Sometimes we settle for the so called "second best" because we can not recognise the "right choice", when our boxes aren't ticked we dismiss the option whatsoever...but we forget that what ticks our boxes might not be for our highest good... We also might fight against, be defensive and stubbornly cling on our "ways" because the unknown scares us to the bone... If you have never experienced unconditional love and emotional fulfilment it may frighten you to accept and be vulnerable... It's easier to run away and deny...or settle for what you are used to...
I don't believe there's such thing as choosing second best... You attract what you think you deserve... If you are in a bad relationship with yourself, why would you believe you can have better relationship with someone who is in peace with themselves, fulfilled and vibrate high...?! Trying to balance a union of two emotionally unequal individuals rarely would lead to success...
People are terribly lonely... They would grab even the tiniest cup of "love" being offered to them, disregarding the obvious signs of deceit... And it's sad...
All you mentioned above isn't control for me... I am far from demanding perfection from myself and others...but chaos isn't a way to move forward, in my opinion...
Control is also when you cling on to patterns that no longer serve you and fulfil you, but they are the "Devil you know" ... Refusing to step into the new because you may not be able to control what's coming...ignoring the possibility of something bigger and better...trying to convince yourself you are just fine with what you have already... Or creating brighter memories about situation that were painful or exhausting emotionally...just to fill the void... Sitting down and facing it all as it really was... Do we have the guts?! And I think it's one of the reasons why people choose to stay single or date casually...ONS...
I guess it isn't easy to be honest with oneself and admit we are trying to control everything because it gives us a sense of security... And I don't mean an aggressive or possessive kind of control... Do you feel better if everything is precisely controlled by you, work, emotions, relations even feelings...? Doing only things you believe are good for you, for your comfort zone...your order in live...status... Isn't is just a false sense of security after all...?!
I don't mind FB because I stay away from it most of the time... I use it for business and (hell knows why) all my clients want to befriend me on there... I only post work related stuff...when I can be bothered... I find it amazingly ridiculous to announce every move of yours on a social media...what you ate, what you cooked, when you pooped...
It gets over 40 in some areas, there have been years we experienced up to 45... I hate AC but I am glad I have it... The stupid thing about it is that I have to wrap myself in a warm blanket when it is on...
Share what you are listening to...part 100