But if you knew before hand that it wouldn't work then it would stop there, no need to invite to visit since you would know how you felt. I'm talking about if you thought there might be a possibility but on meeting the feelings just don't spark for you. Meeting in person and meeting online is two different things I think.
but what would you do if they are attracted to you and have built up all these expectations and now after inviting them to visit you've got to let them down. I know this is a scenario that many of us may eventually have to face.
You've been talking to someone online for a while, they seem cool and you like each, you IM, call on the phone, e-mail etc.. Then you decide to meet(they don't live in the same country) so you invite them to visit you and you discover that you are wildly attracted to each other but there is so much distance between you or you met and find that you were not as attracted as you thought you would be. How would you handle either situation?
When you read a lot of profiles you see the person write that they are looking someone "decent or a nice girl/guy", but what does that really mean? I have also seen the complaints on here by those who claim that people don't really want someone decent. And if they got "nice" would they really want it?
A nice guy or girl who would not lie or cheat and would be there for you 100% is that really attractive or are some people secretly attracted to a bad girl or bad boy who string them along with promises only to leave them in the dust and move on to the next conquest? And what of the "nice guy or girl"? Does all their decency guarantee that they will be a good catch or that their heart won't get stomped on by the next careless admirer? Any thoughts?
Personally I don't think I have a preference, gotten so used to see all these races intermarry out here that to me its all good once its a decent guy and you like each other.
I was recently told by a male friend that he just can't understand women's obsession with handbags. He claims that men get along quite nicely with one simple wallet to hold all their stuff but women need to walk around with a suitcase on their shoulder, a bottomless pit containing God knows what, that they forever need to dig around in to find stuff. Another complaint was the length of time it took us to get dressed to go out, I tried to explain that most women wanted to make sure that they looked good for their date, what man does not want to know he has an attractively dressed woman on his arm? And what's with all them shoes? Do you ladies really need so many, I tried to explain that some women just like shoes Ladies and gents the floor is all yours
I'm a real bad chocoholic and I tend to specialize. I like dark chocolate but I don't want my chocolate tained by any other ingredient except nuts. But not just any nuts, I prefer hazlenuts, cashew nuts or Brazil nuts. The extent of my disease- I'll go to the grocery and only buy certain brands of chocolate, there is a specific kind that I like so I'll go through each bar to see that there is an even distrubution of nut to bar, if there aren't enough nuts per bar I put it back, then its on to the next one till I find one that's just right. Like I said I am A REAL BAD CHOCOHOLIC. And that would be the assylum attendants coming to take me back to my room must run now
Jack and Jill using the Well as a private hangout for the mob during Prohibition,police raid the place and they go tumbling down the hill running with a bucket of bootleg liquor.
Okay so you think drugs are fun. It must be fun not having to deal with the real world - like a kid to feed and bills to pay. I would not dig a suit wearing traditional job either so I found a job that didn't require me to be so formal and stiff. If you want to be a responsibility free drug taker then one might not agree but still have to respect your choice but you owe the same curtesy to those of us who chose to be non drug taking responsible adults.
There's something to be said for coming from a culture that has had a long history(and continues to have) of interracial relationships. In my country there were many races that came here, settled down and intermarried. The results are two countries full of people with fascinating mixes of features and skin colours. People are free to date and marry who they choose. I am a black person but my ancestors were black, caucasian and east-indian, so within in my own family we range from fair skinned red heads with freckles and light eyes to darker shades of brown. I guess growing up around so many people who are the result of this mixing makes it no big deal for me to accept someone from a diffrent race.
Competition is just as stiff out there in the real dating world as it is on the internet. So don't be shy come blow your own horn and say what are those special little things you do that makes you a hot date.
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Hi everyone I just thought that since this was an international forum it would be interesting to find out what are some of the courship rituals people have in different parts of the world. In Tobago where I was born there were many interesting courtship rituals in the past. One I remember hearing about was the one that involved a tough piece of wood and a dull axe. Apparently if a young man wished to come a courting a young lady he had first to write a very WELL letter to her parents. If he got approval and the couple reached the stage of wanting to get married he now not only had to write to ask for her hand in marriage but he was asked to come over to the house of the girl. There he was presented with a dull axe and a tough piece of wood to chop. If he did a good job of chopping or at least seemed persistent then he might have been rewarded with the girls hand, but if he seemed to give up too easy and did a bad job then he was turned away. I think the lesson here was that in life as a married couple they would face many tough challenges and if the man as head of the household gave up too easily that might not spell success for the marriage and no parent would willing send off their daughter to a man who lack the will to even try despite the hardships.
Well it would be interesting to hear about any other courtship rituals that you guys wish to share.
I want to know Just how you feel Said-a I want to know If what you feel is real
'Cause there is a reason, yeah For the things that I say I want to love you, girl In a special way
We've been together For so very long I would hate to break up Break up our happy home
The way we stand and the way we lie The way we love and the way we cry Of all these things there lies a tie Makes me feel that it's worth a try I'll be good to you
Good to you, good to you, good to you I'll be good to you, good to you, good to you I'll be good to you, good to you, good to you I'll be good to you, good to you
'Cause there is a reason For the things that I say I wanna love you, girl In a special way
We've been together For so very long I would hate to break up Break up our happy home
Take a step now, and let me know how All of your ways, girl And all your know-hows I'll be good to you
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Lady I like your spunk 
Any thoughts?
Ladies and gents the floor is all yours
What would you do in these situations