If I ask my sheets if they are of a religious faith, would it be discriminatory if I don't give a monkey's about about my quilt cover and pillow case's spirituality?
When our first beloved dog died, I gave my 8 year old daughter two options:
We could have him privately cremated and keep his ashes (costly, almost beyond our means); or he could be cremated with all the other dogs for free and his ashes scattered on arable fields.
She opted for the mass cremation the grounds that she didn't want him to be alone.
And yet, perhaps we are all alone in death, and maybe that's not so bad. Maybe aloneness is less important when we break down and become a part of the universe once more.
I think the relatives would likely appreciate their loved ones back.
On the other hand, the expense could be spent on the living.
It's a difficult one, where only the relatives can decide.
How about if the cost of retrieval were to be put at the disposal of the relatives? They could then decide if they wanted their loved ones back for a land burial, or if they wanted the funds to go elsewhere. It could provide closure, either way.
Call me cynical, but I doubt very much that he was lead by his heart.
He more than likely has a personality disorder. He experiences life from his own perspective only. He cannot empathise with others.
He described the first drone attack he authorised brutally killing 23 civilians including 10 children under the age of 12 as a 'win'.
He will have called it off because to go through with it may have had a negative impact for himself in some way. Perhaps it was something to do with so recently launching his 2020 election campaign and not wanting to alienate a targeted group of voters.
One can hardly expect after so much oppression that everyone will be an expert at redressing the balance.
Indeed the very act of oppression undermines the self, and so self awareness.
And you can't not work towards equality because you're frightened you might make a mistake. That sounds like the mentality of the oppressed.
Bear in mind that whilst some men flourish in some ways because they have male advantage, many men don't appreciate being forced into a gender role any more than women do. I'm sure you remember the days when little girls didn't think becoming a doctor was realistic, or it didn't cross their minds and men who became nurses were labelled as poofs.
The whole point of equality is to provide freedom of choice without the constraints of societal norms which is the only way we may become self-actualised, healthy human beings.
I can't say I like Biden's style and I'm not sure he's enough of an improvement on Trump.
I'm disappointed that Mayor Pete Buttigieg is too sensible to get very far in the polls. It seems he's focussed upon political issues, rather than the song and dance routine most of you Americans seem to favour.
Y'know, I don't think presidents are supposed to be entertainers, but hey ho.
I don't think it's uncommon for un-famous people to die with friends and family around them.
My mother once told me that when visiting a friend in hospital she witnessed a couple of nurses plonk an elderly woman on a commode and then walk away continuing their chatter. They hadn't acknowledged the woman's existence in the process.
A few minutes later the woman died alone, still on the commode.
It inspired my mum to become a care assistant for the elderly, so strongly she felt that noone should die with such indignity and alone.
It can also be an important part of the grieving process to be with a loved one as they pass.
It may sound like a clichéd phrase, some may prefer to die without their loved ones witnessing their passing, some may prefer not to be a witness to the end, but I'm generally comforted to hear when people don't have horrible, undignified, or solitary deaths through lack of care.
If I make a size 12 frock for everyone, I am treating them all the same.
I am not treating them equally, however, as only one, or two people will have a wearable item of clothing.
To treat people equally, I must make everyone a usable item of clothing.
This is the difference between treating everyone the same and treating everyone equally.
To think that men and women can be treated the same, or have the same expectations of them is to treat them unequally, just as steps and no ramps treats everyone the same, but excludes wheelchair users.
Feminism is about equal rights for women, but it's impossible to have equal rights for women without having equal rights for men. If men, or women don't have equal rights, then neither can have equal rights by definition. Ultimately, feminism is about equal rights for everyone, just from women's perspective. It's a starting point, just as there are many other starting points.
Studies have demonstrated that the more oppressed women are in a society, the more they express their anger with tears. It is socially unacceptable for women to express anger because the last thing you want an oppressed people to do is get angry. Anger is a mark of uprising and change.
Interestingly, the opposite is often true for men. Boys don't cry because expressing feelings of anguish mark rebellion.
We have 'feeling rules' to keep the status quo. People become uncomfortable when those feeling rules are transgressed, so any women's anger is lumped into a category of female chauvinism in order to suppress it.
The trick is to realise that we can all benefit from equality and co-operation. We waste a lot of human resources when capable people are repressed and the power is held by just a few who might not be the most skilled to do so.
I think we have a lot more control over life and death than is commonly believed.
I think at the brink, we may make a choice, unless of course we have some catastrophic trauma which makes life untenable.
The thing I wonder about is losing cognitive capacity. It is the power of the mind which enables us to survive, or let go of life.
If you were to fight for what you think your father would have wanted in the full capacity of his mind, I would think that a most noble battle in painful circumstances. I also appreciate that there are other family members, including yourself, who you need to care for.
When we experience emotional turmoil it comes out in all sorts of ways, Itchy.
We're more likely to cry at a soppy movie if we've just split up with our partner. The movie hasn't become sadder, we're more vulnerable to sad things.
Paul was experiencing anger and frustration as woman in a man's body. That anger and frustration came out when his work was criticised.
As Paula, she no longer felt the anger and frustration she did, so didn't lose her temper over work issues.
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If I ask my sheets if they are of a religious faith, would it be discriminatory if I don't give a monkey's about about my quilt cover and pillow case's spirituality?