I agree with that. I think the only real problem is communication. By that I think both should communicate. If you both can't communicate then you both have a serious problem.
We had absolutely no communication. She kept talking but I quit talking altogether. I completely shutdown. I can't remember ever winning an argument with her and that was the only way we could communicate. She was usually right. That pissed me off, lol. She knew me better than I knew me, lol. I had faults and she knew them. She never admitted she ever had faults. It is hard to live with a perfect person when you are human, lol.
I have been there. We came both came to the conclusion that we lived in different worlds. I wanted to go to college and she said I should wait till the kids were all grown. I did not want to wait. I had became distant from the family. She wanted to do things as a family. We disagreed on what those things should be. We had a different set of friends and we both got further away from each other. In the end we were like total strangers living as room mates in the same house.
One can decieve one's self, another or be decieved. Sometimes one can merely not have all the facts. One's view on things, too, can change. To be able to decieve and get by without being detected, maybe?
I think overcoming irrational fears is good. I think fear can be rational or irrational. I also believe that there is a calculated risk factor. One needs to consider what possibly could go wrong as well as what possibly could go right. Fear of the unknown has plagued mankind since the dawn of time. Knowledge can reduce some fears. For example, a rational fear is jumping out of an air plane or sky diving. However a person could check their gear to make sure it functions as it should. The parachute opens up like it should or the hang glider is in good condition. That would take care of the irrational fear. One then is left with a calculated risk. The natural thrill of a rational fear then could be enjoyed. Fear can be healthy or unhealthy. The more knowledge can compensate for the unknown fear which can be attributed to ignorance. The more one knows before going into a relationship the less fear. The fear factor needs to be known with all of its variables, quirks and probable irrationalities. Still one must face the fears that can be an obstacle to one's happiness before just leaping off a cliff and just saying catch me if you can here I am.
My ex-mother-in-law was the closest friend I had in the world. She said I was the son she never had. Then I married her daughter. I would say to her that she loved her daughter more than her son because she would take up for her natural daughter but not her adopted son. My feelings and I know it doesn't make sense, lol.
I am glad you replied, Laurie. I was trying to express the different meanings of the word labor. A woman can go into labor to have a child and how can that be a happy labor day except when the child comes out then the labor is over. I also wanted to express how in the past Labor day was a day mostly for men because women stayed home. But a lot of women do now work so it can be a day for women to celebrate. Also the the housewife or homemaker does labor to keep the house clean so it is even a holiday for her, too, when you think about it. And the known meaning for people with careers to have a holiday to celebrate all the hard work that people do to keep the families with an income. Honest hard working folks just trying to survive in an ever changing workplace environment where one does not know if they could get laid off tomorrow. And then there is the labor of volunteers who aren't paid in a monetary since of the word but they, too, labor. Or how about the missionaries who go to foreign countries. Or how about those who still have to labor even on the designated day to celebrate by taking the day off. I know, why can't I just keep things simple, lol?
Aw, yes, it is a great adventure and one wonders if Alice, the small girl is the only sane one of the bunch. She tries to make sense of the madness and is given more madness as an answer, lol. I fell in love with the whole book. I always wondered about Alice's sister. Alice makes reference to her in the beginning but then we never find out more about her. The book is good and the animated movie really brings out the smile after the chesire cat is gone.
Tortoise have been known to live longer than rabbits. It could be that the rabbit could be overconfident and not see the tortoise as a threat. Since the tortoise may be older it may be wiser.
I agree wholeheartedly. One can outsmart one's self like with the tortoise and the rabbit. The rabbit is faster but the tortoise could be more determined. The rabbit could tire out at a fast pace where the tortoise keeps trudging on. It is good for one to pace themselves. One can overlook even simple things while concentrating on the complicated issues.
I think the understanding part can be modified. Iniatially we have a fox chasing a rabbit. The rabbit usually knows where his hole or home is. Even though he is in fear and acting off of survival instinct he could possibly know the terrain better than the fox. The fox being a predator and by the very nature of his name smart is using an understanding, too. According to the Zen statement given in the beginning the fox is being outfoxed by the rabbit. Maybe we don't give the rabbit enough credit and think of the rabbit as an less intelligent animal.
I think if one wants something bad enough one will go after it no matters what the consequences are however maturity may warrant one to accept one's fate by not rocking the boat. Immaturity has been attributed to heroes and it is true the valiant dies but once but isn't dying once enough to discourage one from overcoming the overwhelming odds?
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RE: MEN!!!!!
I think both need that extra TLC.