Whats the best way to deal with abusive posters? (117)
BnaturAl:
So what's the other option. Yours Trish, speak out! Not responding to them but speaking out ! Take a stand! Our own little slice of democracy.
We're not talking about someone who occasionaly loses their self control. We're talking about someone who tries to control us, and as long as the majority is not in concensus they will continue. Concensus is achieved by public witness, speak out.
JMHO
So what's the other option. Yours Trish, speak out! Not responding to them but speaking out ! Take a stand! Our own little slice of democracy.
We're not talking about someone who occasionaly loses their self control. We're talking about someone who tries to control us, and as long as the majority is not in concensus they will continue. Concensus is achieved by public witness, speak out.
JMHO
Al, dont be offended - ignoring is a unified and collective way of speaking out, of making a stand against these control freaks. If we all do it, it will be speaking very loudly indeed
trish123:
I am speaking out Al
I am speaking out Al
... 
Now here's another thought...
Look at all the ads on the forum page. They all seem to be for other sites.
If this forum is irritating, CS makes sure that you have all sorts of other sites to go to..
Of course, they get paid by those advertisers.
So why not let a member stir the pot..he's attacting an audience and making money for this site!!!
And, as the rules state, if we don't like it, we can leave.
But we stay, because it's not about the money for us.
Look at all the ads on the forum page. They all seem to be for other sites.
If this forum is irritating, CS makes sure that you have all sorts of other sites to go to..
Of course, they get paid by those advertisers.
So why not let a member stir the pot..he's attacting an audience and making money for this site!!!
And, as the rules state, if we don't like it, we can leave.
But we stay, because it's not about the money for us.
trish123: Al, dont be offended - ignoring is a unified and collective way of speaking out, of making a stand against these control freaks. If we all do it, it will be speaking very loudly indeed
none taken trish, just filling in the gaps here ..
trish123: Al, dont be offended - ignoring is a unified and collective way of speaking out, of making a stand against these control freaks. If we all do it, it will be speaking very loudly indeed
The person who is getting to me has posted on thread agreeing ! that winds me up even more but Hey im tryin to 
about it !HealthyLiving: This would be a very good idea, but calling it "manic" would not work, as no one would want to admit at any time that they are having a "manic moment".
Although that does sound like a good thread category, "Manic Moments"
In all seriousness, perhaps a category called, "I need to Vent" or something of that nature, where those of us who want to help may go to render compassion to those who are hurting and angry.
Although that does sound like a good thread category, "Manic Moments"
In all seriousness, perhaps a category called, "I need to Vent" or something of that nature, where those of us who want to help may go to render compassion to those who are hurting and angry.
unfortunately, the posters in question prefer to be more head on with their venting - it just wouldnt do any good even if we facilitated it
good ideas though for people who genuinely want to vent - but we do that anyway
morganlee: The person who is getting to me has posted on thread agreeing ! that winds me up even more but Hey im tryin to about it !
Hopefully, it will get increasingly easy to laugh - I feel really cruel here but figure enough is enough and needs must - sunday night was just awful and I simply went off line wondering why I was wasting my time - but it isnt a waste of time, this is a brilliant community and worth making an effort for
I dislike being irritated on a regular basis,
you know, like an annoying fly buzzing
round your head.
But thats all it is...an irritation.
No worries though...sooner or later
that fly will get swatted...on here or in R/L
you know, like an annoying fly buzzing
round your head.
But thats all it is...an irritation.
No worries though...sooner or later
that fly will get swatted...on here or in R/L
im not sure what happened sun or the previous days but i did get the jist that some stuff has gone on in the last week
honestly my most beloved friend left last night
i dont get it
morgan said it all right above
the person who i am bothered by right now just agreed w/ me somewhere and that makes me more irritated
i dont understand-we cant read minds and we dont always know
when we are annoying someone-if they say so
sometimes we say-oops-sorry
sometimes we say too bad-screw you
just like at work or home
so why all the upset?
communication is key and decisions can be made from there
if you tell someone they are annoying you
and they dont respond how youd like what do you do in real life?
fight em or avoid em
so whats the difference here?
besides i may be annoyed by someone today but i dont necessarily make a pact w/ myself to 'not like' tat person anymore
and i see alot of that around here
people make decisions on a comment or two,
w/o even having a dialogue(email) (a reative knowledge of you)
they decide youre a jerk
and its a frickin iron curtain-they are nev willing to speak again
people like this dont interest me
its sort of juvenile in my eyes
but also educational as to who may or may not be a potential friend
frankly im bored that this is such a common topic latey
the art of conversation is dead
its all either completely inane
'fighting' or 'problem solving'
good grief
honestly my most beloved friend left last night
i dont get it
morgan said it all right above
the person who i am bothered by right now just agreed w/ me somewhere and that makes me more irritated
i dont understand-we cant read minds and we dont always know
when we are annoying someone-if they say so
sometimes we say-oops-sorry
sometimes we say too bad-screw you
just like at work or home
so why all the upset?
