Would you go out with someone who had a serious mental health problem? (103)

Of course everyone deserves passion and love but it's not the law that I have to date them.

I would never in a million years date anyone that is bipolar or have all this ridiculous anxiety and other emotional problems.

Their trump card to cheating, stealing and doing whatever else they want and get away with it is their disease.

"I didn't take my meds!". lol;

Most people with issues like these are put on tons of meds instead of giving them good advice.

One friend who was "bipolar" always made stupid decisions in dating. It was never her fault; she always was a poor little victim, until we all said enough. Start taking responsibilities for your actions and stop the victim crap. Take control of your life.

3 years later she is in a stable relationship and takes no meds.

All of these mental "disorders" have been fed to us by the insurance companies, which right now are trying to pass U.S. laws to allow 2 year olds; YES TWO YEAR OLDS! to go on antidepressants!!!!

79% of mental drugs are taken by ONE COUNTRY!!! the U.S.

We're fed this crap that we are victims, go on meds, and if you do something wrong it's not your fault, it's the disease.

I think it's ridiculous. So no way would I date someone with emotional problems.

P.S. not by the insurance companies; I made a mistake; by the drug companies; they are also trying to make road rage a mental disorder so insurance companies can pay for mental meds for it.

I worked in a half way house too and to see doctors and nurses tell these people it was never their fault and to just take drugs was insanity.

Oh.

Well, in the case of that, I guess they would cancel one another out!!!

I don't think that is funny. My sister is retarted. Her life has not been an easy one. She tried to hide her condition, but it became quite noticeable as she reached puberty. It was hard for her to talk. Going to high school was a shock to her. My God, she wasn't going to be ashamed anymore. She removed her breast binder, she no longer wore Oxford shoes, and now her face had more paint that the Mahattan Bridge. She could now celebrate the fact that she was a TART, (she had been for a while, but only in secret, sneaking out on Saturday night). So she was really celebrating her "RETART NIGHT". YES, MY SISTER IS RETARTED!!!!.

Yes everyone on their on merits.

If person was on theirs med's and acted like a adult, why not? Look at all the normal people with problems that act like children and are on this site.

Don't label all that have the a mental disorder as someone bad to date, you might just have met one of the greatest people around.

True, if they are not one their meds and are not trying, that is a different story.

Even if they are on their meds, and they are not working, maybe the most simple thing that can be done, to to change their doctor, to get a second opinion.

But of all things considered, try to treat these people as human beings and with dignity. This seems to be the illness to shame people for and people say run. You may not want to date people with a condition like this, but respect them like you want to be respected yourself. It goes both ways.

The Doberman

My wife had a serious mental health problem.

Well she must have...she married me!!!

My wife had a serious mental health problem.

Well she must have...she married me!!![/quote


I accept that answer, good one!


So are you a notapolar?


You see, you have bipolar: manic depressive
unipolar: depressive
notapolar: ones that are normal -
but who is normal, these days?


The Doberman
ALso, notapolar, made up by me, not a scientific term.

I would agree.

However, the problem with many who have, for example, Borderline Personality disorder, is that meds or no meds, they still need to work hard, themselves, to take the edge of some of their behaviours.

Sometimes I feel that they can pull this or that, and get away with it, kinda hide behind their mental health problem.

Yes, I have know those types, you are completely correct, anyone with a mental illness can not take advanage of people because of their disease. Because soon, people around them will be calling wolf. They need to constantly be doing team work with their doctors-talk therapy and their meds. The sad thing is, the other can do only so much. Then it is between the person and their doctors.

There are support groups for the loved ones dealing with the person, so they can get the support from others going through the same or similiar problem. Because one thing that is not mentioned, is heredity has alot to do with mental illness. Then when the mentally ill person marries, the disease is often passed to their children.

The person, should also attend support groups for the mentally ill.
They can hear others talk about their particular illness. In the end,
the mentally ill person is in charge for their own life. Not someone else taking care of them constantly, but times do arise when they do need a hug or some understanding. It is not a easy disease to cope with and really hard when such a stigma goes along with it. Look at how many here would not date a mentally ill person.

I think the old saying is very true here, talk a walk in my shoes. Maybe you would get a new outlook.

The Doberman

Well, how about this one. When I was with this lass, in question, I went all the way to the other end of the country, to live with her. It cost me a lot to do that, and, of course, the upheavel of it. The day that I got there, she proudly announced that she was coming off ALL her meds, at once. Obviously, I was concerned, suggested that if she did not like them, perhaps she should go to the GP, and be guided. But no, she did not take them for two weeks, began coming apart at the seams, being really nasty to me. Which was really hard, given that I was in her flat, in her town.

After two weeks, she went back on them (not a good idea to flip flop), and, later that same day, she went out drinking, and got v ill.

Guess who the mug was who was running back and forth, with a bucket..?

That would have been bad enough. However, she then proceeded to tell anyone who would listen, that I was trying to convince her she had a MHP, and that I wanted her on the meds 'as it is easier to control her'.

That really hurt, because I had only ever tried to do my best, when it came to her care, and meds, so for her to turn around, say such things, well, to me, that is really evil.

Not sure if the lesson I learned was of any merit, tbh, other than that it showed me;

A) If someone exhibits obvious signs of a MHP, or you know they have one, do not risk being hurt, by helping them, or going out with them.

so this is your coming out party then desert guy?