RE: What Is Wrong With Men Dating A Younger Women , Or An Older Women Dating A Younger Guy Your Thoughts

If there is a big age difference, there can be a power imbalance within the relationship.

When I say big age difference, it can be relative and not necessarily chronological.

10 years between a 16 year old and a 26 year old is a bigger age gap than between a 50 year old and a 60 year old.

Mental age can make a big difference, which is why some people are considered vulnerable.

If two people are equals in a partnership, then age is somewhat irrelevant, but age can impact upon equality.

RE: Online losers and duds

Sorry about that, Molly. laugh

RE: Online losers and duds

Wanna a cold date, Molls? laugh

RE: If We Treated Other Medical Ailments Like Mental Illness

Okay, so I'm on the doctor pedestal.

Is that the kind of doctor who has no personal experience of difficulties ever in their lives, or the kind who should be on their own couch? Because there's only those two extreme categories of doctor, right?

There has to be those two stereotypes so we can get angry at them for not making everything better. Of course, the third category is the magician, if only we could find and afford them.

Prometheus, I agree there are issues, big, serious issues with regards to how society manages and values mental health, but there are also issues with how we manage and value mental health.

Hitting out at anybody and everybody may be a part of that process, but at some point we need to reflect on what we're doing and why in order to move beyond that.

You mentioned people not knowing how to go about creating change. Mindfulness, anxiety management, anger management, bereavement models, feeling rules and emotional work, self-actualisation, models of attachment - there is a wealth of stuff on the internet. Some are more complex and inaccessible than others which is why I put mindfullness first and attachment theory last, and it's by no means an exhaustive list.

One simple exercise: After interactions with others write down the answers to

What was I feeling?
What was I thinking?
How was I behaving?
What does it remind me of?

RE: If We Treated Other Medical Ailments Like Mental Illness

I knew someone who took beta blockers for a six week period during a time of extreme stress (along with continuing talking therapy). This person had a history of anxiety and depression, but after taking the beta blockers, they appeared different.

It was like this person had remembered what it was like to be free from crippling anxiety. dunno

RE: Country music!

I'm in no way trying to persuade you to go to your doctor, but if you do at some point in the future, you don't have to give up control to him, or her.

You can say your bit, your doctor says their bit, but what choices you make as a result of a consultation are yours alone.

By going to see a doctor, your are not committing yourself to a 'treatment' of that person's choice. Making an appointment is not legally binding. You can discuss options and go away and think about it. I'd like to think it might include options for grief counselling.

Just sayin'.

RE: Am I depressed?

Prom, I'm sure Philipsen is more than capable of gathering information and making choices for himself.

We're just offering information from our varied experience, some of which will be personal, some educated, or professional. I imagine we all contributed because firstly he asked and secondly we're trying to offer some small support.

By criticising us, perhaps you're still pushing away, maybe out of habit. Perhaps that's something to reflect on.

It's such a small thing we're doing and we probably can't do much else but listen and post comments, but it's something. It would be nice for it to be viewed and valued for what it is.

RE: Bad president, bad president. What you gonna do, when they come for you.

I should have said thankyou to chat, java and M4 for filling me in, as well.

It's one thing reading stuff, but having explanations and perspectives from people living within the culture and current climate not only makes it clearer, but humanises the situation.

RE: Bad president, bad president. What you gonna do, when they come for you.

Yes thankyou, I have a better picture of what's going on now.

RE: Bad president, bad president. What you gonna do, when they come for you.

Brilliant, thanks Jim.

RE: Bad president, bad president. What you gonna do, when they come for you.

I see, Cohen's not the first.

CFO...? What's that stand for?

RE: Bad president, bad president. What you gonna do, when they come for you.

It's okay, I've looked at your other thread about Mueller's position and I've got the picture now. thumbs up

RE: Bad president, bad president. What you gonna do, when they come for you.

Mueller's temporary boss is Matt Whittaker?

RE: Bad president, bad president. What you gonna do, when they come for you.

Thanks Jim, I do appreciate your time and effort.

Cohen's admissions - is this to do with getting a reduced sentence and what you meant when you posed the question about how many more people will flip?

RE: "IS TIME ON THEIR SIDE?"

I was told their set last June in Cardiff was somewhat beyond their capability.

Going to see them these days is for the image, not for their musical skill.

