The irony is that your typical bluntness and provocativeness seems to have made you one of the more popular people here, judging by comments on another thread Who would've thought?
Brownie points aside, I think it would be dishonest and patronizing for me to write something like "big is beautiful," even if some overweight ladies or men happen to be good-looking.
Thanks for not jumping all over me about that, Karen. Everyone has the right to like what they like. With the one possible exception of my ex-mother-in-law.
Myself and...me? I? For me, it's become "myselves." There's a skinny guy, a bearded fat guy, a kind of muscular clean-shaven guy, and some troll-like creature whose name I'm not sure about...
Damn, Flying Saucer, you really nailed the case for being single! By the way, some of those things relate well to why I am single. I mean that disagreements over the things you've named above heavily contributed to the demise my marriage.
I might not always have to edit my own writings (if I found the right girl)?
But seriously, one thing for me would be not having to constantly endure those one-sided conversations/arguments you have with yourself. They say it's okay to talk to yourself, as long as yourself doesn't start answering. I think I'm about three layers into that peculiarly self-referential kind of conversation.
That was a touching and thought-provoking story, Heart. What are you trying to do, make certain people around here feel shallow ?
I don't like being politically correct about this. I'd prefer being honest. I think being overweight says something about how a person feels about him or herself. It doesn't say it all -- probably doesn't even say the more important things -- but it says something significant.
For me, and probably most others who have dealt with weight issues, food is often treated as a kind of medication for certain feelings about life. It simply isn't healthy to eat in excess and to carry excess weight. As you age, the effects of excess weight can become physically overwhelming. I live in an area where most of the middle-aged guys carry around massive beer bellies like badges of honor. And working beside them, it is graphically clear the toll this practice takes on their bodies. I've worked with guys 10 years younger than I who could barely walk on their messed up knees from bearing all the extra weight for years.
Whether or not one finds overweight individuals physically appealing, the health and psychological issues are paramount, in my view. For the record, I think many of the "Big" girls here, including Heart and some of the other girls in this thread, are attractive, but I'm fairly sure you'd be more attractive in a slimmer form, and probably experience a better quality of life as well. I know that's the case for me. Just dropping a mere 40 pounds recently made all the difference in the world in terms of my sense of physical well-being.
RE: Fuller figured fans!
The irony is that your typical bluntness and provocativeness seems to have made you one of the more popular people here, judging by comments on another thread Who would've thought?Brownie points aside, I think it would be dishonest and patronizing for me to write something like "big is beautiful," even if some overweight ladies or men happen to be good-looking.