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Well, this sounds like the usual case of "you're with the wrong women."
To some extent, every relationship involves expectations of compromise and change...just has to be a reasonable extent - that is, one both parties can live with.
Plenty of men expect their women to change as well (though I'm guessing that slightly higher numbers of women are more intent on changing their partners...nothing particularly scientific in that intuition, however).
To some extent, every relationship involves expectations of compromise and change...just has to be a reasonable extent - that is, one both parties can live with.
Plenty of men expect their women to change as well (though I'm guessing that slightly higher numbers of women are more intent on changing their partners...nothing particularly scientific in that intuition, however).
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somechick: Maybe you should try being more picky.
I am very picky lol, for every profile I respond to there are 30 or so I passed up because they had deal breakers in the profile.
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mortalez: I am very picky lol, for every profile I respond to there are 30 or so I passed up because they had deal breakers in the profile.
I don't bother with profiles. I observe people in the forums to see how they're treating people etc.
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somechick: I don't bother with profiles. I observe people in the forums to see how they're treating people etc.
I'm screwed
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somechick: I don't bother with profiles. I observe people in the forums to see how they're treating people etc.
totally agree- what can you really tell from a profile?
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Flaming hoops, kinda like being at the circus.
Watch out for that one, it has claws.
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Dknew: I'm screwed
Oh stop!
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somechick: Oh stop!
Not yet having to much fun
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Dknew: Not yet having to much fun
Well fun away.
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mortalez: Oh here is the nothing wrong with being shallow response.
Well my age range is late 20's to late 50's, I have dated thin to thick women, and I've dated within most races. I think I'm very open in who I date, I dont want a maid I just want a partner/lover/playmate.
So you base a mans value on his income or lack there of, like someone who does not make a whole lot but actually likes his job is not good enough? would you rather have someone who makes a crapload of cash but hates going to work everyday?
ok that part is not shallow at all, infact those are the MOST important things to go by, and if you are honest about this part of your post then you are a great woman and deserve to be immortalized and clone
Okay here is where it comes out, though this part is not as bad as it could be it still show a bit of elitism and sounds like you are a bit judgmental, I know waitresses who married lawyers and doctors so I guess that means men are a little less shallow than women in this regard.
I have a good example and its kinda what I was thinking about when I wrote this post.
I have a cousin who had a UAW job for 10 years well last year he was laid off ( the only ones that kept their jobs were those who have been there 12 - 19 years and those with 20+ years got offered early retirement) well this poor slob now makes around $8.00 an hour at a retail store because that was all he could find with 10 years production experience other plants would not hire him because he made too much working a UAW job, and his wife of 9 years dumped him 8 months after he got laid off, and she admits it was do to their drop in their standard of living. like he really knew he would get laid off someday, he worked there since he was 18 his father and granfather worked there. so his wife showed her shallow side.
Well my age range is late 20's to late 50's, I have dated thin to thick women, and I've dated within most races. I think I'm very open in who I date, I dont want a maid I just want a partner/lover/playmate.
So you base a mans value on his income or lack there of, like someone who does not make a whole lot but actually likes his job is not good enough? would you rather have someone who makes a crapload of cash but hates going to work everyday?
ok that part is not shallow at all, infact those are the MOST important things to go by, and if you are honest about this part of your post then you are a great woman and deserve to be immortalized and clone
Okay here is where it comes out, though this part is not as bad as it could be it still show a bit of elitism and sounds like you are a bit judgmental, I know waitresses who married lawyers and doctors so I guess that means men are a little less shallow than women in this regard.
I have a good example and its kinda what I was thinking about when I wrote this post.
I have a cousin who had a UAW job for 10 years well last year he was laid off ( the only ones that kept their jobs were those who have been there 12 - 19 years and those with 20+ years got offered early retirement) well this poor slob now makes around $8.00 an hour at a retail store because that was all he could find with 10 years production experience other plants would not hire him because he made too much working a UAW job, and his wife of 9 years dumped him 8 months after he got laid off, and she admits it was do to their drop in their standard of living. like he really knew he would get laid off someday, he worked there since he was 18 his father and granfather worked there. so his wife showed her shallow side.
