Whats the best way to deal with abusive posters? (117)
im not taking anything personally
i have my opinions and principles
that dont waiver
regardless of the players
it s fact that my opinions are personal
to me
but the issue at hand has been a not well cloaked mention
of a particular member and i stand by every post i have made here
i dont know that you intended it to be that
but f some it has been understood as such
you make my point
by mentioning people having responsibility for their own responses
and BEB you better believe it
people need to get a better understanding of what hearsay is
and if you find anything inaccurate in my post as to
that arc of personality growth/change with that poster
then you may feel free to say or do whatever you like about it
what some forget is that some personalities, not necessarily that poster, but many people have a role they play in life
and it is present online too-because wherever u go-there you are
some people draw these illustrations of personalities as online characters-they all find their fit-like in the puzzle of the world
care needers /caregivers
protectors
depressives
cheerers
knights
rabble rousers
dont give a dang
im always funny cuz im afraid to commit and be disagreed with
etc etc etc etc
and puzzlers gravitate toward their associates
just like in r/l
and just like in r/l some are manipulating by the role
and some are really in it
we cant tell sometimes in r/l so why do ppl jump to defend in here?
well sometimes they are playing out there role
its not wrong
it just is
i have my opinions and principles
that dont waiver
regardless of the players
it s fact that my opinions are personal
to me
but the issue at hand has been a not well cloaked mention
of a particular member and i stand by every post i have made here
i dont know that you intended it to be that
but f some it has been understood as such
you make my point
by mentioning people having responsibility for their own responses
and BEB you better believe it
people need to get a better understanding of what hearsay is
and if you find anything inaccurate in my post as to
that arc of personality growth/change with that poster
then you may feel free to say or do whatever you like about it
what some forget is that some personalities, not necessarily that poster, but many people have a role they play in life
and it is present online too-because wherever u go-there you are
some people draw these illustrations of personalities as online characters-they all find their fit-like in the puzzle of the world
care needers /caregivers
protectors
depressives
cheerers
knights
rabble rousers
dont give a dang
im always funny cuz im afraid to commit and be disagreed with
etc etc etc etc
and puzzlers gravitate toward their associates
just like in r/l
and just like in r/l some are manipulating by the role
and some are really in it
we cant tell sometimes in r/l so why do ppl jump to defend in here?
well sometimes they are playing out there role
its not wrong
it just is
breezee: Yeah.
I can see that.
I can see that.
oh
that was sarcasm
well i am just sooo hurt
we all start at a different point
so not having known me two yrs ago
ya wouldn know if ive grown or not
thing is ya dont care either
but will be quick to sit on my head when you see an opportunity
mmmm-isnt that what you were just complaining about?
that behavior right there?
please report me-or maybe in this case-yourself
this is the hypocrisy that i am laffing about
humans
cant live with em
cant kill em
people take online waaay too seriously
when they want to
and then minimize when they choose
some people might not like me-but they know ill be consistent
and that, if nothing else, allows me some self respect
mindfful: oh
that was sarcasm
well i am just sooo hurt
we all start at a different point
so not having known me two yrs ago
ya wouldn know if ive grown or not
thing is ya dont care either
but will be quick to sit on my head when you see an opportunity
mmmm-isnt that what you were just complaining about?
that behavior right there?
please report me-or maybe in this case-yourself
this is the hypocrisy that i am laffing about
humans
cant live with em
cant kill em
people take online waaay too seriously
when they want to
and then minimize when they choose
some people might not like me-but they know ill be consistent
and that, if nothing else, allows me some self respect
that was sarcasm
well i am just sooo hurt
we all start at a different point
so not having known me two yrs ago
ya wouldn know if ive grown or not
thing is ya dont care either
but will be quick to sit on my head when you see an opportunity
mmmm-isnt that what you were just complaining about?
that behavior right there?
please report me-or maybe in this case-yourself
this is the hypocrisy that i am laffing about
humans
cant live with em
cant kill em
people take online waaay too seriously
when they want to
and then minimize when they choose
some people might not like me-but they know ill be consistent
and that, if nothing else, allows me some self respect
Hey, I'm relatively new here......be gentle will ya!!People don't know me and there you go calling me sarcastic.
