Can happiness ever be found? ( Archived) (106)

This may sound crazy to all of you - but it would be nice to have someone to love you and care about you - that's what would make me happy.

The first rule of being desperate and lonely is to hide that you are desperate and lonely. Women are much at better doing this because women are more concerned about what others think - it's a product of her inherent narcissism and vanity - yet they are right to veil it as it is unattractive.

However, and make no mistake, for every man as sad and lonely as you are there is a woman just the same.

In fact you can trap a woman on this truth. In one breath a woman will often say that she's strong, independent and to be taken as she is, but in the next breath she will make it apparently clear that she knows all about pretense and keeping up appearances.

Anyway, your job is not to call a woman out on this logical contradiction. Calling out a woman achieves nothing. The lesson to be learned is that a woman says is to be taken with a ladle's worth of salt.

The illusion that someone else is responsible for your happiness leads to the victim mindset, which in turn leads to perpetual unhappiness. Ending your dependance on the external, stimulating your feelings of happiness on the internal, would expose the myth that happiness is dependent on others....or even that happiness is a dependency, although a shift in consciousness and behaviour is needed to realise this.

Too much self-satisfaction is a sign of smug narcissism. Although I am wondering if you meditate? Meditation is a way to be narcissistic without hurting anybody. Your view is victimless that much is true, but you're kidding yourself if you don't think that it's egotistical. You're almost as smug as I am.

Anyway, asociality when we are by nature social beings is a triumph of the ego in my opinion. Loneliness makes people unhappy for a reason and that's why we come together to create cultures and civilisations. It's perfectly normal and healthy to want to belong. Losing this longing for union is a sign that your society and it people are in decay, an example is how we almost lost Scotland last week because Britain is a fractured joke upon its former self.

Also, what about your dog? You love that dog external to you. You seem very reliant upon man's best friend considering that you are supposed to be self-satisfied.

Well, with the way things are happening for me (which is absolutely nothing......) - i might as well open up a wound and throw salt on it. i appreciate your words, but no one has a full understanding of how i actually feel.

Self satisfaction, or satisfaction with the 'self' is really a contradiction in terms, as once the self is realised, judgement of the self is not possible. Only ego can judge it's own creation or interpretation of the self, which we do all the time, often with negative results. Of course without true self searching,(the purpose of meditation,) the ego will continue to rule the roost, maintain it's autonomy, and in turn force us to avoid the contentment that lies within us all, but paradoxically cannot be found anywhere else but within.