Let_Us Forum Posts (1,017)

RE: Would you replace the real thing with a secs toy or robot?

Only MY opinion, but ...

Mechanical Sec" (which is what you're talking about, by saying "artificial sec"), would be MORE "convenient"! But, PERSONALLY, "I" find "girls/females/women" are MUCH MORE "interesting"! If ONLY because you NEVER "KNOW" what's going to "happen"! And I, like THEY (I THINK), tend to get "bored", if all that "happens" is the same ol' "in & out", time after time.

RE: What advice would you give your 13 year old self.

DON'T grow up! It's a TRAP!

RE: Men r driven by only one thing ! - Now the question is What in ur book ?

Pat - this IS supposed to be PG13, isn't it? You're an IRREVERENT SOB! MALICIOUSLY funny!, though! Go for it!

RE: You have one question.

Let_Us: “Good enough for government work, Dee! And thanks for taking the time to answer! I WASN'T sure you would! But now, let me ask THIS. In YOUR opinion, was your upbringing TYPICAL, of girls being raised in Ireland?”

Well I wouldn't normally say that much about myself but given I started the thread I felt I should answer.
What do u mean by 'Good enough for Government work?'

I can only know what went on under our roof growing up.
But typically I find the Mother rules the roost.
The Father was the bread winner.
Mothers were the disciplinarians and the fathers were the ones u went to when the mothers said no to some request that u asked.

However I'm sure there were plenty of other types of upbringings in Ireland...but this is one I know of.

Now for my question for you if I may.

You have said time and again u are socially awkward in your answers to others.
How are u socially awkward.
Have u always been this way and does it stem from your own upbringing?

I'm not nosey but curious to know more about people.
U have the right to say No.

#1. "Good enough for government work." was in response to your question "Does that answer your question?" It's an old "Americanism", meaning that, while it MAY NOT be 100% perfect, the government inspectors will accept/pass it.

As far as being "socially awkward", I was raised in a family (mother, father, older sister, and me) that WASN'T emotionally demonstrative. We NEVER hugged, or made any type of OUTWARD SHOW of "caring". So I had no "example" of how to relate to others, emotionally. And so, I have ALWAYS felt "awkward/reluctant" about how to "interact" with other people. Male and female. ESPECIALLY with females, once I learned that there WAS "something" different, with/about females. On top of THAT, I'm an introvert. (I KNOW none of you believe that, but it's true, nonetheless.) Plus, I was brought up with "Yes, ma'am. And "No, sir." Let's just call it a "sense" of "deference" towards others. But I'm inherently "intelligent" (according to ALL sources). And, when you combine the introversion, the deference, and the intelligence, you end up with a person who tends to "think" first, before he talks. Consequently, because I go through "contortions" (in my head" before I say anything), I'm NOT particularly "good" at social "repartee". Not that I can't think of good responses, but that I DON'T say them - quickly enough. Which is PART of "good" repartee. A CONSTANT/IMMEDIATE back and forth between people. So, to keep from keeping people waiting on MY part of the conversation, I tend to tell the "truth", as "I" see it! Plus I'm blunt, to the point that some people are offended by my "comments". And THAT is NOT what most people want/are looking for, in social banter. They want quick, and "witty" (funny). NOT "truth, or reasoned answers. So I'm NOT really "good" in "social" situations/interactions. On paper, I'm fine. Because I have the "time" to "think", and formulate an ACCEPTABLE response. But, in person, combined with my introversion, I tend to be much more of an "observer " (in the background), than you see me, here, in the forums. Because of the format, here, I can take whatever time I want/need to "construct" my responses. Not that I ALWAYS take a lot of time. Here, I tend to "shoot from the hip", more than I would, in a social situation. But that's because #1. I'm NOT concerned with you reaching for your gun! Or that you're going to go burn down my house. Or ANY of those types of things. #2. Because we AREN'T in a situation where we (and others) can SEE each others responses, I'll never KNOW if I've embarrassed you, or if you are "displeased" with my response, but don't/won't show/admit it. And there are other reasons that I don't have room for, here. But, I've been this way for as long as I can remember. HOPEFULLY, THAT answers your question, for you.

But I MUST say that I find it INTERESTING that you asked, seeing that you banned me from one of your threads!

RE: Wisdom

No offense, Pedro, but I have a problem with YOUR QUESTION!

#1. You put quotation marks around "true", which "I" interpret to mean that you're placing SPECIAL emphasis on a PARTICULAR TYPE of "wisdom". But then, later you say that a person either has, or doesn't have "wisdom". I'm inclined to agree with the later, because "wisdom" ISN'T/CAN'T BE "true", or "false". "Knowledge" can be true or false, but NOT wisdom! And the two are DIFFERENT things!

