I Give Up. My Giant Is Sooo Stubborn!
I posted a blog about comments my family gave me when I sent a picture of me and my Giant to our family (correction: my family) WA Group. I decided to erase that blog although I got one interesting comment that deserved my response."Where is your Hijab, Kal?"
Yes, that's the comment I got from my family on WA.
You see, my family do not worry about me talking to a stranger from far away somewhere. They only worry about something about me will change. I find it a normal reaction when your loved one has relationships with someone who is from a completely different world. But that made me think. Maybe.. just maybe, my Giant's family have such worries too. They may worry about something about him will change.
So this morning, my time, my Giant and I spent more than 6 hours on skype video call. Ofcourse not 6 hours spent on our discussion as we watched 2 movies in between..
Anyway, I asked him to think over and over again about our relationship. I asked him not to waste his thousands dollars on flight tickets to meet me. Although I know he has huge amount of money, not to mention the huge amount he and his siblings inherited from his belated Dad. Even first class plane tickets would be nothing for him.
But as much as I want to be with him, I don't want him to face problems from his family and friends because he chooses me, an Indonesian Muslim woman, to spend the rest of his life with.
I reminded him that my belief and his are different. When it crashes it can create a conflict.. not only with him but also with his family and friends. I don't want him to be in a confusing position when the conflict takes place between me and his family, his two sons especially.
"How tolerant are you? How ready are you? What will you feel? How will you deal with issues?" I asked him those amongst other questions.
We discussed things from different point of view.. from many different conflict possibilities, including rule A to Z in my belief and rule A to Z in his belief..
However from whatever perspective I brought up, he ended up saying "Kal, you don't need to worry!"
I GIVE UP!
Maybe me and him spending life together with all our differences will not be as bad as I thought after all..
Comments (27)
I can speak with some authority on the subject.
"Stubborn" is one of the things we do Best ... Get used to it.
I'm not that tall...
Soo good for ya....
"Stubborn" is one of the things we do Best ... Get used to it.
"our family WA Group" who is that,
your family or his family and what country is that?
I'm not that tall...
Soo good for ya....
How tall are you by the way?
How tall are you by the way?
Sorry for being honest...
U not my type...
"our family WA Group" who is that,
your family or his family and what country is that?
It's the WhatsApp group consisting me and my siblings only.
What country?
I am not sure I get what question you tried to ask me.
Sorry for being honest...
U not my type...
But why do I sense an upset feeling here?
I suppose he is in the United States of America.
Just a random guess.
I think your Giant is correct; there is no problem,
so move ahead with him is my advice.
And let him pay his own flight, he don't mind.
Probably just waiting for the pandemic to lift like the rest of us.
I suppose he is in the United States of America.
Just a random guess.
I think your Giant is correct; there is no problem,
so move ahead with him is my advice.
And let him pay his own flight, he don't mind.
Probably just waiting for the pandemic to lift like the rest of us.
Americans have the worst views on Muslims. That's what I knew. One blogger here on CS even said "Kill all Muslims!"
But this American Giant of mine is quite different. He doesn't paint Muslims with the same brush and he is sooooo adorable.
Yes, because of his stubbornness I have no other choice but wait for his coming and make his stay worthwhile.
I will still wait for him even if the pandemic last longer..
Thank you, GrandS!
Now would you excuse me as I gotta go. I promised my Giant to give him a wake up call at 8:30 AM his time.
Now would you excuse me as I gotta go. I promised my Giant to give him a wake up call at 8:30 AM his time.
I told my Giant about your comment. He said: "That's nice, thank you!"
I gave him the wake up call as I didn't want him to get up late. He has to be at his church on time.
So I can only get back here after I gave him biiig kisses..
PS
Have you heard anything from AngelP?
I used to talk to her over the phone. But I lost her number.
Hope she is well.
But why do I sense an upset feeling here?
just like everybody else perhaps?
just like everybody else perhaps?
No way, Jose!
Who meee? spidy senses?
No way, Jose!
U know radioactive ....
U know radioactive ....
One of the movies my Giant and I watched was "Copenhagen".
One of the movies my Giant and I watched was "Copenhagen".
I better go before I change into a country pumpkin.
Thanks everyone for reading and commenting.
May you all enjoy your moment to the fullest, while you still can.
unfortunately world wide italians are know like Mafioso...
I do not paint anybody with the same brush either,as long the Muslim in my country respect me and the religion in my country,,,and skip the BS i am minority so i have more rights than italians...
There isn't any minority...
There is common sense and good manners,give and get respect..
Unfortunately good chunk of muslims in italy Pretend respect..
Pretending ain't the way to go specially if u r a guest in a country....
At all...
@teddyKaz
I don't know how you two guys could manage to slide in after I blocked my Blog from comment. You guys rock!!
Anyway, I will use my liliputian brain to discuss the issue you both brought up, with my Giant only. All I can say here is that I am glad my Giant doesn't paint all Muslims with the same brush.
Have a good day/evening/night, everyone!