Well... I seldom forget. But it happens that I forgive. And it's a relief, when you still remember the damage done, but the memory doesn't hurt. The sense of freedom :)
By the way, if I forgot, then the thing doesn't matter anymore. Again: the sense of freedom :)
Well... I don't know what world you exist in, in my - a large part of Ukraine was bombed. Its infrastructure was destroyed. Ca 12 ml people (of 44 ml) had to emigrate. After 600 days of "hot" stage of war the parity in artillery shots was reached. (Until that Russia spent 60000 art shots to 5000 Ukr - quite a "level playing field")
Anyway, my understanding is: you are not interested in the biggest war in Europe in the 21:st century. Perhaps, you are not European, so why would you. You are interested in Hamas killing Jews. And the Jews don't want to be killed. They want to live and keep their state. I totally support that sentiment.
There's a Russian joke on the subject: on the odd days I'm an academician, on the even days I herd the reindeer. Nonetheless, they are journalists when it suits them. They are fighters when it suits them. Make your choice.
I am not a psychotherapist and cannot have any kind of opinion on the subject. But if you think that it causes you problems, then I wish you to overcome it.
Well... if you realise that your partner / spouse would like some kind of reassurance of your feelings to them, it doesn't have to be the word "love", though nothing wrong with it if you love them. You can show affection in some other, non-verbal, way: a hug, a stroke, a kiss... something, that feels right for both of you.
Doing some of their part of house chores now and then is another way to show you care.
My best - then - friend told me at the time of my divorce: get married / get a lover at once or you'll remain single. (Because being single for a woman is the best option ever.) I didn't listen to her. I thought that before involving in a relationship, I'd enjoy being single for a little more. And more. And more... until being single became my philosophy.
It's so convenient. It's so satisfying. It's so me.
It is very single. Yes. It is also very independent :)
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Mercy or justice
Well... I seldom forget. But it happens that I forgive. And it's a relief, when you still remember the damage done, but the memory doesn't hurt. The sense of freedom :)By the way, if I forgot, then the thing doesn't matter anymore. Again: the sense of freedom :)