RE: Bad president, bad president. What you gonna do, when they come for you.

It doesn't seem like his helpers are doing a very good job of wiping the biscuit crumbs from around his mouth.

From this side of the pond it looks like people are just denying the crumbs are there.

RE: Bad president, bad president. What you gonna do, when they come for you.

I was just checking because I don't understand how Trump has maintained his position thus far.

RE: Like him back - N/A ???

If you've hidden your profile, you must have at some point logged back in in order to un-hide it.

When you log back in, other people will see that your logged in whether you're still hidden, or not.

If you're still hidden, you won't be able to access the facilities like sending mail, or posting, but you will be seen as being logged in.

If someone likes you and then hides their profile prior to logging out, there will be a period where they appear online with a hidden and inaccessible profile. I think it takes about 20 minutes after you've logged off for the system to catch up and for online/offline dot to change colour.

RE: Bad president, bad president. What you gonna do, when they come for you.

Thankyou Chatillion, and "Blimey!" as we Brits say.

Would that be grounds for impeachment?

RE: If We Treated Other Medical Ailments Like Mental Illness



TEDx Gabor Mate.

RE: If We Treated Other Medical Ailments Like Mental Illness

Okay, Molly. hug

As for wallowing, or dwelling, these are very often self-talk concepts within mental illness. Depression very often affects the toughest of people, the ones who keep going, keep picking themselves back up in the face of adversity, until they become exhausted. I mustn't wallow, I mustn't dwell, I must keep going, I must keep up appearances, I must support others with no thought for myself.

The reverse is actually more realistic. Rest is very important with respect to depression. The body becomes lethargic for a reason. Dwelling is healthy if directional: it's only when we become emotionally aware, explore the roots of our thoughts, feelings and behaviours that we may begin to find alternative pathways.

Exercise to boost neurochemistry and distraction to provide relief are also healthy, but not one at the expense of the other.

RE: Bad president, bad president. What you gonna do, when they come for you.

Would you mind explaining the Michael Cohen arrest for me, Jim?

Oh, and the Republican Tea Party?

Sorry, I'm being demanding when you're not well. Another time maybe, if I'm asking too much. I don't know how simply these things can be described.

RE: If We Treated Other Medical Ailments Like Mental Illness

But you didn't speak, Molly, and you said you were afraid that your opinion would be too un-PC.

Come on, out with it. laugh

I respect your intellect and opinions. Chew the cud with me.

RE: If We Treated Other Medical Ailments Like Mental Illness

How about "You're dwelling on your feelings too much. Just do something else."

Or, "You're inflicting it on yourself."

RE: Like him back - N/A ???

Deary me Biff, I already said it. You can hide your profile, but still be online.

If you can't login, you can't unhide your profile, ergo hiding your profile would be in effect, cancelling your profile.

RE: Bad president, bad president. What you gonna do, when they come for you.

It was this bit that went over my head. I don't see the link between the Zervos case and the alleged misappropriation of charitable funds.

RE: Bad president, bad president. What you gonna do, when they come for you.

I'm not sure I understood all of that other than Trump seems to have law suits coming out of his ears. shock

I also don't understand how he's still president. Thatcher's own party gave her the push when they got to the point where they had no confidence in her anymore. dunno

It seems like in the US serious transgressions are ignored then you get a better job, but then again, that's what happened with Tony Blair: from war criminal with respect to Iraq to Middle East envoy for the United Nations...at the request of George W. Bush.

Do I see a theme here?

RE: Am I depressed?

That's a good point, Ex.

Exercise boosts the neurochemicals you might be a bit low on right now.

RE: Life Isn't Easy

If life was easy, we'd have no cube of cheese to strive for.

If we had no cube of cheese to strive for, we wouldn't learn to walk round to the other side of the barrier to get the cheese.

We wouldn't get so much satisfaction from yaffling the cheese.

All the cubes of cheese should be spread out a little more evenly for the benefit of all.

RE: Hurrah, it's Black Friday

My granddaughter is coming up eight years old and her zest for life has been evident from the beginning, including two rather stressful visits to A&E because her urge to live life to the fullest outweighed any consideration of the consequences.

My daughter was a different kettle of fish. She felt things deeply and carefully considered the best way to tackle death defying feats in order to avoid, well, death.

I'm off topic, sorry. Consumerism, yay.

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