Your okay Angel your smart and you know what is right or wrong. You made your vows, and sickness or ill health, does not change this. You keep the promises you made. This way you can always look into the mirrow. Never have to live with guilt nor regrets. Hi fiving you girl!
When I first came to CS about the middle of June, one of the first things I said was; you wish to know about someone? watch how they act and interact on the forum.
You have such a fine mind Barren. I admire it soo! Please tell, do you meditate or are an analyzer, to come to these conclusions the way you are? Your a deep thinker that is for sure. I don't care how much money someone has it does not impress me, to have insight into the psyche, sure does!
I am a free spirit like; "please don't try to fence me in" I like to find someone who is secure in himself, has no need to prove himself and has thus no need to control someone else. Someone who has no need to be right all the time, nor to win every argument. Someone who does not keep bringing up what I said, did, or whatever, ions ago. When something has been delt with, it is to be thrown in the ocean where a sign is saying; "No fishing allowed" Part of my profile.
Well that is one thing no one could ever make me do, is to grovel. This family in Belgium, (he was the director of the Agfa film company) she told me one day that when their new home was built, I would have to eat in the kitchen. I told her that at my home only the dog ate in the kitchen. She never brought that subject up again. Lol we did not even owe a dog!
Adversity builts character. It never did me any harm, sometimes you have to get through things so you can face anything, that my come at you later. The one thing I had to guard myself against is; too never allow myself too become hard or bitter. I took instead to humour. My slightly sarcastic sense of humour has kept my balance.
Yeah your sure your not Dutch? lol. Like you, I shoot right between the eyes balls. called bulls eye. Not always appreciated I suppose but one thing is sure, you know where your standing.
Someone who does not keep bringing up what I said, did, or whatever, ions ago. When something has been delt with, it is to be thrown in the ocean where a sign is saying; "No fishing allowed" (Part of my profile)
If only most people were able to do this. I never raise my voice when we have a disagreement. It does not have to end in a shouting match. That is imature. Don't be part of it.
Yes too believe the possibility that someone would try to do this to you, is not always easy to spot and when you do, you can't believe someone could be sooo mean. What did you ever do to them that you deserved this? Most likely, not a thing! Remember it is them, not you!
I was only fourteen years old when we met so what did I know. My dad taught his kids preached it so often; "Think further than your nose is long" Combine this with having an analyzing mind, it helped to come to conclusions.
Well if it can't be worse it must be better. So this date must be better. Love motor cycle rides. Have a great time tomorrow and we would like a full report.
You first have to be able to recognize it that is is being done to you. My first tried this game. He had low self esteem so..... Try to dump it on somone else.
Yes THAT I did too for awhile. Low self esteem then but not today. Having lived twenty years on my own, 11 years in California. I had to become assertive.
Some people are experts in laying the guilt on the other person. Unless your standing strong in your shoes you may believe them. I have a lot of common sense, for me to fall for this, you have to get up real early.
It was in the 60-70th soo a very long time ago. Never had to assert myself again like that. Never for some reason met another jerk. In the twenty years alone between husbands went out plenty. Very naive for sure and it amazes me today, that I never was taken for a ride by some slick operator.
You know the guy that wines and dines you in the most expensive places, buys you flowers, jewelry etc. All payed for with other victims money.
Of course this does not last too long and soon this scammer needs your money for what ever reason.
Never worry about me I can be a tiger in the tank. No I really am peace loving but this guy made me soo angry because he had fooled me the whole evening.
The first time my husband hit me it was also the last. He never tast me again. Ugly in hindsight but I remember charging at him like a little bull.
Here is my take on going to a coffee place for the first meeting. You may even bring a girlfriend sitting three tables away. You could meet like this 6 times and the 7th, now meeting at home? he could still turn out to be a jerk.
What would/could he do in a coffee shop anyway. Alcoholics have been known to hide it for a year. Your date knows he on probation those first times, so will be showing his good side.
Met a guy working at my landladies home, we went for a dance. Perfect gentleman, should have made me a bit suspicsious? never held me too close etc. Driving home, he asked would I like to see where he worked. Sure! Next thing I am I find myself in a back alley. The "gentleman" now turns and start to paw me. It made me so angry I let him have it both barrels. He was soo shocked and surprised he let me go.
I would think I was a good meeting turning into a relationship even though it did not last forever. My last one was a year. We are still friends. He moved so is it not so akward this way
hollandgirl Forum Posts (4,464)
Where do you go, like to go on a first date?......................
You are right but not all get the chance. My age is against me,except for scammers.
I have had at least 4 disappointment myself so far.
So I say;
NEXT!