would you date a person with a pre teen child after your children have left the nest? (30)
joelpa: active 48 yr old father of 9 year old daughter who lives with him
It would depend what kind of parent that person was to that child.........
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yes why not?
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dont know, thats why i asked. most dates would include daughter, how many women me age want to go in line skating?
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hes givin up most of his own life for her
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joelpa: hes givin up most of his own life for her
Okay well, I do not skate anymore, and how rough is it to be with a kid? Even if she is nine. I like kids, all the kids in my neighborhood call me Momma. Mine are grown and left the nest, and their friends call me Momma. Just look for a woman that is into kids.Most of my first dates have kids on them.
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joelpa: active 48 yr old father of 9 year old daughter who lives with him
I would date someone with a younger child, but I think it's important to know the man first to see if there is a connection there before adding the children to the mix. I have 3 kids and have been divorced for 8 years, I have dated but my kids have only met a couple of men that I've dated.
I don't want them to get attached if it isn't going to work out and honestly, I want to make sure the person I expose my kids to is worthy of meeting them.
That being said, I would definitly date a man with younger children but would want to know him first.... then the kids... safer for all.
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joelpa: active 48 yr old father of 9 year old daughter who lives with him
Yes.
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joelpa: active 48 yr old father of 9 year old daughter who lives with him
One more reason to date him. You get to see another side of a man when they have kids living at home. I believe every child needs a mother and a father. In a couple of years that girl is going to need another female to talk to. Just treat them like your own and the kids and father will love you even more.Connie
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understand where your coming from but shes old enough that her dad will be meeting a new friend. would need her comfortable with person not that it would be a prob, she likes everyone
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Nope...........
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joelpa: dont know, thats why i asked. most dates would include daughter, how many women me age want to go in line skating?
I would, and I'm close to your age. I commend you on raising your daughter, too. But this really shouldn't be an issue. 40's is not too old to do stuff like skating, btw.
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joelpa: active 48 yr old father of 9 year old daughter who lives with him
"Yes,I would."
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It would depend on how well balanced the child was, I like kids of all ages but at this stage of my life I'm not looking for anything or anyone difficult to deal with. 
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I would not date a person with children living in the same house....period! Children OR grand-children.
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joelpa: dont know, thats why i asked. most dates would include daughter, how many women me age want to go in line skating?
Yes, I would date any man with a preteen provided the mans child or children accepted me and we got along.Also a man including his child/children in most dates wouldn't bother me in the least.They're part of his life and always will be and should always come first and foremost in his life before anything or anyone else.Just like my adult children are part of my life and come first before and foremost above anyone or anything.Cause that's just the way things should be.
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No been there done that didn't work, If a woman has kids that are grown and gone or none at all thats fine.
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Yes....that person's children, family are part of their life and if I was interested in that person I would accept them to and look forward to getting to know them all.
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joelpa: dont know, thats why i asked. most dates would include daughter, how many women me age want to go in line skating?
Me?
I love it.
And ice skating.
I just fail to see why it would be a problem.
Kids are resourceful and deal with things much better than we do.
My two children have adjusted to the fact that I am with a new person, I never made a big deal of it.
I said 'Kids, guess what, your mother has a life, she has a man, any questions, feel free to ask'
End of story.
They have adjusted to their stepmother, well, they were 9 and 11 at that time, she had no children and is ten years younger than their father.
Sometimes, and I await some back lash on this, we do over protect our children, from emotional trauma that we THINK may happen, when it should be easily handled.
Unless, of course, they have been subjected to an army of people in their parents' lives.
So, I would happily go on a date, if he has to bring his little one along, then I would be nothing other than delighted to meet said child.
And wear my inline skates too.
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somechick: Yes, I would date any man with a preteen provided the mans child or children accepted me and we got along.Also a man including his child/children in most dates wouldn't bother me in the least.They're part of his life and always will be and should always come first and foremost in his life before anything or anyone else.Just like my adult children are part of my life and come first before and foremost above anyone or anything.Cause that's just the way things should be.
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Sure I would! I have a younger kid myself.
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My kids are so endearing - I love for people to meet them. My 8 year old is a little cutie and my 16 yr old is the US Senate Page from Texas so I only see him on TV till Feb.
I prefer women with children - my kids play well with others. I also like women with pets including rabbits or anything fun out of the ordinary.
I prefer women with children - my kids play well with others. I also like women with pets including rabbits or anything fun out of the ordinary.
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Dknew: No been there done that didn't work, If a woman has kids that are grown and gone or none at all thats fine.
Sorry your experiance wasn't a good one. But if my sons were grown and still residing at home for some reason the man I met would just have to deal with it and would no longer be in my life if he didn't.It's that simple cause my sons came into my life long before the New man in my life did and he would either have to accept them or he'd be gone permanantly.
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joelpa: active 48 yr old father of 9 year old daughter who lives with him
To be honest I would find it difficult, my own kids having long since flown the nest.
I love my work, perhaps a little too much, and the freedom I have to travel. These things are not really compatible with bringing up a child.
Like many parents, I gave my all to my kids and I´m proud that they are both well-adjusted, loving young adults. It would wear me out to do that all over again at my age.
I applaud you though for caring for your daughter single-handedly.
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Jan1305: To be honest I would find it difficult, my own kids having long since flown the nest.
I love my work, perhaps a little too much, and the freedom I have to travel. These things are not really compatible with bringing up a child.
Like many parents, I gave my all to my kids and I´m proud that they are both well-adjusted, loving young adults. It would wear me out to do that all over again at my age.
I applaud you though for caring for your daughter single-handedly.
I love my work, perhaps a little too much, and the freedom I have to travel. These things are not really compatible with bringing up a child.
Like many parents, I gave my all to my kids and I´m proud that they are both well-adjusted, loving young adults. It would wear me out to do that all over again at my age.
I applaud you though for caring for your daughter single-handedly.
Yes I feel much the same as you Jan.
I bought up my own children from young ages on my own,
it is not something I could envisage doing with
someone else now.
I am sure that there are many women of the OP's age
who would be happy to take him as the loving family
he obviously is in.
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SirenLydia: Yes I feel much the same as you Jan.
I bought up my own children from young ages on my own,
it is not something I could envisage doing with
someone else now.
I am sure that there are many women of the OP's age
who would be happy to take him as the loving family
he obviously is in.
I bought up my own children from young ages on my own,
it is not something I could envisage doing with
someone else now.
I am sure that there are many women of the OP's age
who would be happy to take him as the loving family
he obviously is in.
Hi Siren
Goodness, where have you been?
Have not seen you since the summer.
I can see where you and Jan are coming from, I suppose in all honesty, I would prefer that he did not have children.
But it would not be a problem for me if he did.
I would look on the positive side of it, if I wanted to be with him, then I would regardless of how many cbildren he had.
As, when mine were younger, I would have been hurt if my ex had not wanted to be with me because of my children.
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I think one should consider the children's personality type too, some sensitive kids may get hurt , though they may not express it , and it can affect their future.
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Created: Jan 2009
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would you date a person with a pre teen child after your children have left the nest?(Vote Below)