communication is key and decisions can be made from there
if you tell someone they are annoying you
and they dont respond how youd like what do you do in real life?
fight em or avoid em
so whats the difference here?
besides i may be annoyed by someone today but i dont necessarily make a pact w/ myself to 'not like' tat person anymore
and i see alot of that around here
people make decisions on a comment or two,
w/o even having a dialogue(email) (a reative knowledge of you)
they decide youre a jerk
and its a frickin iron curtain-they are nev willing to speak again
people like this dont interest me
its sort of juvenile in my eyes
but also educational as to who may or may not be a potential friend
frankly im bored that this is such a common topic latey
the art of conversation is dead
its all either completely inane
'fighting' or 'problem solving'
good grief
mindfful:
whats with all the hippies wanting to regulate all of a sudden?
whats with all the hippies wanting to regulate all of a sudden?
Its not about wanting to regulate , its more about how far do we, collectively, want to let some of these threads wind us up - its been put to the vote and is looking like a lot of people are up for the ignore option as has been said already, some of these threads can actually have a good outcome or a blue fit can blow out of nowhere and just as quickly be resolved - these arent so much the type of thread in question - its more the ones where its obvious that the poster is on a mission to cause trouble and does so repeatedly
HealthyLiving: We must always remember that no matter what we do, to handle it in love.
Good post Trish!
Good post Trish!
Personally I just ignore their threads cause I really can't be bothered wasting my time on someone who irritates me!!!!!!!!
trish123: Al, dont be offended - ignoring is a unified and collective way of speaking out, of making a stand against these control freaks. If we all do it, it will be speaking very loudly indeed
Kind of like a "virtual" sit in. anybody remember those?Scottishlass: Kind of like a "virtual" sit in. anybody remember those?
they virtually succeeded. trish123: Its not about wanting to regulate , its more about how far do we, collectively, want to let some of these threads wind us up - its been put to the vote and is looking like a lot of people are up for the ignore option
as has been said already, some of these threads can actually have a good outcome or a blue fit can blow out of nowhere and just as quickly be resolved - these arent so much the type of thread in question - its more the ones where its obvious that the poster is on a mission to cause trouble and does so repeatedly
as has been said already, some of these threads can actually have a good outcome or a blue fit can blow out of nowhere and just as quickly be resolved - these arent so much the type of thread in question - its more the ones where its obvious that the poster is on a mission to cause trouble and does so repeatedly
Ignoring is only effective if it 100% but people are bored, there are no other threads so they read, get angry and get sucked in.
What is abusive? I categorize it as personal attacks on groups or individuals and use of condescending/rude/obscene language in response to peoples' posts.
If a poster is simply here to stir up contention, as demonstrated by threads titles and derogatory posts to everyone in every thread they visit, I report, repeatedly. It takes time, but the mods do respond to reports.
They would respond more quickly if everyone reported rather than complaining in the forums in multiple threads, as frequently happens, or joining in the offending thread to teach the OP the 'error of their ways'.
The former simply creates an atmosphere that is depressed and depressing, the latter is like water off a duck's back.
My vote is for ignore and report. I like having a backup plan!
i would of thought the women
of lancashire
would have better things to do
such as
swap hot pot recipes
not spending time on the dog n bone
putting threads together
of lancashire
would have better things to do
such as
swap hot pot recipes
not spending time on the dog n bone
putting threads together
mickeyscouse: i would of thought the women
of lancashire
would have better things to do
such as
swap hot pot recipes
not spending time on the dog n bone
putting threads together
of lancashire
would have better things to do
such as
swap hot pot recipes
not spending time on the dog n bone
putting threads together
gone are the days thankfully - would you believe we are even at university together too and yeah lots of letters are missing
my fingers are more numb than i realized oday
my fingers are more numb than i realized oday
bajanblue:
They would respond more quickly if everyone reported rather than complaining in the forums in multiple threads, as frequently happens, or joining in the offending thread to teach the OP the 'error of their ways'.
My vote is for ignore and report. I like having a backup plan!
They would respond more quickly if everyone reported rather than complaining in the forums in multiple threads, as frequently happens, or joining in the offending thread to teach the OP the 'error of their ways'.
My vote is for ignore and report. I like having a backup plan!
I agree that theres not much point in complaining in the actual threads Dor and maybe I will start hitting the report button more often too as you suggest, if we all do it surely we will get heard - anythings worth a try I guess.
bajanblue: Ignoring is only effective if it 100% but people are bored, there are no other threads so they read, get angry and get sucked in.
