No, we are talking at complete cross-purposes. Don't construe my comments to be criticism. I'm not commenting on the plausibility of meeting someone on here. You are. Your comments are focused on the will to meet. That is not what I am talking about. What I am describing is a situation where both parties know in their hearts that meeting is out of the question, for reasons other than simply the logistics of air travel, time or money. But in spite of that, they dance the ritual of courtship and romance, knowing that neither one has the wherewithall to consummate the relationship. And they never discuss either, the hurdles ahead, or the possibility of meeting. Call it a game, but one that means the world to someone. It is sincere, respectful, devoted, but hopeless, in a way. Do you see?
You're thinking in the box. Expand it a little. There are many variations on the theme. Let's take for instance, a bed-ridden women, or a man with terminal cancer...or a woman in a marriage that is irreconcileably broken down...but she must stay for the kids, or whatever....there are lots of possible situations.
Kinda....from what I see, it always takes one to start. Watch out for people who stalk others, and are the first to chip in with a nasty, derogatory comment. Those are the bad eggs.
Well, what I mean is, sometimes we know that we will never meet this person, but we continue with an online romance, pretending that someday you will. It is a charade that two play, because to believe in a fantasy sometimes is easier than to live with reality.
I am on another dating site. There are a few women who write me and send me flowers regularly (basically everyday). I know they have no intention of ever meeting me. But they want the contact, and they appreciate and desire the flattery and flowers from me. It's almost like a ritual. I have come to the conclusion that a lot of us have online relationships that will never be consummated, but we keep them in our hearts, even though we know that anything more is simply impossible for reasons of geography, other relationships, situation, health, etc...In other words, we need the flame of hope inside us, even if it is we ourselves who we are fooling.
Exactly....I'd do it in slow-motion, with back-lighting, and animated autumn leaves flying in the wind....geez, it would be gorgeous....leaves, naked serbian torsos, and heaving bosoms....bloody marvellous.
I see a magical CS soap opera developing here....Solstice and the Serbian Toy-Boy...this could be good. Please install webcams, we want to see you both on Skype when you meet in Benidorm...
There are people on here, of both sides of the gender divide, who are married, or in a LTR, but still have a profile on a dating site. Of course, they present themselves as being single and looking. Essentially, these people are what I call The Shoppers. They are looking around to see if something better comes up. In which case they will exit their existing relationship. This includes those types who cannot be alone, and will only exit a relationship when they have another one to jump into. Then there are the Players. They are looking for a piece of action "on the side". Dating sites offer Players a perfect environment to do their window shopping. They lead double lives. How do you feel about these two types of members. They are among us.
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Hope dies last....