get a grip, People!! (112)
I work too darn much and don't give myself any time to find the "one", that's my problem.
interesting
interesting
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windrider91: no that was the other guy. I left in 71
A likely story!!!
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bodleing: A likely story!!!
were you the guy that couldn't stand up and had to hold on to the cart and tried to pay me with a ten shilling note
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Well, I did tried my best not to reply to this thread but as you can see ,,, I failed. So, I’ll try to be brief and strait to the point:
"Just do your best and if (God forbids) you could not find the one??? then at least you had the pleasure of taking this journey of looking and meeting others here and there."
Looking back down that road, falling in love is truly the only trip worth taking in life but beware as that road is fraught with hazards and many have left on the side as 'hit and run' victims. They were 'run over' or thay paid no attention to the warning signs along that road: Infatuation and Generic Romance turn left next interlude; Romantically impaired turn right at next interlude...and off they go leaving the main road only to get lost...
People who are sensible about love are incapable of it and Love creates an US without destroying a me...there is a signpost up ahead: You are entering the Love Zone...what do you do? Hit the brakes in a panic attack or boldly go where only the brave go? There isn't any formula or method. You learn to love by loving and that makes you more able to be loved, or it is said,at any rate... (and no, the Romantically Impaired are not entitled to use parking spaces for the handicapped ! )
Good postings.
"Just do your best and if (God forbids) you could not find the one??? then at least you had the pleasure of taking this journey of looking and meeting others here and there."
Looking back down that road, falling in love is truly the only trip worth taking in life but beware as that road is fraught with hazards and many have left on the side as 'hit and run' victims. They were 'run over' or thay paid no attention to the warning signs along that road: Infatuation and Generic Romance turn left next interlude; Romantically impaired turn right at next interlude...and off they go leaving the main road only to get lost...
People who are sensible about love are incapable of it and Love creates an US without destroying a me...there is a signpost up ahead: You are entering the Love Zone...what do you do? Hit the brakes in a panic attack or boldly go where only the brave go? There isn't any formula or method. You learn to love by loving and that makes you more able to be loved, or it is said,at any rate... (and no, the Romantically Impaired are not entitled to use parking spaces for the handicapped ! )
Good postings.
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windrider91: were you the guy that couldn't stand up and had to hold on to the cart and tried to pay me with a ten shilling note
Not me my friend, would never have ten bob note
left by the end of the night, especially if I couldnt
stand up, half a crown more likely.
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bodleing: Not me my friend, would never have ten bob note
left by the end of the night, especially if I couldnt
stand up, half a crown more likely.
later folks..gotta go..play some music..ttfnleft by the end of the night, especially if I couldnt
stand up, half a crown more likely.
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bodleing: Just to add to my early morning ramblings in
a previous post.
I think many follow the great false idea,
the fantasy of the perfect partner.
The notion there is one person out there who
is right for us. Someone who will make out lives
work, a soul mate who will repair the ravages of
our own personal history. They will be there for
us, read our minds, know what we want and
meet those deepest needs.
Protect us from suffering and, if we are lucky,
spare us the perilous journey of individulation
Its no wonder we see so many on here searching,
almost clamouring for this love and attachment.
Virtually all popular culture is fueled by this idea
and its fallout.
If, as in the case of many, you cant be your own
soul mate, forget projecting your 'issues' onto
some willing victim, they will more than likely return
the dubious favour.
Just some more ramblings really
a previous post.
I think many follow the great false idea,
the fantasy of the perfect partner.
The notion there is one person out there who
is right for us. Someone who will make out lives
work, a soul mate who will repair the ravages of
our own personal history. They will be there for
us, read our minds, know what we want and
meet those deepest needs.
Protect us from suffering and, if we are lucky,
spare us the perilous journey of individulation
Its no wonder we see so many on here searching,
almost clamouring for this love and attachment.
Virtually all popular culture is fueled by this idea
and its fallout.
If, as in the case of many, you cant be your own
soul mate, forget projecting your 'issues' onto
some willing victim, they will more than likely return
the dubious favour.
Just some more ramblings really
good post Gra!
keepin it real 
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pretzelman: I see so many people living in dreams...I am beginning to wonder if there is any sanity left in this world!!do you believe in a soul mate.....yes
do you believe in love at first sight........yes
would you travel anywhere in the world for love.....yes
do you believe love will conquer all....yes
do you believe it's only what is on the inside that counts?.....yes
does education level count?....no...if there is love
what if they have a devestating illness...I don't care as long as there is love
what if they have 20 children....it doesn't matter, as long as there is love
what if they have scars all over their face....I don't care...it's what is inside that counts
What color hair do you prefer...I don't care, as long as there is love
what if they are poor....Love is enough
Folks, if you were so easy to please....you wouldn't be on a friggen dating site!!
Get a grip!! Face reality!! Love is too elusive...because you glamourize it and fantasize about it till you don't even recognize it when it's right there in front of you
do you believe in love at first sight........yes
would you travel anywhere in the world for love.....yes
do you believe love will conquer all....yes
do you believe it's only what is on the inside that counts?.....yes
does education level count?....no...if there is love
what if they have a devestating illness...I don't care as long as there is love
what if they have 20 children....it doesn't matter, as long as there is love
what if they have scars all over their face....I don't care...it's what is inside that counts
What color hair do you prefer...I don't care, as long as there is love
what if they are poor....Love is enough
Folks, if you were so easy to please....you wouldn't be on a friggen dating site!!