What is abusive? I categorize it as personal attacks on groups or individuals and use of condescending/rude/obscene language in response to peoples' posts.
If a poster is simply here to stir up contention, as demonstrated by threads titles and derogatory posts to everyone in every thread they visit, I report, repeatedly. It takes time, but the mods do respond to reports.
They would respond more quickly if everyone reported rather than complaining in the forums in multiple threads, as frequently happens, or joining in the offending thread to teach the OP the 'error of their ways'.
The former simply creates an atmosphere that is depressed and depressing, the latter is like water off a duck's back.
My vote is for ignore and report. I like having a backup plan!
What is abusive? I categorize it as personal attacks on groups or individuals and use of condescending/rude/obscene language in response to peoples' posts.
If a poster is simply here to stir up contention, as demonstrated by threads titles and derogatory posts to everyone in every thread they visit, I report, repeatedly. It takes time, but the mods do respond to reports.
They would respond more quickly if everyone reported rather than complaining in the forums in multiple threads, as frequently happens, or joining in the offending thread to teach the OP the 'error of their ways'.
The former simply creates an atmosphere that is depressed and depressing, the latter is like water off a duck's back.
My vote is for ignore and report. I like having a backup plan!
so for conversations sake
is this thread abusive?
its been whispered more than once who 'inspired it' ?
justification and rationalization
what a curse!
other animals dont have to have it and discipline it
i wanna be a butterfly
trish123: I agree that theres not much point in complaining in the actual threads Dor and maybe I will start hitting the report button more often too as you suggest, if we all do it surely we will get heard - anythings worth a try I guess.
hit report
dont be surprised if todays nemesis doesnt get booted
one may be unliked
doesnt make them also in violation
we all walk a fine line now and again
these threats and veiled threats sadden me
there have been at least 100 that stirred up this same type of conversation in the last 2 yrs
i hate for anyone to have to feel they are such a piece of crap
they are the biggest problem the special world of CS has ever seen
comeon trish
we both need a good row i tink
and i know we'd get up laughin and kissin so what say you?
i cant WAIT to meet
honetly-CS has been a huge tool(joke away) in my learning to disagree and not having it effect my eelings for a person
for me that is more of a wonder and betterment than i could explain
"funny but the young lady who started it all
was here for a very short time
spoke little english initially and then flowered(?)
into a well spoken concise assertive individual?
how did that transformation take place?
because you were all so accepting and helpful?
i wonder."
ahh mindfful, interesting as in "who" this young lady was? I'm gonna assume that its not riyablossom that your referring to, (as it doesnt really fit her description), at least I hoping not. As I have only been her for a few months, I dont know as many people who have come and gone from here.
was here for a very short time
spoke little english initially and then flowered(?)
into a well spoken concise assertive individual?
how did that transformation take place?
because you were all so accepting and helpful?
i wonder."
ahh mindfful, interesting as in "who" this young lady was? I'm gonna assume that its not riyablossom that your referring to, (as it doesnt really fit her description), at least I hoping not. As I have only been her for a few months, I dont know as many people who have come and gone from here.
trish123: I agree that theres not much point in complaining in the actual threads Dor and maybe I will start hitting the report button more often too as you suggest, if we all do it surely we will get heard - anythings worth a try I guess.
YEAH WE MUST BE WELL UNITED AGAINST THE STAKERS
blue_eyed_blonde: "funny but the young lady who started it all
was here for a very short time
spoke little english initially and then flowered(?)
into a well spoken concise assertive individual?
how did that transformation take place?
because you were all so accepting and helpful?
i wonder."ahh mindfful, interesting as in "who" this young lady was? I'm gonna assume that its not riyablossom that your referring to, (as it doesnt really fit her description), at least I hoping not. As I have only been her for a few months, I dont know as many people who have come and gone from here.
was here for a very short time
spoke little english initially and then flowered(?)
into a well spoken concise assertive individual?
how did that transformation take place?
because you were all so accepting and helpful?
i wonder."ahh mindfful, interesting as in "who" this young lady was? I'm gonna assume that its not riyablossom that your referring to, (as it doesnt really fit her description), at least I hoping not. As I have only been her for a few months, I dont know as many people who have come and gone from here.
