email and the first thing they say is they don't like to write. Of course, then there is the person who writes and just "disappears". What better way to weed out the rejects.
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newinsouth: I agree and writing is a good way to learn about a person. A person who is comfortable writing for a while is a person open to new things. I never understand why you meet a person thru email and the first thing they say is they don't like to write. Of course, then there is the person who writes and just "disappears". What better way to weed out the rejects.
hi stranger!
loooove this new pic
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bodleing: If I ever decide that I really do want a date,
online will be the last place I will look.
online will be the last place I will look.
okeydoke
well i knew you were better than the rest of us
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mindfful: hi stranger!loooove this new pic
Hey, I'm still around, lurking in the background sometimes.
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I agree with much of what has been said but I can attest for many couples who have met, fell in love and to this date are still together from meeting online....
I not being one of them, never thinking I will be one of them, nor expecting..... well you know..
I not being one of them, never thinking I will be one of them, nor expecting..... well you know..
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newinsouth: Hey, I'm still around, lurking in the background sometimes.
i know
lurk less dangit!!!
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bodleing: No need....he's a scouser!!!!
Only kidding Mickey, you know us Mancs loves ya'll really
Only kidding Mickey, you know us Mancs loves ya'll really
There are many sayings about scousers, who are the salt of the earth...
'So cold today, the Scousers are walking around with their hands in their own pockets'
We are horrible sometimes aren't we?
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bodleing: No need....he's a scouser!!!!
Only kidding Mickey, you know us Mancs loves ya'll really
Only kidding Mickey, you know us Mancs loves ya'll really
im confused?
is that to mean scousers have no libido?
if so there are exceptions to every rule...
and SOMMER!!!!
ive answered you a number of times in the last week-are you just bein mean?
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Sommerauer71: There are many sayings about scousers, who are the salt of the earth...
'So cold today, the Scousers are walking around with their hands in their own pockets'
We are horrible sometimes aren't we?
'So cold today, the Scousers are walking around with their hands in their own pockets'
We are horrible sometimes aren't we?
omg
thats a good one
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mindfful: yes thats why its funny
just the headline
actually it makes some interesting points
my point is that regardless how sensible something sounds
we just never know...
good to stay open and not worship intellect
shippyyyyyyyyyyy
just the headline
actually it makes some interesting points
my point is that regardless how sensible something sounds
we just never know...
good to stay open and not worship intellect
shippyyyyyyyyyyy
dont pay any attention to the man behind the curtain
mental note: stay in oz
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A new study of romantic relationships finds that as online daters got to know another person over time, their initially sweet notions turned sour. The researchers suggest that inflated expectations can lead to major disappointments when daters meet in person. Once a flaw is spotted, the whole date is tainted.
Fantasies vanishing with knowledge is a process that hits women harder than men, said Michael Norton of Harvard Business School and one of the study's authors.
“On online dates, women are much, much more disappointed than men," Norton said. Women put more stock in the virtual dating world because they seek a soul mate, he said, whereas men are typically after a more casual relationship.
It's not that familiarity always breeds contempt, the researchers say. But on average, as you learn more about any lover, the less likely it is that you will click and get along with them, Norton explained.
ITS A LONG ARTICLE
ILL MAKE ANOTHER THREAD TO CONTINUE IT LATER
MIGHT BE GOOD FOR OME LAUGHS
OR FIGHTS