I saw that. I was impressed with her car. I probably got her mixed up with Cleopatra Jones, lol. Wasn't that Catherine in the movie with Conan the Barbarian?
Since the President's wife is called the First Lady how many ladies do you think the President should be able to have and should they be numbered? Should Monika Lewinsky be thought of as the Second Lady? What First Lady or woman in office impessed you the most and Queens can be included in history? I would have to choose Queen Elisabeth because she didn't get married but courted. I thought Margaret Thatcher was cool. I also was impressed with Martha Washington's five pointed star. I thought she made a good flag even though George wanted a six pointed star.
Excellent advice. Friendship can be downrated. I have been totally freaked out by how much I have learned through friendship. I personally like friendship a whole lot better now than anything. Have you ever noticed that you can keep a friendship going but at the time it turns into a relationship the odds of keeping the friendship alive is lower than when it was just a friendship? Like 'just a friendship'. I personally would rather have a great friendship than a good relationship. I like the idea that I don't have to give up my friends to keep a relationship. Once you get into a relationship you have to deal with jealousy.
I think there is a valid fear of committment because there is the fear that once you have made the committment that then they will throw away the key and you both might be locked up and have to either learn from each other or be stuck with each other. The possibilty exist that the two of you might not be right for each other. 'Just zign ze paper old man.' Cheech and Chong
I think if a woman could get a job in maintenance that it could help a relationship especially if she is dating a maintenance man. They could both discuss premaintenance and maintenance and work on problems together from a maintenance point of view.
So true on first sentence. New possibilities for future relationships because we have dealt with past ones. Yes on second one because if we don't deal with it then it stays with us. Amends and giving our side of the story which aids in communication. Not so much as to rationalize or justify but just the simple truth. True on third one because we carry it with us and sometimes take it out on an innocent party. History repeats itself because we never dealt with it to begin with. It can actually eat your lunch because you beat yourself over the head with it instead of just accepting the truth. Once you have dealt with it you can release it where it has no more control over you. Wow, that was an amazing insight, thanks.
I liked Top Cat. He was a cartoon character with a top hat. I also like that show THE CAT. Thomas Herbert Edward Cat. That was his name. Cats have been know to be familiars. My favorite cartoon cat growing up was Felix the cat.
I like that line from Urban Cowboy. "Well that just depends on what you think a cowboy is. " I like the bumper sticker that says, "I just found the hat." It maybe that some women liked lassoed, lol.
Thanks for sharing that, Joanie. I have had to do some acceptance and probably like you and others some of it wasn't easy or something that I looked forward to.
I used to have trouble with that one and I am glad you brought that one up. Along with that is when people say well you should have known or why don't you know. If you don't know then you just don't know. I always thought that I should have an answer. I found that one can actually save a person time by saying you don't know because then the person asking can move on to someone who does know. You can help someone by saying you don't know.
I am just a happy quirk. I am glad I have my work. Everything is just fine. I haven't lost my mind. The deadness is cut out. Health has come about. The sutures still itch. But is just the stitch. The emptiness is filled. The rage has been stilled. There is light to guide. I have no reason to hide. I have love deep inside. I hold my head in pride. The mistakes are past. The teeth marks last. I feel like I am OK. I am on my life's way. I don't feel like a jerk. I am just a happy quirk.
Yeah it can be fun. At my NA this couple have been together for a very long time. It is cool to watch them carry on. I first copped an attitude because they had each other but dealt with it. My higher power filled the emptiness in me. Damn did I need that bad. That gave me a sense of balance. It helped to deal with envy and selfishness. I feel like a whole person again since I have got some relief from the intense grieving. The meetings help me from isolating and the insanity. It gives me self worth; hightens my self esteem; gives me purpose; lets me share my strength, experience and hope and helps me to remember but for the grace of God there goes I.
I hear that. I have had to eat so much humble pie but am acquiring a taste for it, lol. Self respect is a good thing. That is one reason I got into cleaning house this last week. I got tired of looking at the mess, lol. I knew if I didn't clean it up that it would stay that way.
The alanons are like angels at our meetings. :) We get to see the other side of the story. Especially the ones still married when at the open meetings. We argue over who is sicker, lol. I have faced that empty nest thing with being a widower. I am learning how to live all over again, lol. I went to church this last week. They keep asking me to sing. I think I sound like a frog croaking but I guess they like frogs, lol. It does give a place to go to keep from isolating so bad. My one friend at the meeting invited me to prison to speak. At another meeting they are trying to get me to be a group service representative. I have been holding back but do like volunteer work. I used to cop an attitude where if I wasn't getting paid for it that it must not be important, lol. But then sometimes I think I can be my own worst enemy, lol.
How true and beautifully stated. I blamed others in the past and waited for others to make me happy. Like you say happiness can come from within. I blamed my parents, then my surroundings, then my circumstances, then my coworkers and felt victimized. Poor me is all I could think of, lol.
Something that has become important to me lately is balance. I get help from my male and female friends. I am not a saint or a demon, either. I am not a god or an insignifacant bug. I am just a happy quirk, lol. This is just one of the groups that I feel I belong to. I got a whole lot of house cleaning this last week and for once I can be proud of my happy home. I know from being involved with the Femnists in Wichita, Kansas who had to struggle to have balance with their careers and home life that balance is an important thing. One of my ex's complaint was that there was many times that I was not there as a father and as a husband. I got to be at my daughter's graduation sitting with my ex and ex mother-in-law at the request of my daughter. It wasn't that comfortable for me but I figured if they could stand me that I could stand them for a little while, lol. My ex mother-in-law and ex both thanked me for being there. I really didn't think I had the balls to do it but I did, lol. I have found that it isn't all about me lately. I know from prior relationships that just being there can comfort myself and others even if no words are said. I got to be there for my cousin this last week to take him to jail so that he could bond his room mate out of jail. I really just wanted to go to my meeting but it didn't work out that way, lol. I got to watch this little boy so that he didn't run out in the road while his mother was talking to some one at the meeting. I was wondering if others have found the need for balance in their lives.
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Oh, ok. I watched Zorro and can place the lady you were talking about. She was the one who was supposed to be married to Zorro, right?