I may be stirring up some issues here, UnMatch, but I think Grannit Hands could use a softening touch, too, just to make him more accessible and cuddly for the ladies...?
I really don't like people like that, know what I mean? But what can you do? It can be frustrating, but isn't that part of life? Is that the kind of thing you were getting at, Gilly?
The fact that you've written this demonstrates that you are courageous enough to confront your demons and admit your wrongs -- a necessary and powerful first step toward self-redemption. It takes a lot of character to do that, I think.
I agree with those who have counseled that you do not attempt to cling to your wife, but rather accept her judgment and concentrate on yourself. You will find that nearly impossible to do. But I believe it is necessary nonetheless. Trying to deal with her and her sons' hurts and issues while dealing with your own would likely cripple everyone involved and merely forestall your self-discovery (which is what this is all about, imho).
Best of luck, and keep working on your problems. There is no quick fix or easy way out. A professional counselor/psychologist, per Arabella's suggestion, is a good idea, but there is nothing wrong with listening to people who've gone through something similar to what you're now experiencing. Few things can substitute for knowledge gained from the actual experience.
Agreed -- there should be some physical appeal (look at how hard I've been working at it!). But how much, exactly? And of course, everyone has different tastes, so there's no universal standard for that.
After a certain point, when you have achieved "necessary attraction," what does beauty add? If you had a choice between, say, a "7/10" (looks - personality) and a "10/7" (personality - looks), which would you choose?
That's a no-brainer to me. (The former, but then I'm awfully shallow
I think this has some relevance to the "princess" thread. Pretty much what I was trying to say -- and, of course, it applies equally to men as well. (Note to Small Town.)
As though doing better has anything to do with finding the "hottest-looking" lady!?
I'd say it has more to do with finding the *best* lady or guy (for you). One can have a hot personality, too. Though I'm not necessarily recommending that, for health reasons.
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RE: What's wrong with being a princess?
Now I'm not sure that makes sense. How does love conquer something in a fantasy...? (And what exactly is it conquering?)