FRIENDSHIP

What is friendship? Is it any of the following:-

Prepared to help in any situation
Patient
Never gives up on you
Appreciates you and your personality
Doesn't compare you to other people
Never insults you
Recognises your qualities
Realises that no one is perfect
Doesn't categorise you as specific type
Does not judge you but tactfully indicates the possible choices you can make and their consequences.
Realises they don't completely know you

These are some qualities I think should exist, but what do you think?
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Yes and more really. Friendship is always a two ways street. Your expectations are sometimes different from who the other person is in terms of culture, beliefs and upbringing.

I think, friendship can sometimes as complicated as in a romantic relationship. But positive characteristics provide a very strong foundation of friendship. Going through a lot of ups and downs, can also enhance the relationship that are being built specially when it's in new. Chemistry to me supports that foundation being laid out. Alike minds, kindness, compassion and willingness to listen are important ingredients in building a good friendship.
Happiness and joy are the end result of a good friendship. Life is way too boring without friends.
Having said that there are many kinds of friends. Only you would really know and determine what kind of friendship you're building up with someone.

It's not easy for me to become a friend of anyone. I mean it in a real sense. I'm 70 years old and I have four of them. 55, 45, 30 and 20 years with each of them. True and real friends.

Good luck Crown. My sincere wishes for you if you're into building one.

Not easy, it takes a lot of work, commitment and sincerity to build a good friendship.handshake
Except u n me lindsy, we're insta-friends! purple heart kaboom it said.

Cowboy hat, yes. Nice list there. I think I still have friends who do
not live up to all of that but.. maybe one day? handshake
Friendship is normally a passing phase and like with most phases....
people out grow them.
Indeed Grand, it's kind of like a natural tendency, too. No rationalizing, no justifying, just float with the wind. It's like a ride and be grateful when it doesn't get bumpy. hug
That's very true, too Ms. Witch. We change and if course our perspectives and goals affect all our moods. bouquet
Celtic .....
You're a great advert for friendship.
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Do you discourage friendship? Get what you want then get out.
dunno confused
There's nothing like the friends from childhood particularly when that old friend takes 19 stab wounds going toe to toe with a knife-wielding martial arts expert in the midst of a psychotic episode - to save a friend. A lot of things make a friendship but nothing beats dying like Jesus and going on to tell everyone you can what a beautiful man they were.
Oh now that's a supreme kind of friendship Obs.
friendship is a relationship between people with no complaints, no conditions, no agreement. It is unofficial, unregistered relationship. In a document form, it may not have found a place in the column of relation, but still it is strong and effective.
Friendship is so effective that good company in younger age can make you a good person and bad company can make you a bad person.

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When the friendship between husband and wife is stronger than love, then their married life lasts for a long time. If friendship is added to all family relation, then every relation becomes strong and durable.

Just add friendship to the relation which you want to make strong and lasting. because friendship acts as a booster and protector in every relation.
I think many people say they are friends, but in practice they are self interested and when their lifestyle is threatened, they soon find ways to disappear. Sad but in reality that's what can happen.
The truth is that hardly any of the qualities I have listed would be possessed by an individual. People have a survival instinct similar to the animal world. Safety in numbers. Without other people around, many individuals would find life too much of a challenge. Who could they offload any burden to. How could they cope on their own. Who could they seek advice from. How could they cope with others who had a predatory nature. When a lion makes a kill, other creatures circle to join in if they can, like hyenas do, followed by vultures.
It's a bit like this site. There are predators here and others who like to join in when they can.
But the good that comes out of it is that it identifies the people who would make the worst friends.
Someone here says you grow out of friendships? I have very few - one hand is enough. But in fact I find you grow into them and they are life-long, they are truly cherished.
FF .... Good for you.
One thing of course to consider is that many people seek friendship through their religion and by communicating with their chosen deity. All the trials of life and the hopes an individual has are channelled to this extra terrestrial entity. No need for human consultation.
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Decent L........How do you describe friendship and isn't it just a relationship solely to gain something for oneself, and not really to benefit the other person?
True.... thumbs up
hm.... yes.... comfort hug
But then sometimes a connection can be made regardless of distance and an appreciation and understanding can develop. Can telepathy travel through space and create a friendship and value of individuals in conjunction with the written word? I think somehow it can. In fact it does.
Perhaps if Einstein was around he would understand and explain.
They are called 'Fair Weather Friends' . Some people prefer them because there are no obligations involved.
Friendships are forged usually when respect for the other is born out of achieving similar goals under pressure - like in a sports team.
There are friends and there is a close friend - Close friends can be a tad possessive, which can be a bit suffocating and restictive of you having other friends.
Genuine friends allow you freedom of movement to do what you want to, but will qickly be there for you if needed.

cheers Dennis handshake
Demac......I think a true friend realises any wrong behaviour and if they are genuine, makes sure that it is known and identified and that it is conveyed to the intended person.
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That is a good goal but the other is stubborn and unforgiving and refuses to look at the other person as a genuine friend. Now what?

I said it and remain so in my position. It's a two way journey. Nothing is more enduring than riding the bumps of imperfections. If only to establish a true understanding of what truly a friendship is.

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