OOOOOOWWWW POOR innocent trrrruuudy
mindfful: hit report
dont be surprised if todays nemesis doesnt get booted
one may be unliked
doesnt make them also in violation
we all walk a fine line now and again
these threats and veiled threats sadden me
there have been at least 100 that stirred up this same type of conversation in the last 2 yrs
i hate for anyone to have to feel they are such a piece of crap
they are the biggest problem the special world of CS has ever seen
comeon trish
we both need a good row i tink
and i know we'd get up laughin and kissin so what say you?
i cant WAIT to meet
honetly-CS has been a huge tool(joke away) in my learning to disagree and not having it effect my eelings for a person
for me that is more of a wonder and betterment than i could explain
dont be surprised if todays nemesis doesnt get booted
one may be unliked
doesnt make them also in violation
we all walk a fine line now and again
these threats and veiled threats sadden me
there have been at least 100 that stirred up this same type of conversation in the last 2 yrs
i hate for anyone to have to feel they are such a piece of crap
they are the biggest problem the special world of CS has ever seen
comeon trish
we both need a good row i tink
and i know we'd get up laughin and kissin so what say you?
i cant WAIT to meet
honetly-CS has been a huge tool(joke away) in my learning to disagree and not having it effect my eelings for a person
for me that is more of a wonder and betterment than i could explain
I dont do rows sorry 
but Im pretty good at walking away Honestly Mindfful, dont take this so personally, nobody is specifically getting at anyone you particularly are fond of and even if they are, its their business - we all like or dislike different people and threads, we have the choice to be involved - or not
Whilst doing this thread I have been thinking back months to various threads in which people vent and/or get upset and how unneccesary it all is - Like Bajan said, its about "What is abusive? I categorize it as personal attacks on groups or individuals and use of condescending/rude/obscene language in response to peoples' posts.
If a poster is simply here to stir up contention, as demonstrated by threads titles and derogatory posts to everyone in every thread they visit"
None of us like this kind of stuff - were you actually here sunday night when a barrage of it went off - it was horrible I assure you
I voted for ''point out rules on abusive behaviour'' (pull 'em up, basically)........'cause that's what I did on someone else's behalf the second day after I joined.
I really was shocked at what had been posted and I was basically told in response that if I didn't like it , I should report to the mods.So the next time it happened, I did report (for the first and last time).I was advised by mods to ''lighten up''.....
Looking back, I don't regret speaking up (never got personal) and I would do it again and again if I thought I had to.
I can't ignore. If someone's attacking me I don't really care (seriously) but the thought that someone else is being attacked and feeling alone with noone to support or come to their defence really makes me sick.
Having said that, more than one person coming to anyone's defence feels like ganging up and also makes me sick.
I would NEVER report again 'cause I thought that was useless.
2 PEOPLE SO FAR HAVE OPTED FOR ''OTHER SUGGESTION''........Could they say what that might be??
I really was shocked at what had been posted and I was basically told in response that if I didn't like it , I should report to the mods.So the next time it happened, I did report (for the first and last time).I was advised by mods to ''lighten up''.....
Looking back, I don't regret speaking up (never got personal) and I would do it again and again if I thought I had to.
I can't ignore. If someone's attacking me I don't really care (seriously) but the thought that someone else is being attacked and feeling alone with noone to support or come to their defence really makes me sick.
Having said that, more than one person coming to anyone's defence feels like ganging up and also makes me sick.
I would NEVER report again 'cause I thought that was useless.
2 PEOPLE SO FAR HAVE OPTED FOR ''OTHER SUGGESTION''........Could they say what that might be??
after i saw her pic ive read nothing else
i am sooo happy!!!
i am soooo happy!!
i am sooo happy!!!
i am soooo happy!!
mindfful: hit report
dont be surprised if todays nemesis doesnt get booted
one may be unliked
doesnt make them also in violation
we all walk a fine line now and again
these threats and veiled threats sadden me
there have been at least 100 that stirred up this same type of conversation in the last 2 yrs
i hate for anyone to have to feel they are such a piece of crap
they are the biggest problem the special world of CS has ever seen
comeon trish
we both need a good row i tink
and i know we'd get up laughin and kissin so what say you?
i cant WAIT to meet
honetly-CS has been a huge tool(joke away) in my learning to disagree and not having it effect my eelings for a person
for me that is more of a wonder and betterment than i could explain
dont be surprised if todays nemesis doesnt get booted
one may be unliked
doesnt make them also in violation
we all walk a fine line now and again
these threats and veiled threats sadden me
there have been at least 100 that stirred up this same type of conversation in the last 2 yrs
i hate for anyone to have to feel they are such a piece of crap
they are the biggest problem the special world of CS has ever seen
comeon trish
we both need a good row i tink
and i know we'd get up laughin and kissin so what say you?
i cant WAIT to meet
honetly-CS has been a huge tool(joke away) in my learning to disagree and not having it effect my eelings for a person
for me that is more of a wonder and betterment than i could explain
Yeah.
I can see that.
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maybe we could get the mods to provide a whole new category
Although that does sound like a good thread category, "Manic Moments"
In all seriousness, perhaps a category called, "I need to Vent" or something of that nature, where those of us who want to help may go to render compassion to those who are hurting and angry.