#2. Knowledge is the acquisition of a bunch/lot of "facts". "Wisdom" is the knowing when and how to APPLY those facts (true), in order to get the desired result! Knowledge is a "trait". The accumulation of a bunch of facts. Wisdom is an "ability". The ABILITY to use those "facts" in order to accomplish a goal.

So, if a person accomplishes his or her goal, they are, ipso facto, "wise". And "true" has NO relationship to that "wisdom".

My thought, Perdro, is that you NEED to understand the terms you are using, before you can shape your questions well (enough to make sense/be understood)!

Just a thought. Do with it as you wish.

RE: You have one question.

Good enough for government work, Dee! And thanks for taking the time to answer! I WASN'T sure you would! But now, let me ask THIS. In YOUR opinion, was your upbringing TYPICAL, of girls being raised in Ireland?

RE: The lack of experience

chris27292729: “Nothing is missing in the story.
To my opinion her story is....
.....she couldn't reach climax with him.”






I got the impression that it was him... dunno
Anyway there are plenty of volunteers on here in case you are right... laugh

What BOTH of you are "missing", is that it the man's ONLY "romantic" relationship, was with some IMAGINARY "Perfect Princess", in his mind! And he was putting Maya in an UNTENABLE situation, with his expectations that SHE was going to "live up" to them! NO "real" person is EVER going to be THAT "perfect"! Just ISN'T going to happen! And TRYING to do so, means that Maya ALWAYS had to be "on stage"! She had to ACT, to meet this guy's expectations. She COULDN'T just "be" - herself! And NOT ONLY is that VERY "STRESSFUL", it gets old and tiring, VERY fast! She couldn't BE in love, because she was ALWAYS having to ACT like she was somebody she WASN'T! It has NOTHING to do with any PHYSICAL consummation of "love". I actually BELIEVE (and you can ASK Maya, if you'd like) that the relationship PROBABLY NEVER reached that point! Actually, Chris is right! There's NOTHING "missing" in/from her story! HE just missed the WHOLE POINT of her story!

RE: The lack of experience

Let's be FAIR, Dee! You women need to understand THAT, as much as we MEN do! Or are you going to tell me that ONLY MEN are responsible, for EVERYTHING? No offense meant, Dee, but your statement sounds KINDA like you have a particular "bias"!

RE: The lack of experience

You REALLY missed the point! Ask Maya! I SERIOUSLY DOUBT that the relationship EVER GOT that far!

RE: You have one question.

Alright, Dee. I have a question for ALL you sassy lassies from the Emerald Isle! BUT, since YOU seem to be the ONLY ONE in attendance, on THIS thread, I'll ask YOU! What is it, about you Irish girls, or about the "water" there, in Ireland, that makes you SOOOO "prepared" to "duke it out" with ANYBODY?

RE: The lack of experience

Well, Maya, I read everybody's comments, but I think they're missing your point. Your talking about the man's behavior towards you being based in the unrealistic expectations of a person with no "romantic" experience, while everybody's talking about naivety or inexperience. Two different things.

A person with no "experience" can be taught in little to no time, with a little encouragement and help from the other party. But, if a person has built up an image of what they THINK "love" SHOULD BE like. THAT unrealistic "image/expectation" might not EVER be broken down, if they've been building it up, in their mind, for too long. And EVERY partner that they "date" will NEVER live up to ALL those "expectations", no matter HOW HARD they might try. Which means that the expectant one is eventually going to be disappointed/become disillusioned. And, if they DON'T walk away from the relationship (PRIMARY possibility), then both people will (in all probability) end up sad/depressed/unhappy, in the unrewarding relationship.

My only question would be, "Did you ever TRY to talk with him, about it?" If he wasn't open to discuss his expectations/desires with/of the relationship with you, then "I" would say you did the right thing in walking away from the relationship. For several reasons. #1. Being that his unrealistic expectations of you would put you in an untenable position, vis-a-vis making him happy. Which would mean that any relationship that you finally settled into would be unrewarding/unhappy for BOTH of you. #2. Being that IF you can't have meaningful/productive communication with a person that interested in you, romantically, then it's unlikely that you'll be able to have such a relationship AFTER consummation. Which means (to ME) that you'll never have the "intimacy" that a "love" relationship SHOULD have. #3. Being that, IF you can't talk openly to/with your "partner", the trust that such communication engenders will NEVER TRULY be extent. So the relationship will be more that of "associates/acquaintances, than that of true "lovers".

But, like everything else, in life, you place your bets, and take your chances. There NEVER IS "one size fits all". Just MY opinion. In the final analysis, I think you have to look at YOUR desires/expectations, to decide what "works", for you. It NOT "his" image/expectation that's going to make YOU happy. It's whether YOURS are being met!