... and because of your preconceived notion of what women want, you have interpreted my post completely wrong. Where did I state what kind of job or how much money a man needs to earn? I stated that I earn a good living, I don´t need a man to provide it. I do expect a good work ethic in a man... I hate laziness and I expect that what ever he does, he does with passion and to the best of his ability.
What I said I expect from a man is that he enhance my life, that each day I wake up to him makes that day better then it would have been without him, that he doesn´t detract from my life by being a lazy, unintersting lump on the couch that expects 3 squares and clean laundry.
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mortalez: Oh here is the nothing wrong with being shallow response.
Well my age range is late 20's to late 50's, I have dated thin to thick women, and I've dated within most races. I think I'm very open in who I date, I dont want a maid I just want a partner/lover/playmate.
So you base a mans value on his income or lack there of, like someone who does not make a whole lot but actually likes his job is not good enough? would you rather have someone who makes a crapload of cash but hates going to work everyday?
ok that part is not shallow at all, infact those are the MOST important things to go by, and if you are honest about this part of your post then you are a great woman and deserve to be immortalized and clone
Okay here is where it comes out, though this part is not as bad as it could be it still show a bit of elitism and sounds like you are a bit judgmental, I know waitresses who married lawyers and doctors so I guess that means men are a little less shallow than women in this regard.
I have a good example and its kinda what I was thinking about when I wrote this post.
I have a cousin who had a UAW job for 10 years well last year he was laid off ( the only ones that kept their jobs were those who have been there 12 - 19 years and those with 20+ years got offered early retirement) well this poor slob now makes around $8.00 an hour at a retail store because that was all he could find with 10 years production experience other plants would not hire him because he made too much working a UAW job, and his wife of 9 years dumped him 8 months after he got laid off, and she admits it was do to their drop in their standard of living. like he really knew he would get laid off someday, he worked there since he was 18 his father and granfather worked there. so his wife showed her shallow side.
Well my age range is late 20's to late 50's, I have dated thin to thick women, and I've dated within most races. I think I'm very open in who I date, I dont want a maid I just want a partner/lover/playmate.
So you base a mans value on his income or lack there of, like someone who does not make a whole lot but actually likes his job is not good enough? would you rather have someone who makes a crapload of cash but hates going to work everyday?
ok that part is not shallow at all, infact those are the MOST important things to go by, and if you are honest about this part of your post then you are a great woman and deserve to be immortalized and clone
Okay here is where it comes out, though this part is not as bad as it could be it still show a bit of elitism and sounds like you are a bit judgmental, I know waitresses who married lawyers and doctors so I guess that means men are a little less shallow than women in this regard.
I have a good example and its kinda what I was thinking about when I wrote this post.
I have a cousin who had a UAW job for 10 years well last year he was laid off ( the only ones that kept their jobs were those who have been there 12 - 19 years and those with 20+ years got offered early retirement) well this poor slob now makes around $8.00 an hour at a retail store because that was all he could find with 10 years production experience other plants would not hire him because he made too much working a UAW job, and his wife of 9 years dumped him 8 months after he got laid off, and she admits it was do to their drop in their standard of living. like he really knew he would get laid off someday, he worked there since he was 18 his father and granfather worked there. so his wife showed her shallow side.
I think you rewrote everything she said - and is - in your mind.
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jbibiza: ... and because of your preconceived notion of what women want, you have interpreted my post completely wrong. Where did I state what kind of job or how much money a man needs to earn? I stated that I earn a good living, I don´t need a man to provide it. I do expect a good work ethic in a man... I hate laziness and I expect that what ever he does, he does with passion and to the best of his ability.
Well if I got you all wrong I apologize but that is how it sounded.
but in this world we dont all get or keep our dream jobs, and it is hard to be passionate about a job you hate.
