What Happends Most in Divorce with Children? (56)
Claayer: Exactly.. I gave my ex every opportunity and choice he wanted re the kids..
and he picked NONE.
and he picked NONE.
I have seen both sides, it took my brother 2 years of going through the courts to even get access to his daughter since his ex just didnt want him involved at all(except fro maintenace of course)
It was heartbreaking watching him break his heart. he missed the little one so much
bodleing: True MF, but sometimes it has to be suffered for
the benefit of all invoved.
the benefit of all invoved.
i wasnt giving any opinion
answering the plain part of the question...
my experience would be too extreme to be used as any example
so i went with the surefire answer
vonney: I have seen both sides, it took my brother 2 years of going through the courts to even get access to his daughter since his ex just didnt want him involved at all(except fro maintenace of course)
It was heartbreaking watching him break his heart. he missed the little one so much
It was heartbreaking watching him break his heart. he missed the little one so much
Oh I agree.. I think the only ones that matter (first and foremost) in any relationship are the kids.
I still have exactly the same relationship with my in laws and the great grandparents.. aunties uncles.. (on HIS side).. as I did when I was married. For the sake of the children... They don't choose who splits up when..
It's so unfair when adults make the (often wrong) choices for them. I still socialise with them.. have Christmas Day or Boxing day.. bike rides etc with them.. (even tho.. tbh .. I don't like them as people very much)
and Even tho I haaaaaaaated my husband (TRULY!) for the first few years after we split up.. I always always put the kids and their relationship with him first.
But thats just how it should be IMO.
I guess in some cases it could be a relief for the
children involved.
The lead up to a divorce or separation can be
just as, if not more traumatic for young souls.
children involved.
The lead up to a divorce or separation can be
just as, if not more traumatic for young souls.
Or my Outlaws.. as I now like to call them 
bodleing: I guess in some cases it could be a relief for the
children involved.
The lead up to a divorce or separation can be
just as, if not more traumatic for young souls.
children involved.
The lead up to a divorce or separation can be
just as, if not more traumatic for young souls.
so often true
but i still feel for myself
i am responsible for that to a degree
having gotten into relationship
knowing inside the person was wrong, not well,
ignoring red flags whatever
so i did have some responsibility in the end
as i was responsible for the beginning
each situation is drastically different in detail
but often the same in outcome
thats why i chose the answer that couldnt be disputed
Claayer: Or my Outlaws .. as I now like to call them
youre the outlaw
mindfful: youre the outlaw
Ssshssh!
mindfful: youre the outlaw
Well she does live in the 'wild west'
bodleing: Well she does live in the 'wild west'
:::blows pistol:::
I doooo
Elvisfan: I am trying to find out what the majority thinks about what happens to Children after a divorce with children are involved. I have heard so many different things about the subject.
Thank You
Thank You
You forgot the number one answer.
Kid get screwed and used as pawns for mom and dad to fight with.
trublu: You forgot the number one answer.
Kid get screwed and used as pawns for mom and dad to fight with.
Kid get screwed and used as pawns for mom and dad to fight with.
i said pain
that covered it
PILIPALA: What happened did you lose your kids?
No Pilipala I didn't but I was living with a chid whose actions I didn't understand. Why would my daughter cry when I tried to help her with her homework, why would she accuse me of telling others everything she told me, why did she seem to not want to be in my presence, why when she was 12 did she label herself as a "latch key child"? I remember standing there with my mouth open at her words. It seems obvious now, but back then I would have never thought that my ex could be such a monster. My son was older when I divorced so he wasn't as bad but he did nothing to change my daughter's perception of me. That hurt just as bad.
JOESINGLEDAD: Forgot to say goodmorning.Didn't reconize you this morning. (Leaves,thinking of Clark Kent.)
In my experiance, he lied through his teeth to the attorney his family AND me. He knew I didn't want the divorce so he lied and told me everything I wanted to hear, that as soon as the divorce was done we'd get back together so the custody wouldn't matterand we'd get remarried. I gave in to his lies and accepted joint legal custody but with him having primary physical custody which only means that the kids live with him. We ended up living together off and on for the last 4 years with him going to dating sites and breaking up with me every time we tried to get back together. Now however we live apart and have maintained a friendship finally. Our kids are very well cared for by both of us and we both have been able to spend a great deal of time with our children.
rasgumby: Just a really screwed up system!
The court gave my son to his mother. Even thou Police and DFS were on my side... Just made no difference.
Then 2 years later when I lived in another state....They called me and told me to come get him NOW! and forced her to sign them over to me or go to jail!
The court gave my son to his mother. Even thou Police and DFS were on my side... Just made no difference.
Then 2 years later when I lived in another state....They called me and told me to come get him NOW! and forced her to sign them over to me or go to jail!
.... I am glad they are now with u!!! The court system with regard to this issue is really really really really screwed up and unfair. Makes me wonder why anyone would want to bring kids into this world.
I am very happy for them
trublu: You forgot the number one answer.
Kid get screwed and used as pawns for mom and dad to fight with.
Kid get screwed and used as pawns for mom and dad to fight with.
I am sorry, that is what should Never happen, That is why I started this because to many children are being treated like that and it make me so Mad
Elvisfan: I am sorry, that is what should Never happen, That is why I started this because to many children are being treated like that and it make me so Mad
Glad this got bumped up again.
Kids can't always speak out for themselves...so they need advocates to speak out for them, aye?
hola chicoElvisfan: I am trying to find out what the majority thinks about what happens to Children after a divorce with children are involved. I have heard so many different things about the subject.
Thank You
Thank You
The kids blame themselves for something they had NOTHING to do with..
Therapy, therapy, therapy.............
(Probably wouldn't hurt the adults either but chances are they are so self centered they think nothing is wrong with them.)
mindfful: i said pain
that covered it
that covered it
Unbelievable.
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the benefit of all invoved.
Thats it.. the bumpy road from A to B..