Get a grip!! Face reality!! Love is too elusive...because you glamourize it and fantasize about it till you don't even recognize it when it's right there in front of you
You have a very good point there, PM.... as always!! Just call me Rapunzel....?? It would be lovely to have the fairytale dream, the storybook romance that many of us hope for, without doubt. Sadly, reality simply isn't like that, there are too many external pressures and outside infuences that renders "love conquers all" somewhat naive......
I am happy as long as he has a kind heart, makes me laugh, has a brain (and a back-bone!) and, most of all, is..... respectful. In this day and age, what more can I ask?? It would seem that in itself is a tall order......
Well.......
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I don't see love conquering all, or solving all your problems, but it can put everything else into perspective and make life and all it entails a little more enjoyable.
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jbibiza: Absolutely!!!! Just don´t con yourself by saying it´s love...
agreed 
A point Expecting that "love" is forever is another pitfall. You feel it when you feel it and like most feelings they are not a constant, much less consistent state of being. It's impossible! (IMHO) You can only feel love (and maybe its puppy love or lust, real love or whatever) in incrimental moments that are not necessarily all tied together as one love.
The only thing that is forever, is 'forever.'
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BnaturAl:
agreed
A point Expecting that "love" is forever is another pitfall. You feel it when you feel it and like most feelings they are not a constant, much less consistent state of being. It's impossible! (IMHO) You can only feel love (and maybe its puppy love or lust, real love or whatever) in incrimental moments that are not necessarily all tied together as one love.
The only thing that is forever, is 'forever.'
agreed
A point Expecting that "love" is forever is another pitfall. You feel it when you feel it and like most feelings they are not a constant, much less consistent state of being. It's impossible! (IMHO) You can only feel love (and maybe its puppy love or lust, real love or whatever) in incrimental moments that are not necessarily all tied together as one love.
The only thing that is forever, is 'forever.'
Oh god I love you BN, have I told you that?
Only for today though.
Bloody brilliant.
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kidatheart: I don't see love conquering all, or solving all your problems, but it can put everything else into perspective and make life and all it entails a little more enjoyable.
Well said and so true.
I also don't care for the word 'conquer'...or its images; we aren't playing Genghis Khan here ...
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Sommerauer71: Oh god I love you BN, have I told you that?
Only for today though.
Bloody brilliant.
Only for today though.
Bloody brilliant.
one day, even one moment is good with me Tracy! 
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You are a cold hard realist and for that I have to applaud you. My only advice to you would be to trust in yourself a bit more and to believe that love that exist....mature love that is; it's something that you cultivate and protect and certainly don't take for granted. It may take you by surprize one of these days wise one
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kidatheart: I don't see love conquering all, or solving all your problems, but it can put everything else into perspective and make life and all it entails a little more enjoyable.
Hi H, I am with you on this...
I am in something, as you know, I feel love, I feel all giggly and tickled, I want to be with him, I want to hold his hand, I want to laugh with him, I want to cry with him, I want to drink him in, I do all of those things.
But will that what I feel conquer all? No, it will as you say make my life more enjoyable and make me smile and enhance my life, is it forever?
Who knows? We do not, all we can do is evolve with it, learn with it, grow with it.
But as that BN states, the only thing that is forever is, forever.
And if he joins me with my forever then great. if not, then I will shed a tear, but the forever will still be there if he is not.
And that is where Ship was right, love does not conquer all, but people think it does.
Hope you are well.
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solitare: Well said and so true.
I also don't care for the word 'conquer'...or its images; we aren't playing Genghis Khan here ...
I also don't care for the word 'conquer'...or its images; we aren't playing Genghis Khan here ...
are you saying you don't like role playing Sol?
*trying to imagine Sol in a Ghengis Khan outfit*
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constanza: You are a cold hard realist and for that I have to applaud you. My only advice to you would be to trust in yourself a bit more and to believe that love that exist....mature love that is; it's something that you cultivate and protect and certainly don't take for granted. It may take you by surprize one of these days wise one
Constanza....!!!!!!!
How fab to see you..... For the lovely lady ---->
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BnaturAl: one day, even one moment is good with me Tracy!
Oh I know BN, I know.
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BnaturAl:
agreed
A point Expecting that "love" is forever is another pitfall. You feel it when you feel it and like most feelings they are not a constant, much less consistent state of being. It's impossible! (IMHO) You can only feel love (and maybe its puppy love or lust, real love or whatever) in incrimental moments that are not necessarily all tied together as one love.
The only thing that is forever, is 'forever.'
agreed
A point Expecting that "love" is forever is another pitfall. You feel it when you feel it and like most feelings they are not a constant, much less consistent state of being. It's impossible! (IMHO) You can only feel love (and maybe its puppy love or lust, real love or whatever) in incrimental moments that are not necessarily all tied together as one love.
The only thing that is forever, is 'forever.'
I have to disagree... at least for myself and what I perceive love to be... Do we ever stop loving our parents, our children? I look back on the 3 men in my life who I have had serious loving relationships with and can honestly say that I still love them.
We may not always feel that warm fuzziness, or breathless anticipation upon seeing them... but for me, when I have grown to love someone that doesn´t change... but loving someone isn´t always enough for a relationship to work.
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found in Oldham town centre late at night...or any time of
the day for that matter?
As for piccadlily...was it you that gave me that bad case
of food poisoning back in 1978 after a night out in The
Shambles???