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Good morning HJ.
Very good lesson. When my late husbandand I would have a disagreement he would say what he had to
say and then he was fine. But not me, oh no, I would let it
fester for a couple of days
try to get him to arguewith me again when I would bring it up and finally not
getting the response I was wanting I would drop it. We can
let anger take over and keep us miserable or as you atated
" accept" it and go on.
I read this somewhere, don't even remember who said it, but
makes sense to me.
Welcome every morning with a smile. Look on the new day as
another special gift from your Creator, another golden
opportunity, to complete what you were unable to finish
yesterday. Be a self-starter. Let your first hour set the
theme of success and positive action that is certain to echo
through your entire day. Today will never happen again.
Don't waste it with a false start or no start at all. You
were not born to fail.
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Hi Pat!This is a much needed self-help therapy!
Too many do not know how to deal with their anger.
Anger quenches the Spirit and hurts everyone envolved, those to whom it is directed towards and the person inflicting it.
Too many fail to take responsibility for their actions of anger outbursts and play the "blame game", always saying it's someone elses fault, to justify it to themselves. This is immature and unhealthy.
You can not help someone if they have no desire to help themselves. Unfortunately, too many receive the wrath of these angry ones, as well as the blame for it.
That we all could have the desire to overcome anger and allow God to pluck up the root of bitterness it sows within our hearts!
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Good morning you 2 wonderful young ladies..
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Excellent quote! Here's a few more to add to the collection...
"If a small thing has the power to make you angry, does that not indicate something about your size?" ~Sydney J. Harris
"He who angers you conquers you." ~Elizabeth Kenny
"Anger ventilated often hurries toward forgiveness; and concealed often hardens into revenge." ~Edward G. Bulwer-Lytton
"Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die." ~Malachy McCourt
"If you kick a stone in anger, you'll hurt your own foot." ~Korean Proverb
"Not the fastest horse can catch a word spoken in anger." ~Chinese Proverb
"Anger and jealousy can no more bear to lose sight of their objects than love." ~George Eliot
...and this could be the most important one of all...
"Do not teach your children never to be angry; teach them how to be angry."
~Lyman Abbott
(^.,.^)~
"If a small thing has the power to make you angry, does that not indicate something about your size?" ~Sydney J. Harris
"He who angers you conquers you." ~Elizabeth Kenny
"Anger ventilated often hurries toward forgiveness; and concealed often hardens into revenge." ~Edward G. Bulwer-Lytton
"Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die." ~Malachy McCourt
"If you kick a stone in anger, you'll hurt your own foot." ~Korean Proverb
"Not the fastest horse can catch a word spoken in anger." ~Chinese Proverb
"Anger and jealousy can no more bear to lose sight of their objects than love." ~George Eliot
...and this could be the most important one of all...
"Do not teach your children never to be angry; teach them how to be angry."
~Lyman Abbott
(^.,.^)~
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HJFinAZ: Good morning you 2 wonderful young ladies..
AWWWW A man who knows the right thing to say, especially
in the morning
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....and I am MAD as Hell!
Nope,these days it only goes down to a certain point,and dissipates fast,thanks to a certain Way of life.
Nope,these days it only goes down to a certain point,and dissipates fast,thanks to a certain Way of life.
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spiceygamble: Excellent quote! Here's a few more to add to the collection..."If a small thing has the power to make you angry, does that not indicate something about your size?" ~Sydney J. Harris
"He who angers you conquers you." ~Elizabeth Kenny
"Anger ventilated often hurries toward forgiveness; and concealed often hardens into revenge." ~Edward G. Bulwer-Lytton
"Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die." ~Malachy McCourt
"If you kick a stone in anger, you'll hurt your own foot." ~Korean Proverb
"Not the fastest horse can catch a word spoken in anger." ~Chinese Proverb
"Anger and jealousy can no more bear to lose sight of their objects than love." ~George Eliot...and this could be the most important one of all...
"Do not teach your children never to be angry; teach them how to be angry."
~Lyman Abbott
(^.,.^)~
Anger only consumes the one who is angry and denies them the ability to love."He who angers you conquers you." ~Elizabeth Kenny
"Anger ventilated often hurries toward forgiveness; and concealed often hardens into revenge." ~Edward G. Bulwer-Lytton
"Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die." ~Malachy McCourt
"If you kick a stone in anger, you'll hurt your own foot." ~Korean Proverb
"Not the fastest horse can catch a word spoken in anger." ~Chinese Proverb
"Anger and jealousy can no more bear to lose sight of their objects than love." ~George Eliot...and this could be the most important one of all...