Are you using me to make some point on misunderstandings or something.......
I meant it when I said I agreed.
I guess the results speak for themselves - thanks for your input everybody - back to the grindstone for me - be safe all 
hi trish .... seems like much has been happening ..
riyablossom: hi trish .... seems like much has been happening ..
for months Riya - I just thought I would get everybodys opinions - I think the vote is pretty conclusive really, dont you
i came here after a long sleep
trish123: for months Riya - I just thought I would get everybodys opinions - I think the vote is pretty conclusive really, dont you
i dont think you would really want to know trish .. or else maybe people wont like you for asking me ..
I dont need the importance or attention but i think if its one person which it seems as i am going thro that people are talking about .. well .. you pretty much know how it is.
riyablossom: i dont think you would really want to know trish .. or else maybe people wont like you for asking me ..
I dont need the importance or attention but i think if its one person which it seems as i am going thro that people are talking about .. well .. you pretty much know how it is.
I dont need the importance or attention but i think if its one person which it seems as i am going thro that people are talking about .. well .. you pretty much know how it is.
Hiya Riya... good to see u back and not losing out because of a certain person....
riyablossom: i dont think you would really want to know trish .. or else maybe people wont like you for asking me ..
I dont need the importance or attention but i think if its one person which it seems as i am going thro that people are talking about .. well .. you pretty much know how it is.
I dont need the importance or attention but i think if its one person which it seems as i am going thro that people are talking about .. well .. you pretty much know how it is.
Im refusing to go there with any one person in particular Riya - I was simply thinking for future reference - not past.
Welcome back
Aries01: Hiya Riya... good to see u back and not losing out because of a certain person....
Ariessss !!!!!!!!!! what a pleasant surprise... pleasure to see you ..
i missed you much !!!!trish123: Im refusing to go there with any one person in particular Riya - I was simply thinking for future reference - not past.
Welcome back
Welcome back
I believe that Trish ..
Thanks for the welcome. Trish i have known you since i joined this place and have liked you the same. Its been a roller coaster ride for me here as it has been for many others.
I just realised when i joined being from a different culture i kept quiet for a while to mingle, understand and get to know people so that i dont offend anyone when i say something .. .. As i got comfortable being me was easier..not that i got wisdom or was bestowed here with exhuberant vernacular charm. Well .. i have decided to continue being myself maybe more often now ...
silence can be misconstrued quite often I have seen.
Great thread Trish !!! Ignore it is i feel !!! But being human we do lose our minds at times and get in to the grind of being involved.
riyablossom: Ariessss !!!!!!!!!! what a pleasant surprise... pleasure to see you ..
i missed you much !!!!
i missed you much !!!!
Feeling mutual Riya... place just not the same without you and Detente... I took a break myself for a while u were both sadly missed from the site...
Hi ryia
Nice to see you back
Nice to see you back
riyablossom: I believe that Trish ..
Thanks for the welcome. Trish i have known you since i joined this place and have liked you the same. Its been a roller coaster ride for me here as it has been for many others.
I just realised when i joined being from a different culture i kept quiet for a while to mingle, understand and get to know people so that i dont offend anyone when i say something .. .. As i got comfortable being me was easier..not that i got wisdom or was bestowed here with exhuberant vernacular charm. Well .. i have decided to continue being myself maybe more often now ...
silence can be misconstrued quite often I have seen.
Great thread Trish !!! Ignore it is i feel !!! But being human we do lose our minds at times and get in to the grind of being involved.
Thanks for the welcome. Trish i have known you since i joined this place and have liked you the same. Its been a roller coaster ride for me here as it has been for many others.