Example: I used to work for an ISP, it was a great place to work, laid back chilled work eviroment and the place made money hand over fist, well the owner decided he wanted to retire at the age of 28 sold the company to a larger ISP for some ungodly amount of money, and things started changing, it became just another cubical work camp, dress codes were established and schedules were changed and less flexable.
many people quit and not out of laziness but because this was in the early 90's and there were plenty other jobs to go to, well now things arent so easy people stay at jobs they hate because there are no other jobs out there, and if you dont like your job its hard to have passion for it, but what people should have passion for is their SO's because if you have a good one they will be there thick and thin.
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What I said I expect from a man is that he enhance my life, that each day I wake up to him makes that day better then it would have been without him,
and this is the part of your post I praised. that he doesn´t detract from my life by being a lazy, unintersting lump on the couch that expects 3 squares and clean laundry.
What I said I expect from a man is that he enhance my life, that each day I wake up to him makes that day better then it would have been without him,
and this is the part of your post I praised. that he doesn´t detract from my life by being a lazy, unintersting lump on the couch that expects 3 squares and clean laundry.
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mortalez: Well if I got you all wrong I apologize but that is how it sounded.
but in this world we dont all get or keep our dream jobs, and it is hard to be passionate about a job you hate.
Example: I used to work for an ISP, it was a great place to work, laid back chilled work eviroment and the place made money hand over fist, well the owner decided he wanted to retire at the age of 28 sold the company to a larger ISP for some ungodly amount of money, and things started changing, it became just another cubical work camp, dress codes were established and schedules were changed and less flexable.
many people quit and not out of laziness but because this was in the early 90's and there were plenty other jobs to go to, well now things arent so easy people stay at jobs they hate because there are no other jobs out there, and if you dont like your job its hard to have passion for it, but what people should have passion for is their SO's because if you have a good one they will be there thick and thin.
but in this world we dont all get or keep our dream jobs, and it is hard to be passionate about a job you hate.
Example: I used to work for an ISP, it was a great place to work, laid back chilled work eviroment and the place made money hand over fist, well the owner decided he wanted to retire at the age of 28 sold the company to a larger ISP for some ungodly amount of money, and things started changing, it became just another cubical work camp, dress codes were established and schedules were changed and less flexable.
many people quit and not out of laziness but because this was in the early 90's and there were plenty other jobs to go to, well now things arent so easy people stay at jobs they hate because there are no other jobs out there, and if you dont like your job its hard to have passion for it, but what people should have passion for is their SO's because if you have a good one they will be there thick and thin.
... and if you hate it change it! Life is to short to spend half of our non working time doing something we hate. I left the states, my own business and a 6 figure income to backpack and live in hostels and camp for 3 years. I now work 6 months a year in the bar and restaurant industry because it´s what I love doing and I live, very happily, on less then a tenth of what I used to make
When I say I have a fantastic lifestyle I mean just that... It doesn´t mean that I live in a fancy house, or drive a sports car or have a lot of money. It means my life is fun, I have friends I love, do things that interest me. If I were sitting around waiting for a SO to "complete me" or create a life for me... it would be a bloody miserable existence.
Example: Saturday night a DJ friend was hosting a dressup party at a club... I went with a few friends danced, laughed, talked, danced some more until they closed the place at 6am, one friend said I´m having to much fun to end it now... come back to my place, so 6 or 7 of us did... he´s a music producer and has lots of fun recording equipment... so we all recorded songs... very, very bad songs...
and laughed ourselves silly at the complete and utter lack of talent we possess. A short while after that we received a call from another group of friends who invited us for brunch... and away we went. Had a great meal... I got into an amazing conversation with a guy I´ve known for about a year but only on a social level... he told me some mind blowing things about his upbringing and we bonded as friends in a way we hadn´t before.
After a 4 hour Sunday brunch we were invited to a friends villa to try out some new wines he had purchased, had a lovely couple of hours there before heading out to a friends gig, fantastic guitarist and singer and got home about midnight on Sunday. So from Saturday night straight through to sunday night I spent about 30€ had an amazing time filled with laughter and music and great conversation... was absolutely exhausted and went to bed with a smile on my face.
