So, my buddy is falling for a guy - and he makes moves on me. Nothing obvious, but definite interest. I tell her we are talking privately, and shes cool with it, she trusts him. He says I should be more discreet about it in future. Even tho it means nothing anyway.
Guys, it could as easily be your buddy's new girl is flirting with you.
Leave them to crash and burn? Grab the chance to see what the attraction is? Or assume the trust is justified and there will never be more than a mild flirt?
I know what I will do but if he had been more my type, I wonder if I would feel different. Ever happened to you?
If she considers me to be a good friend, I would try to find a way to tell her that he has a roving eye. She won't believe me but at least I've done my part.
If he doesn't get the hint that I'm not interested in him I'd find a way to make him very uncomfortable.
secretagent09: If she considers me to be a good friend, I would try to find a way to tell her that he has a roving eye. She won't believe me but at least I've done my part.
If he doesn't get the hint that I'm not interested in him I'd find a way to make him very uncomfortable.
I dont think he can be in any doubt now. I told her, too. Oh well. At least she knows what she is taking on, if she goes ahead.
CosyRosie: So, my buddy is falling for a guy - and he makes moves on me. Nothing obvious, but definite interest. I tell her we are talking privately, and shes cool with it, she trusts him. He says I should be more discreet about it in future. Even tho it means nothing anyway.
Guys, it could as easily be your buddy's new girl is flirting with you.
Leave them to crash and burn? Grab the chance to see what the attraction is? Or assume the trust is justified and there will never be more than a mild flirt?
I know what I will do but if he had been more my type, I wonder if I would feel different. Ever happened to you?
Many moons ago i was courting a lass who worked down at the local donkey stables with me.Her mother took a bit of a shine to me.Even though there was a forty year age gap between us and she had more facial warts than her daughter and a slightly bigger shoulder hump,i couldnt help the strong draw i felt towards her.One night in the stables she snook up on me and she started to undress me.i foolishly gave in to my urges.Afterwards i turned the light on and realised it was the daughter and not the mother! phew! i was lucky,so no harm done
sirLarryIII: Many moons ago i was courting a lass who worked down at the local donkey stables with me.Her mother took a bit of a shine to me.Even though there was a forty year age gap between us and she had more facial warts than her daughter and a slightly bigger shoulder hump,i couldnt help the strong draw i felt towards her.One night in the stables she snook up on me and she started to undress me.i foolishly gave in to my urges.Afterwards i turned the light on and realised it was the daughter and not the mother! phew! i was lucky,so no harm done
Your in luck, all girls turn into their mothers eventually.
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CosyRosie: So, my buddy is falling for a guy - and he makes moves on me. Nothing obvious, but definite interest. I tell her we are talking privately, and shes cool with it, she trusts him. He says I should be more discreet about it in future. Even tho it means nothing anyway.
Guys, it could as easily be your buddy's new girl is flirting with you.
Leave them to crash and burn? Grab the chance to see what the attraction is? Or assume the trust is justified and there will never be more than a mild flirt?
I know what I will do but if he had been more my type, I wonder if I would feel different. Ever happened to you?
I'd tell him I'm off-limits in no uncertain terms.
CosyRosie: So, my buddy is falling for a guy - and he makes moves on me. Nothing obvious, but definite interest. I tell her we are talking privately, and shes cool with it, she trusts him. He says I should be more discreet about it in future. Even tho it means nothing anyway.
Guys, it could as easily be your buddy's new girl is flirting with you.
Leave them to crash and burn? Grab the chance to see what the attraction is? Or assume the trust is justified and there will never be more than a mild flirt?
I know what I will do but if he had been more my type, I wonder if I would feel different. Ever happened to you?
I suppose it depends on how much you value the friendship. For me, it's a definite no-go area
I found myself in the same situation and told him outright that he was well out of line and if he made even the slightest inappropriate move/word again I would not hesitate to tell her immediately.
Ccincy: That would a 'Damned if you don't and 'Damned if you do' situation even though I would most likely lose a friend.
I think I would tell the guy to knock it off and if he continued then I would have no other choice but to tell my friend.
1st wife got 7 yr.itch,buddy told me n others,we got divorced after that,she used my money to retain atty.she got underhanded,ended in court,judge was pissed,couldve been settled out of court,u just wanted to drag him thru the mud,still lost alot,but was worth it,her atty.fireplace burnt his house n called cops on me?they called come to station/why?atty.house fire,i said did it burn to ground/no,well i didnt do it n hung up/karma,n may she rip 2010 on.
In response to: Leave them to crash and burn? Grab the chance to see what the attraction is? Or assume the trust is justified and there will never be more than a mild flirt?
The most interesting thing on the vote breakdown has been the 'tell your friend outright' result - the ones who ticked that were all men. I sent my friend a tweet saying 'dump him' and she tweeted back 'okay'. Nothing since. I don't feel bad. I would feel worse if she said one day oh he is messing about and I said I know, he tried with me. I would HATE that, if it was the other way round.
I would say Cut ties with him and tell your friend, because if he is flirting with you he is more than likely flirting with other women behind her back too.
CosyRosie: So, my buddy is falling for a guy - and he makes moves on me. Nothing obvious, but definite interest. I tell her we are talking privately, and shes cool with it, she trusts him. He says I should be more discreet about it in future. Even tho it means nothing anyway.
Guys, it could as easily be your buddy's new girl is flirting with you.
Leave them to crash and burn? Grab the chance to see what the attraction is? Or assume the trust is justified and there will never be more than a mild flirt?
I know what I will do but if he had been more my type, I wonder if I would feel different. Ever happened to you?
Yes, there's a bit of fun, and then.......
Your friend is being rather naive. It never means NOTHING, particularly when there's umpteen other people to flirt with.....
Freedomofspeech9: I would say Cut ties with him and tell your friend, because if he is flirting with you he is more than likely flirting with other women behind her back too.
Every chance he gets, I would think. And more. He was at least careful with what he said to me.
CosyRosie: I dont think she was fooled for long. She was having fun, enjoying the relationship but it hadnt got too serious luckily.
What gets more complicated is when the friend is a women friend of yours and her boyfriend is a friend of your too (but its he who you know is [not just flirting] but cheating on her with other women).
I was asked by my friend (the women) if her boyfriend (my friend too) was using her.
I was just honest with her....but she still went back again and again getting used each time...until he had "enough" of her.
Harryonline: What gets more complicated is when the friend is a women friend of yours and her boyfriend is a friend of your too (but its he who you know is [not just flirting] but cheating on her with other women).
I was asked by my friend (the women) if her boyfriend (my friend too) was using her.
I was just honest with her....but she still went back again and again getting used each time...until he had "enough" of her.
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Guys, it could as easily be your buddy's new girl is flirting with you.
Leave them to crash and burn? Grab the chance to see what the attraction is? Or assume the trust is justified and there will never be more than a mild flirt?
I know what I will do but if he had been more my type, I wonder if I would feel different. Ever happened to you?