I just realised when i joined being from a different culture i kept quiet for a while to mingle, understand and get to know people so that i dont offend anyone when i say something .. .. As i got comfortable being me was easier..not that i got wisdom or was bestowed here with exhuberant vernacular charm. Well .. i have decided to continue being myself maybe more often now ...
silence can be misconstrued quite often I have seen.
Great thread Trish !!! Ignore it is i feel !!! But being human we do lose our minds at times and get in to the grind of being involved.
Oh my Buddha! It's good to see you back, Riya. You've been sorely missed.
And I love your new image, too.
Thankyou Marty and Ambrose .. missed you people much !!!
realllyyy ...
realllyyy ...
Aries01: Feeling mutual Riya... place just not the same without you and Detente... I took a break myself for a while u were both sadly missed from the site...
Fun times better be there again ..
mindfful: im not taking anything personally
i have my opinions and principles
that dont waiver
regardless of the players
it s fact that my opinions are personal
to me
but the issue at hand has been a not well cloaked mention
of a particular member and i stand by every post i have made herei dont know that you intended it to be that
but f some it has been understood as such
you make my point
by mentioning people having responsibility for their own responses
and BEB you better believe it
people need to get a better understanding of what hearsay is
and if you find anything inaccurate in my post as to
that arc of personality growth/change with that poster
then you may feel free to say or do whatever you like about it
what some forget is that some personalities, not necessarily that poster, but many people have a role they play in life
and it is present online too-because wherever u go-there you are
some people draw these illustrations of personalities as online characters-they all find their fit-like in the puzzle of the world
care needers /caregivers
protectors
depressives
cheerers
knights
rabble rousers
dont give a dang
im always funny cuz im afraid to commit and be disagreed with
etc etc etc etc
and puzzlers gravitate toward their associates
just like in r/l
and just like in r/l some are manipulating by the role
and some are really in it
we cant tell sometimes in r/l so why do ppl jump to defend in here?
well sometimes they are playing out there role
its not wrong
it just is
i have my opinions and principles
that dont waiver
regardless of the players
it s fact that my opinions are personal
to me
but the issue at hand has been a not well cloaked mention
of a particular member and i stand by every post i have made herei dont know that you intended it to be that
but f some it has been understood as such
you make my point
by mentioning people having responsibility for their own responses
and BEB you better believe it
people need to get a better understanding of what hearsay is
and if you find anything inaccurate in my post as to
that arc of personality growth/change with that poster
then you may feel free to say or do whatever you like about it
what some forget is that some personalities, not necessarily that poster, but many people have a role they play in life
and it is present online too-because wherever u go-there you are
some people draw these illustrations of personalities as online characters-they all find their fit-like in the puzzle of the world
care needers /caregivers
protectors
depressives
cheerers
knights
rabble rousers
dont give a dang
im always funny cuz im afraid to commit and be disagreed with
etc etc etc etc
and puzzlers gravitate toward their associates
just like in r/l
and just like in r/l some are manipulating by the role
and some are really in it
we cant tell sometimes in r/l so why do ppl jump to defend in here?
well sometimes they are playing out there role
its not wrong
it just is
I have alot to add her personality and growth, but I wont put it on deaf ears. If for some reason you think she grew because of CS, you have her all wrong. I wont go to who started the whole ordeal, cuz most everyone knows and I wont bring it up again. I have no desire to argue with you on this matter. I pride myself in being a nice person and constantly seeing people, things, and issues on a positive light. Not saying I can't be nasty person, cuz I could be..but yet see no reason to do so. I am much happier and a better person for finding the good in people then to look for the worst in all things.
riyablossom: Fun times better be there again ..