Could I have had a better time? With the right guy to cuddle up with, to share secret smiles across the room, to pull me close for a dance... yes, that would have made it better... but I´m not going to put my life on hold waiting for that to happen.
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Dknew: I'm screwed
I wish I was.....
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Dknew: I'm screwed
If your screwed mate then i am due for the Spanish Inquistition.
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RobbieM: If your screwed mate then i am due for the Spanish Inquistition.
No one expects the Spanish Inquisition!!!
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jbibiza: ... and if you hate it change it! Life is to short to spend half of our non working time doing something we hate. I left the states, my own business and a 6 figure income to backpack and live in hostels and camp for 3 years. I now work 6 months a year in the bar and restaurant industry because it´s what I love doing and I live, very happily, on less then a tenth of what I used to make
When I say I have a fantastic lifestyle I mean just that... It doesn´t mean that I live in a fancy house, or drive a sports car or have a lot of money. It means my life is fun, I have friends I love, do things that interest me. If I were sitting around waiting for a SO to "complete me" or create a life for me... it would be a bloody miserable existence.
Example: Saturday night a DJ friend was hosting a dressup party at a club... I went with a few friends danced, laughed, talked, danced some more until they closed the place at 6am, one friend said I´m having to much fun to end it now... come back to my place, so 6 or 7 of us did... he´s a music producer and has lots of fun recording equipment... so we all recorded songs... very, very bad songs... and laughed ourselves silly at the complete and utter lack of talent we possess.
A short while after that we received a call from another group of friends who invited us for brunch... and away we went. Had a great meal... I got into an amazing conversation with a guy I´ve known for about a year but only on a social level... he told me some mind blowing things about his upbringing and we bonded as friends in a way we hadn´t before.
After a 4 hour Sunday brunch we were invited to a friends villa to try out some new wines he had purchased, had a lovely couple of hours there before heading out to a friends gig, fantastic guitarist and singer and got home about midnight on Sunday. So from Saturday night straight through to sunday night I spent about 30€ had an amazing time filled with laughter and music and great conversation... was absolutely exhausted and went to bed with a smile on my face.
Could I have had a better time? With the right guy to cuddle up with, to share secret smiles across the room, to pull me close for a dance... yes, that would have made it better... but I´m not going to put my life on hold waiting for that to happen.
When I say I have a fantastic lifestyle I mean just that... It doesn´t mean that I live in a fancy house, or drive a sports car or have a lot of money. It means my life is fun, I have friends I love, do things that interest me. If I were sitting around waiting for a SO to "complete me" or create a life for me... it would be a bloody miserable existence.
Example: Saturday night a DJ friend was hosting a dressup party at a club... I went with a few friends danced, laughed, talked, danced some more until they closed the place at 6am, one friend said I´m having to much fun to end it now... come back to my place, so 6 or 7 of us did... he´s a music producer and has lots of fun recording equipment... so we all recorded songs... very, very bad songs... and laughed ourselves silly at the complete and utter lack of talent we possess.
A short while after that we received a call from another group of friends who invited us for brunch... and away we went. Had a great meal... I got into an amazing conversation with a guy I´ve known for about a year but only on a social level... he told me some mind blowing things about his upbringing and we bonded as friends in a way we hadn´t before.
After a 4 hour Sunday brunch we were invited to a friends villa to try out some new wines he had purchased, had a lovely couple of hours there before heading out to a friends gig, fantastic guitarist and singer and got home about midnight on Sunday. So from Saturday night straight through to sunday night I spent about 30€ had an amazing time filled with laughter and music and great conversation... was absolutely exhausted and went to bed with a smile on my face.
Could I have had a better time? With the right guy to cuddle up with, to share secret smiles across the room, to pull me close for a dance... yes, that would have made it better... but I´m not going to put my life on hold waiting for that to happen.
Dammit, that's it. I'm moving to Spain!
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