"Do not teach your children never to be angry; teach them how to be angry."
~Lyman Abbott
(^.,.^)~
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Oh & this is a good way to think of it, too...
"Anger blows out the lamp of the mind."
~Robert G. Ingersoll
"Anger blows out the lamp of the mind."
~Robert G. Ingersoll
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I definitely still feel anger at times, despite all of the work I've done on my temper. I have it down to a minimum, and can usually just blow it out in a few breaths...however, there are times when that doesn't work. At those times, if I'm allowed to vent it out, then I can get it clear of my system and have it over and done with. No festering, no bringing it up in a few days, weeks, or months. Once I get to vent it, it's done and gone. I won't even remember later what I was so angry about, it's that gone.
Like all emotions, if it's handled right for the person, expresssing anger can be healthy. Keeping it bottled up is what adds stress to our systems.
Like all emotions, if it's handled right for the person, expresssing anger can be healthy. Keeping it bottled up is what adds stress to our systems.
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druidess6308: I definitely still feel anger at times, despite all of the work I've done on my temper. I have it down to a minimum, and can usually just blow it out in a few breaths...however, there are times when that doesn't work. At those times, if I'm allowed to vent it out, then I can get it clear of my system and have it over and done with. No festering, no bringing it up in a few days, weeks, or months. Once I get to vent it, it's done and gone. I won't even remember later what I was so angry about, it's that gone.
Like all emotions, if it's handled right for the person, expresssing anger can be healthy. Keeping it bottled up is what adds stress to our systems.
U can learn to cast anger aside without holding it in but i agree it is not easy . Have a blessed day.RichLike all emotions, if it's handled right for the person, expresssing anger can be healthy. Keeping it bottled up is what adds stress to our systems.
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It takes a whole lot to make me angry. I'll get frustrated, annoyed, and sarcastic, but rarely get angry. But, on the rare occassions I do get pushed that far, I can lash out pretty harsh. 
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So, which is better?
The accusatory self-righteous judgmentalism of people or
speaking up in anger?
I can keep a cap on it pretty well, but sometimes I can
get annoyed.
The accusatory self-righteous judgmentalism of people or
speaking up in anger?
I can keep a cap on it pretty well, but sometimes I can
get annoyed.
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Tis most things that are out of my reach that anger me,things that happen in the world around me.
And hurt and or disappointment when it comes to those I love.
And hurt and or disappointment when it comes to those I love.
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I don't get angry.
I get my phone & call that friend who keeps alligators in the swamps.
I get my phone & call that friend who keeps alligators in the swamps.
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spiceygamble: I don't get angry.
I get my phone & call that friend who keeps alligators in the swamps.
I get my phone & call that friend who keeps alligators in the swamps.
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spiceygamble: ...and this could be the most important one of all...
"Do not teach your children never to be angry; teach them how to be angry."
~Lyman Abbott
(^.,.^)~
"Do not teach your children never to be angry; teach them how to be angry."
~Lyman Abbott
(^.,.^)~
I agree, Spicey...that's an important one. I had to learn it myself, first...and yes, now I can teach my children. Anger can be a very constructive emotion, if the energy of it is directed correctly.
If anyone told me they never get angry, I'd call them a liar, or consider them a robot. We all feel it at one point or another...as we do fear, love, hate, sorrow, joy. It's what you do about it that makes the difference.
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ziggysdad: U can learn to cast anger aside without holding it in but i agree it is not easy . Have a blessed day.Rich
Most of the time, I do...but the times I can't, it's better to get it out so that it doesn't fester. At least once I do, I let whatever it was about go completely, too.
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aw hj
who could be mad at you?
who could be mad at you?
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--Marcus Aurelius
Anger shatters our calm. Some of us show it in loud bursts; others just quietly stew. Sometimes we feel angry inside but we still want to look kind and unperturbed, so our anger comes out sideways, hurting someone indirectly or in sneaky ways. We all have felt the pangs of regret after we said or did something in anger. We wish we could magically turn back the clock and undo the moment, gather up the pieces, and put them back together again.
No one can simply banish the basic human emotion of anger from his life. To be responsible, we must accept our anger. It arises from within us and handling it is our own responsibility, even when we are perfectly justified in feeling angry. We choose our way to express it. It is never responsible to say, "You made me angry, so it's your fault that I blew up."
After accepting our anger we strive to develop a space between the feeling and our actions. We learn to notice our feelings before they reach the explosion point. In that mental space we choose how to express them.
Today I will notice and accept my anger, than choose respectful ways to express it.