I have to go with this. I don't care for a participating in a lot of Rick's polls but this statement is actually more accurate for me.
The best girls were most likely the ones I never tried with. In short, I chose wrong. I never had them to begin with. I'm not perfect or any more flawless than the next person. I should have payed closer attention with different criteria and observations from the start.
I have been wondering the same issue, she was my first girlfriend after my divorce in 2005. After her has been some number of relationships which I all find not so good than that first one. But I know the answer although its easy to forget: She was so much after her grand kids, it was really big thing. Me, could care less. Now I have a grand kid my own but I still think the same way, I will not begin a new tour with taking care of kids.
Rogerzoekt: Having lost my best girlfriends along the way, I wonder why I am so stupid and just let them go all the time.
I don't get "the grass is always greener at the other side" attitude. When I make up my mind to be with someone, I never even looked at someone else. It has nothing that I have to force myself to do, it is just in my nature. BTW, I was very happy in my (few long-term) relationships.
No offence Roger and I'm just guessing - maybe it is just your nature and you either accept it, or do some soul searching.
you should see things differently, if i may say, if they've gone they were not the best for you ..... so just be thankful, grateful and happy for your experiences made you stronger and wiser, and then you'll be successful in your love life...my best wishes to you !!!
Rogerzoekt: Already doing some soul mate searching here i thought.
Or is that not what you meant?
Not exactly.
It depends what you want - keep going like you do, or have a hard think about yourself and change some things about YOU. Just speaking about myself, I just found that if I don't like something or something doesn't go well for me, I make changes myself.
unlaoised: What a nice post, Cuddles. Makes a change from the vitriole around at the moment. We learn some things as we mature, hopefully and maybe become a little less selfish in our relationships.
Ya, I'm in my 2nd year of such a realization/turn and in my 4th in Internet site dating. I see some people are here for 8 years now and have posted thousands of posts. I'll rather build a wooden house somewhere near Paris and sell it for profit than spoil so much precious time. Will CS members come to do this together?
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I have to go with this. I don't care for a participating in a lot of Rick's polls but this statement is actually more accurate for me.
The best girls were most likely the ones I never tried with. In short, I chose wrong. I never had them to begin with. I'm not perfect or any more flawless than the next person. I should have payed closer attention with different criteria and observations from the start.