RE: …Teacher’s pet…

Sounds like you just did a decent job of describing the REAL world, my friend!

I know you're new at this, so don't take it too hard. But MOST of the people that read and comment on these forums AREN'T particularly interested in "political" dissertations. Mostly, they just wanna chit-chat with the "buddies" they've met, here. Practice their repartee a little. Have a laugh or 3. And waste some time that they don't have a MORE fun use for! Just an observation, pal.

RE: Random Thoughts

Put in YOUR time, and MAYBE you'll EARN a little respect, and a few resources! You're not old enough to know ANYTHING worth listening to! I KNOW, because "I" was just like YOU are, once upon a time! But, in the intervening 39 years, I've actually LEARNED a few things! As well as "matured" from my "self-interest", which YOU obviously HAVEN'T yet! YES! Young people ARE valuable! But NOT so valuable that we should take all the people that got us THIS far, and set them out on the bog, to freeze or be eaten by the ravaging hoards! Wise up, kid. You're NOT going to improve things by trading one master, for another! Certainly, we older folks MIGHT have done better. But I'll tell you what. I watched more kids with MORE "idealism" than YOU'LL EVER have, sell out to the "machine", in the 70's, 80's and 90's, than I EVER suspected would! You may have some "ideals", now, but when it comes time to feed YOUR "posterity", like those kids had to, do you REALLY think you'll do any BETTER, than THEY did! If you DO, then you don't even deserve whatever education you've received! THANKS to us NOW useless old worn out folks! Just PRAY you're smart enough to SURVIVE to such a "ripe old age"! But "I" wouldn't bet MY money on that! Even with all the help and advancements WE have given/provided YOU! Haven't you ever heard the old proverb, "Children should be seen, but NOT heard!"

Your "assertion" that ANYBODY wants to "war" on you, is the biggest rubbish on the dung heap! Sure, there ARE some people that want to reduce the planet's population by 80% But, just because we raised you, DOESN'T mean that we poor AVERAGE parents ARE those people! If you're gonna use a gun, son, learn how to aim it, first! And find the RIGHT target, BEFORE you pull the trigger!

RE: Random Thoughts

PS: Maybe YOU haven't noticed, lately, but the last time "I" as in England, it was MORE "socialist", and taxed it;'s people MORE heavily, than the US EVER has!

RE: Random Thoughts

Do you just HATE people? Or do you just LIKE to rant? As far as "twisting everything to suit your immediate selfish concerns", that sounds like a VERY APT description of what YOU just did!

RE: Random Thoughts

MY problem is that ALL you mutts on here are AT LEAST 8 hours out of sync, with ME! So what ELSE can I do? Recommendations? Anybody? And DON'T tell me to move! I happen to LIKE sunny southern California!

RE: Random Thoughts

I don't NECESSARILY agree with you, Serene! Personally, if I put the Clair de Lune" on, softly, in the background, I go out like a light! But it's a method of meditation. Giving your mind something to "focus" on, is easier that just focusing on nothing, at all. Good luck, Dee!

RE: Pride & Prejudice on cs ?

Thank you, ma'am! That's me! Poems for ALL occasions! (IF you don't mind a dose of philosophy in your "tea", that is.)

RE: My Genie in the bottles - u have 5 wishes only ?

Nah. That's Sophia Loren!

RE: Well there i was minding my own business.

See what minding your own business gets ya! Just can't even walk out of the house, these days! All the best! Maybe you'll need an OVERSIZED stocking, for Santa, this year! Happy accidental/incidental, Anna! Go for the gusto, girl!

RE: San Diego ,CA. Man ..where are you ??

I'm not in San Diego, but is Anaheim close enough? Less than 100 miles up the road.

Actually, a saw your picture as having recently been online. So I checked out your profile. Then I tried to write you a message! But NO GO! I'm 69, and you've set up a cut off at 65. But how will either of us "know", if we can't talk. Actually, I agree with you that the odds of me (or ANYONE) finding "The ONE", on this site are slim and none. But I'm not lonely or desperate (I just like meeting new people and having as much fun as the law allows), I'm just taking a flier on making a few new friends. If the UNIMAGINABLE happens, great! But I don't have any "expectations" of such. But you're within driving range (no more than 1 hour away), you're attractive (which I'm NOT), and you're female (which I'm NOT (-: ), so I thought you were worth investigating. Who knows? You'll NEVER make a goal, if you don't kick the ball now and again. So, I'm here. You CAN message me. Read my profile, and, IF you'd like to make a new friend, message me. And we can see what future awaits us.

Bye now! And here's wishing you the best of everything! Including a merry Christmas! And a safe (if not NECESSARILY sane) New year! J

PS: I'm "Let_Us"

RE: What advice would you give the youth of today?

