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I wrote and posted the following piece on Poetry Corner on Jan 7, 2016:

Love Is A Decision
(Author: socrates44)

Love is not based on a feeling only
There must also be a clear decision
Passionate feelings may die off early
Showing it was just infatuation

One should not need another as a crutch
But be able to stand on one's feet
This will allow each other space as such
And enrichen the sharing when both meet

A love relationship has its demands
It does not ensure smooth sailing always
Be mindful of this in each circumstance
And it will help you survive the rough days

The one that you love should be your best friend
Someone with whom you can share everything
A person upon whom you can depend
In situations that can be trying

As time passes, both of you will change
For change is inevitable in life
Do not consider this as something strange
Learn to adjust and avoid any strife

True love is the most precious emotion
That a person can engage in sharing
It fills the heart with blissful elation
Giving one's life a rich sense of meaning
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Posted: Jan 7, 2016

About this poem:

"Love is a decision, it is a judgement, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgement and decision."

- Erich Fromm - (The Art of Loving)


"But let there be spaces in your togetherness. And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another, but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.

And stand together yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow."

Kahlil Gibran – (The Prophet)

I received an email from a lad and saying i shouldn't show off my body to everybody specially on here.im not suit for filthy old man to flaunt myself here as im sexy and young .and i should cover up my body and reserve for the right man.im not Muslim but just here in his country for work
Is there any age limit to join this dating site?
Im not looking away . i just want to have friends..

Seems like time is going faster an faster, been almost 3 years since my last post here.
I see a lot of new faces, some of the old buggers aswell.
Anyways, I've met my girl here december 2012, married her a few years later and she moved from Vietnam to belgium shortly after.
Next month my sweet wife will graduate here as a nurse, she already has a job waiting for her in the old folks home just around the corner. She has worked so hard to learn the language and I'm so proud of her.
We are still crazy about eachother and keep going strong. After she starts working we plan on starting a family, I really look forward to that. So that will be most likely the next time i'll drop in to leave a message.
Stay safe, take care of eachother. Know that Jenny and I are forever grateful to cs and all of you for having these blogs where we met. Don't give up hope. Someone is out there.

Last night, I had a few webpages opened on my browser that I wanted to research in the morning. I put the computer to sleep instead of shutting down like usual. The wake sequence didn't work and I was forced to completely reboot and wait for Windows to do some recovery diagnostics.
The good thing is, I was able to recover the browser pages. After, I cleared the cache file and cookies and restart the browser. Coming to Connecting Singles and checking the new member list (before logging in) showed all new members and not only women as my normal default.

Each page shows 48 new members and there weren't many women joining.
45 men, 3 women on the first page.
44 men, 4 women on the second page.
44 men, 4 women on the third page.

It was night time in North America and I expected to see Europeans joining... that wasn't the case. Guys from Algeria, Egypt, Tunisia, Morocco, United Arab Emirates, Iraq, Kuwait were the majority of new members.

I only checked the first 3 pages, but if this statistic for the most recent 500 to 600 members is the trend, something isn't right.

1 woman for every 12 men are joining.

It wasn't long ago I blogged 'they don't return' in that, scanning the list of new women joining CS drops off sharply after the 2nd page. They come, they look around, they disappear.

Can you formulate what is happening long-term... ?

My thought is:
Unless CS can advertise in places that will bring men and a lot more women from Europe, North America, South America, Australia and Asia, their chances of survival aren't real good.

LITERALLY!






PRAYERS TO A FRIEND.

You've been ghosted when the person who was messaging / emailing / texting so often suddenly goes quiet. Whoosh. Gone. No explanation, not a word, no message, no email. Could be dead. Could be bored. Could have lost their cellphone privileges.



You've been benched when they vanish to pursue other interests, then return all smiles

Hard to know whether you've been ghosted or benched at the time Also hard to know how to react when the ghost reappears as though there had never been a benching. If you like them, I mean.

Kick em inna teeth or act as if you never noticed they'd vanished ...

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after so many emails...and ...more chatting

finally he said.....we need to meet and speak
some where and spend few days....where no one gives interruption
this will be after few weeks....of course lot of
time is there....in the meantime....thinking how
do i impress him?
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every little bit helps

as they say every bit helps....thanking you all
in advance for your beautiful comments......I DONT MIND.... if you are funny sometimes.....

dating....thats what he said......

LOTS OF THANKS

Chances are!!! you've probably heard about Tinder, Ok Cupid, Happn, etc etc. Those mobile dating app that become so huge it has changed the way traditional online dating sites approach like C.S.

Pretty much everyone who is single seems to use it, and even a few people who are not. While we're sure the intentions of the developers were noble, these app started off as something of a fast hook-up network, but when the wider public caught wind of how fast, easy, and unobtrusive it is to use for just meeting new people generally, it changed into something that spans the whole range; from quick trists to proper relationships.

Have you tried some of these app? How was your experience? Do you still believed C.S is the best option to get a date?

So I met a guy via internet dating ~ a pilot. yep I know the statistics. Couldn't wait to meet me...messaged every day and actually still does returning to Australia. He has been away a year working in a muslim country. Anywayz everytime I kinda hint at a date he apparently is still suffering jet lag and culture shock. I stopped messaging and he rang and rang quite offended saying he is just having his breather. Asked without even considering my life yesterday hey babe shall I buy wine and drop over. I refused as I was actually busy. He was very offended. WTF is my brain not wired properly.