Welcome back Miss Riya
Dknew: Welcome back Miss Riya
Thankyou.. pleasure is mine.wow-
The ignore got more votes than Hillary!!
we will see tomorrow,, I think she is going down!(so to speak)
The ignore got more votes than Hillary!!
we will see tomorrow,, I think she is going down!(so to speak)
rasgumby: wow-
The ignore got more votes than Hillary!!
we will see tomorrow,, I think she is going down!(so to speak)
The ignore got more votes than Hillary!!
we will see tomorrow,, I think she is going down!(so to speak)
there has to be a joke about Monika here somewhere 
I like the sound of Obama myself
trish123: there has to be a joke about Monika here somewhere
I like the sound of Obama myself
I like the sound of Obama myself
hi trish !
trish123: there has to be a joke about Monika here somewhere
I like the sound of Obama myself
I like the sound of Obama myself
I'm sure Hillary don't have a spottless backgroung either.
just has a better dry cleaner!
sorry off topic.. I always have to get a joke in somewhere
pardon me for sounding coy,
but HOLY S***,
and boy oh boy,
how many of the latest posters can say
they read the posts and the topic line
before they started typing away.
The Subject is "how to deal with abusive posters"
not "the rules of CS" or "free site deal with it" or
too many emoticons etc. but.....
"how to deal with abusive poster's"
Now for those of you across sea's from me
and even to those who may live right next door
I apologize if your not reading me right,
for I simply want to say something I learned long ago.
Those NEEDING or DESIRING attention
will sometimes say anything to get it
not realizing that they are being hurtful in the process
so the best thing you can do is
1. on-line or in person politely ignore and see if they disappear
2. if that doesn't work be a little more firm.
3. if your able to "read" the person sometimes oh yes, sometimes
kindness and politeness makes the unruly ruly? (pardon the spelling and grammer but you get the drift.
Cheers and happy Valentines all
but HOLY S***,
and boy oh boy,
how many of the latest posters can say
they read the posts and the topic line
before they started typing away.
The Subject is "how to deal with abusive posters"
not "the rules of CS" or "free site deal with it" or
too many emoticons etc. but.....
"how to deal with abusive poster's"
Now for those of you across sea's from me
and even to those who may live right next door
I apologize if your not reading me right,
for I simply want to say something I learned long ago.
Those NEEDING or DESIRING attention
will sometimes say anything to get it
not realizing that they are being hurtful in the process
so the best thing you can do is
1. on-line or in person politely ignore and see if they disappear
2. if that doesn't work be a little more firm.
3. if your able to "read" the person sometimes oh yes, sometimes
kindness and politeness makes the unruly ruly? (pardon the spelling and grammer but you get the drift.
Cheers and happy Valentines all
rasgumby: I'm sure Hillary don't have a spottless backgroung either.
just has a better dry cleaner!
sorry off topic.. I always have to get a joke in somewhere
just has a better dry cleaner!
sorry off topic.. I always have to get a joke in somewhere
we like jokes and happy things
spot on Gilly !!!
Thanks Curly, well spotted and well said, thank you
Well... what is perceived as "abusive" can be subjective, yeah? We all have different boundaries of acceptability, what's appropriate, etc. There are varying degrees of considering ourselves "easy-going", "laid back", etc.
Having said that, there have been some threads/posts that, to most of us, would be deemed totally offensive.
In that case, I have no qualms about reporting someone. I think the key is not to feed the ego, nor encourage the poster. The best thing is to just not post where you feel you cannot give credence to what is tantamount to offensive/obnoxious behaviour, nor complete inane drivel.
Good thread, Trish!!
Having said that, there have been some threads/posts that, to most of us, would be deemed totally offensive.
In that case, I have no qualms about reporting someone. I think the key is not to feed the ego, nor encourage the poster. The best thing is to just not post where you feel you cannot give credence to what is tantamount to offensive/obnoxious behaviour, nor complete inane drivel.
Good thread, Trish!!
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I can see that.
funnily enough, so can I.
I think I have had my fill of all this for now.
I was simply making a case for when threads seem to be getting out of hand, not, as has been insinuated that we all become cruelly abusive of anybody - I did in fact say a few points back that such actions could be open to this but didnt think that would happen because of the calibre of most people on the site.
Think what you will, I am just too busy today.