ACTIONS speak louder than WORDS!

If you DON'T believe in ANYTHING ELSE, BELIEVE in yourself!

Believe in yourself, and you're halfway there!

Better an "OPPS!" now, than a "What if ...", later!

DON'T WAIT for the storm to stop! Learn to dance in the rain!

Don't grow up! It's a trap!

Don't let anyone take up residence in your head, UNLESS they're a CONTRIBUTING tenent!

Get off the couch! (Quit watching TV!) LIFE is NOT a spectator sport!

When you're going through hell, KEEP GOING!

It NEVER get's any easier! YOU just get BETTER!

NOTHING enhances your appearance MORE than a Smile!

The ONLY person you should be in competition with, is the YOU of YESTERDAY!

There are NO dress rehearsals for life!

Those who AREN'T busy living, ARE busy dying!

When things go wrong, DON'T go with them!

And, LAST, but NOT least, "You can GIVE without loving, but you CAN'T LOVE without giving!

If one of you mutts will explain to me how you can paste pictures/images on/in these forum pages, I could paste my images here, instead of just QUOTING this stuff! Can I get a LITTLE help, PLEASE!?

RE: Random Thoughts

Why do male African lions have manes? No other "cat" in the world does!

RE: Would you date anyone outside your comfort zone?

Apparently not amusing enough, Dee!

RE: Would you date anyone outside your comfort zone?

PLEASE define "comfort zone"? I'm trying to figure out if I have one?

RE: NK just fired a missile against Japan

GOOD post, my friend! Let me congratulate you in a job well done!

RE: NK just fired a missile against Japan

Entertaining! Huh?!

RE: NK just fired a missile against Japan

I STARTED to continue my critique of your assertions, Mr. rizlare. But decided that most of the people here would be DISinterested in reading the details of ALL your "errors of fact/assertion/analysis" and "unclear" statements. So I'm only going to add, here, that you can easily get me "off your back"! It's simple, really.

All you've got to do is "THINK"! You know! EXERCISE the grey matter. IF you don't make silly or untrue statements/assertions, and IF you can learn to analyse something BEYOND the first "convenient" stopping point, I'd NEVER have cause to comment upon what you write. (If you'll check, you'll notice that I DON'T comment on most posts!) I might even compliment you (as, if you'll bother to research my posts, you'll find I HAVE DONE to others). But you STILL resort to name calling and other such (NOT to say "childish") responses when somebody fails to accept your assertions as valid. I know that thinking can be exasperating WORK, at times. But, you'll find that it will benefit you, over the long run. So, give it a try, PLEASE?

RE: NK just fired a missile against Japan

#1. You really don't want to get me started "nit-picking" the construction of your sentence, rizlared! Because, according to standard, traditional English grammar usage, it's NOT a "correct" sentence.

But I'll let that go, for now, as being insignificant. (Although your assertion that YOU write and speak "standard" English , and "I" don't, is up for debate!)

And I read what you wrote, in your previous post, as well as this one. And I DO agree that THAT is what you wrote. But, consider this, rizlared.

#1. YOU broke the sentence down, into constituent parts (via your insertion of a comma (which properly SHOULD have been a colon [or a semi-colon, at least] or 2 separate sentences.) Therefore, it is YOUR action that causes the sentence to be read as 2 separate "assertions".
A. "The answer to the problem lies squarely in Trump's hands", and
B. "all he has to do is withdraw all USA military from the South China seas and allow Asian countries to sort
out Asian problems."
These are two INDEPENDENT thoughts/statements, rizlared! You with me so far?

As to the first, which is the one my original post dealt with, "The answer to the problem lies squarely in Trump's hands".

It APPEARS (to me), that there is MORE than one player, in this drama! To wit: Korea (BOTH halves), China, Japan, Russia, and various OTHER interested parties, INCLUDING the United States. So, by making the statement you made, are you IMPLYING that the US has dictatorial authority over ALL these other interested parties? If you say "YES!", I'll call you a liar, here and now, in front of the whole world! If you say "No!", then I'm curious about just HOW "the problem lies squarely in Trump's hands"???? It would appear (to a logical person) that there's going to have to be some sort of "agreement" worked out between SEVERAL of the parties, involved/interested. So your "assertion" that "the problems lies squarely in Trump's hands", is ABSURD, on the face of it!

And the second, that Asians can and will solve "Asian" problems, on their own, is EQUALLY absurd! Asians have been in Asian for well over 5 millennia, now. And, in the recorded history of the area, there hasn't been a period of over 50 years without some sort of conflict. Peace? In Asia? Between Asians? Sorry. NOT likely!

RE: It's on.

Ya gita gota alredi amosti kinda BE PREPARED!